Okay, so.... how do i STOP masterbating ?

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Hey all,

so this is something i'm suffering from 8th grade or something. Got graduated this year.

I just can't seem to control it, and mostly it goes like this : me going to my bathroom, pissing and then move the foreskin 2-3 times to remove the remaining drops ....and it ends in ejaculation.

You know alek did a post where he mentioned surviving the first month and my hope to stop it again shines .... But after the 4th day i did it again. And continue it for like 3 days and again stopped it. After 5 days i did it again and 2-3 days later stopped it again. And it continues like a cycle. Stop-Resume.
I remember a while ago i controlled it for pure 28 days and one day i broke it again and never really did manage to hold that long. Actually i dont do these hold on to dash days. Not anymore, it was just because akek said survive the first month and that's why i tried.

So my question is this : how do i make myself mentally strong enough to actually hold it LONG.

Because every time i try to hold and fail ........that's when i mis-encourage myself in negative. It breaks your confident cause you promised yourself, you swear that this one is last and you never gonna do it again. But when you fail one day you feel fucking pathetically miserable about yourself.

Thanks.

 

[foggy]

The act of masturbation is a totally normal thing and there's nothing wrong with it. What's unhealthy about it is that a lot of people touch themselves while watching sexually explicit content.

What's the reason you want to quit? If you want to quit just because someone told you to, then you're gonna have a hard time quitting. Establish why you want to quit and then think of that reason every time you get an urge. Can't figure out a good reason? Heres one: A random guy named backstory on an internet forum is going to be mad at you if you ever touch yourself again.

You could also just engage in a fuck ton of sexual activity. That's what a lot of human beings do to relieve themselves of this biological tension.

 

[Drck]

I wouldn't worry about it. Minimize it so you have enough steam to go after girls, don't pay much attention to it, avoid getting addicted to porn - that's all you need...

 

[Lotus]

For me it's always been too much freetime, that has caused excessive jerking off. Staying busy left me no time to want or need to jerk it.

My two cents, stay busy. Works for me maybe it will for you as well.

-Lotus

 

[Richard]

Baby-steps, my friend, baby-steps.

I found two methods to be helpful when I, personally, was overcoming this;

1) If you've been in the habit of masturbating daily then it's going to seem pretty daunting to set a goal like "Stop masturbating altogether" or "Stop masturbating for 60 days!" and you'll likely relapse. So, it's much easier for most people to progressively increase their goal; start off with 5 days, then go to 7, then go to 15, etc.

2) For me, personally, I found this other method more helpful and I immediately set the goal to stop masturbating for 60 days and it was the thrill of the challenge and difficulty that really engaged my competitiveness and after like 6-7 days (I think) I lost a lot of my motivation to masturbate. At around 30 days I went through a rough patch where your brain basically makes it's last "OOHRAH" to try and get you to maintain the habit. After that, I haven't gone back and now the thought of porn, and the stimulation of porn doesn't arouse me.

Also, you've identified a trigger in yourself (shaking it after taking a piss) so all you need to do is stay away from that trigger. The biggest one for me was playing with my phone while laying down to sleep, or immediately picking it up after I woke up - after consciously stopping both of those things got immensely easier.

-Richard

 

[Virgin101]

I am (to a small degree) hooked on fapping too. Merely because there's never a proper reason not to do it. If it were smoking or drinking, it's a waste of money + bad for ur health - so it's very hard to justify. So smoking should be piss easy to quite.

I have it under control because I never break my promises. After fapping, I make a commitment that I won't forget about. For example I'll say to myself, I won't fap for 3 days. So for those three days I'll have complete control. The commitments have to made far in advance though, otherwise you need will power... u know to make a commitment not to fap when u're horny. Sometimes I wont let meself watch porn, and only use pictures, or even just thoughts. Through, me if you can get in the zones, images are a very satisfying way to fap.

The only weakness to this method is that if it's a day that I'm "allowed" to fap, there's nothing to stop me, even if I don't really want to!

But over all, the method works very well.... if you can keep promises. I think you said you can't somewhere so, oh well that's how I do it.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

stop looking at stuff that gets you hard, stop stroking your cock, stop masturbating

 

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Wow, didn't expect this much help but thanks for your help guys.

So, good news - hold it for 14 days and jerked 6 times or something in 3-4 days, stopped it again for 3 days and than masterbated 3 days again stopped it for 10 days and masterbated only once, stopped it again for 7 days and yesterday and today i masterbated once a day.

For me its progress, you know i used to masterbate dalily 3 times on average like for 8 years or something, and now i wanna put a stop at this habit.

And no, i don't drink, smoke or watch porn guys.. ...very intelligent of me no? .

You guys are right like i should find a reason why i wanna quit, well honestly i just wanna stop it man ....its just a habit and a bad one. Let me tell you an incident 'backstory' - a girl was about to come over for the action but she got late and in the meanwhile i masterbate twice and performed really bad man. I wasn't feeling anything inside her. And this wasn't the first time, it has happened more than twice if i remember correctly. Phew .....oh well.

And yeah lot of free time has to do something about it.

*Richard you are right, i did try to go for stopping it for altogether several times .....but just couldn't. I also tried your go for 60 but failed again.
But like i said i'm not even worried about it anymore.

Note: im actually using a different phone so its kinda hard for me to tag your responses and reply name wise. But thanks for your words.

Richard ..can i send you a private message, its about some family issue thats bothering the hell out of me. I've read in one of your thread you saying something about dealing with family issues all the time. So, i was wondering what you can suggest about mine.
Thanks