Ok great, but ....Availabilty

[Anonymous]

I just found this site a few days ago and have since read several articles and have in fact seen quite a bit that I can relate to and immediately tie to failure.

One outstanding problem though, is that, most of these articles confess that you will get rejected, that you must move to the next one, and focus on numbers. Well, what if, there just aren't any to move on to?

Let's take the article about picking up at bars and nightclubs. It starts by telling you to spot a girl by herself whom is displaying a medium amount of energy, etc. To find a girl by herself in my city is unheard of! My friends and I know full well, that you in fact have 20 seconds to approach a girl before a half circle of other sex starved wolves form around her. What then?

I cannot be effortless, just making eye contact, smiling, and making my way around the room slowly, by the time I get there she is actively fending off 10 other penises swatting her in the face. This is the scenario each and every night at each and every venue in my city. Women are super defensive here and complain continuously about the male attention. They have no idea how lucky they are! I couldn't imagine actually complaining about receiving attention!!!

I've been with over 250 women when I was 20 until I hit 30. Now I am 37 and lucky if I am getting 1 per year. I am sure I've changed, my confidence is down, I am bitter as all heck, I am starving, but with the IT boom, surely we cannot deny that there are just too many men here. I formed a theory that any location with jobs = more money and less women, while areas with less jobs = more women and less money.

I've verified my beliefs and looked at the census data for Austin TX in 2013 and it reports 130 single men to every 100 single women. Another report said that there are more than 200,000 more single men in the city than single women. I've taken headcounts when I go out and usually find something in the area of 15W/45M. Women are not horny here, expecting them to appreciate a man is like expecting a Katrina victim to appreciate rain.

How does one adapt to this? How can I still maintain that "Meh. You're alright I guess." attitude when the availability of single women is so low?

I am actively seeking to move, but until then...

 

[Franco]

Hey Fleshbits,

When guys tell me they live in areas where the guys vastly outnumber the women, the best I advice I can actually give them to is to move to a new location.

But as we all well know, life isn't completely fair, and sometimes your career takes you to places that aren't always the best for meeting the opposite gender. With that being said, I think there is an article you should check out that will give you some insight on how you can pick up women in areas where bars and clubs are dominated primarily by men:

Using Day Game to Get Girls: 14 Myths Debunked

Day game is a great way to avoid hitting on beautiful women who are surrounded by horny men.

Cheers,

Franco

 

[DanBloom]

I agree with Franco here. If you live in Saudi Arabia no amount of game is gonna get you scoring hotties every other day. Would your company allow you to relocate? Or would you be able to do your work online and thus somewhere else?

I agree that daygame is another great option. That's what I did mostly in South Korea because the guys outnumbered the girls at night among other complications.

Have you thought about going online? You might be able to find women on the internet near you that might be looking. At this point it's about increasing your "potential date traffic" I reckon.

Dan

 

[Anonymous]

Day game is an option, but I REALLY have a hard time with that. I'll practice. The alternative is going feral.
I mean, I see one in the grocery store, what am I going to say? "Hey nice head of lettuce you got there."

I tried once or twice outside restaurants when on lunch break. "Excuse me. I couldn't help but notice what nice legs you have. Do you dance?"...."I could use a Salsa partner" No bites yet, just giggles.

I've been online for years. Online is a whole different set of problems. Take women that are constantly getting slapped in the face with penises and then multiply the penises by 100x. They are so entitled there, some of them are asking for parachuting or vacations to Vegas for a first date. I've had a few 4-5s to tie me over, but that was in between 50 or so with problems like "Wanna feel my alien implant? They came and put it behind my ear" or "Yea, my ex is hunting me, I kidnapped my children and came here."

I keep doing online, if nothing else, then for the practice when I do get them to come out. I've got to practice on not whining too. Online dating really kills your self esteem after awhile.

 

[DanBloom]

Okay - then what are you chances for moving?

 

[Anonymous]

Work won't move me. I'll have to quit, leave the entire family behind, start over all alone, and spend almost everything I have saved up, but it is going to happen. 20 years on this place is enough.

I am working on studying up my interview skills and redoing my resume. I am a software engineer, so it is hard finding anything that is not in California, Austin, or Seattle, all of which I hear have similar problems. Boston seems to get good reviews from single men, I am starting the job hunt there and trying to get a little vacation money together to check it out.

 

[Franco]

Fleshbits,

As a software engineer living in San Diego myself, I'm not sure where you heard these rumors. Software engineering jobs around here are rather abundant (especially in the defense contracting industry), and the women here are absolutely beautiful.

I have no intention of moving anytime soon; you might want to do some more personal investigative work on the places you are eye-balling rather than going just by word of mouth. Taking a few vacations to all of the locations that interest you sounds like a good start.

Cheers,

Franco

 

[Anonymous]

Interesting Franco!

What would you say the cost of living/salary ratio is like at a 6 years experience level? Is C++ still popular there? With a lot of DOD, I bet it is... Market is changing to Java and .NET over here quickly.
How liberal is it? I'm not conservative, but I am fairly anti-liberal.

 

[Good Vibes]

If you live in Saudi Arabia no amount of game is gonna get you scoring hotties every other day.

How would you know if they are hotties in the first place? Head scarves all look the same to me.

 

[Franco]

Fb,

What would you say the cost of living/salary ratio is like at a 6 years experience level? Is C++ still popular there? With a lot of DOD, I bet it is... Market is changing to Java and .NET over here quickly.

I'm not sure how "popular" C++ is over here, but it is certainly used. My company almost exclusively uses Java and is very web-app based. But there is a definite need for C programmers as well (which usually also includes C++).

Cost of living in Southern California is expensive relative to other parts of the nation (I am renting out a master bedroom in a two-bedroom apartment near La Jolla for $850/month, which includes gas/water/trash), but you can't put a price tag on So Cal's weather (and especially San Diego's). It's priceless. And it's also why some of the most beautiful women reside here... it's one of the few places in the world that you can go to the beach all year long, so women make sure to stay tan and keep that "bikini body" in tact.

How liberal is it? I'm not conservative, but I am fairly anti-liberal.

Southern California is extremely liberal, especially around the college areas. But I'm fairly conservative myself (probably closest to Libertarian), and almost everyone in the DoD is at least somewhat conservative. It doesn't really bother me one way or the other. Politics is a topic I generally don't like to discuss with people in general, even with the women I'm dating. So it really depends on how big of a role you expect it to play in your lifestyle.

Hope this helps!

- Franco