First of all i want to tell you are not alone and there are many of us who have been there. Hey you are not alone man, and remember this: ¨There is nothing in this life that doesn´t has a solution except for dying¨. Cheers man, life is too awesome to be waisted thinking on just someone else but yourself
Let me be the first to tell you the reason why you are feeling this is not because ¨you are not getting laid enough¨ as a person said above. That´s such a superficial way to see what going on here. I´ve been there and let me tell you exactly how you are going to get out of this hole and be happy once in for all...
1- You are overly invested in this girl? A really big consecuence of that is that you forget about big aspects of your life and persona, and start looking away from it, getting your eyes on here. STOP IT. Get your head cold and start looking at the aspects of your life that are lacking of investment (wich can be probably a lot) Now sort out the ones that really really matter:
- Your Carrer/Studies/Job.
- Your family and really close friends.
- Your hobbys and your lifestyle (Religion aswell if you are a religioust person).
Those 3 are your seriously big things that you gotta work hard in your life and try to improve every single day from the moment you wake up (heck! even when you sleep!!) until the moment you finish your day.
the rest..... is just the rest. Tell me, how many times you´ve said to yourself ¨Hey i´ve waisted so much time trying to make things work and my life have became a mess¨ ¨I wish i din´t¨ ¨I should start doing this and that¨ ¨This woman is not worth all of this¨ ¨She is ungratefull¨. That´s your concience telling yourself you have to stop! and turn around the corner!!.
2- Now that you made yourself clear what is really WORTH investing in your life. Stop waisting time in things that don´t. If you make yourself believe you gonna have something with her in future because of your ¨lack of game¨ let me tell you, can´t be more wrong than that. You won´t be able to get back with her because you will eventually invest all your time/mind/effort in yourself that you will be ¨loving¨ yourself more than anyone else, and this woman apperently is abusive (not physically but emotionally. I can tell for the symptoms you are describing) so you gonna be wanting not to ¨invest¨ but to ¨SHARE¨ time with someone else who is way worthy than this woman.
3- Forgive yourself, you are not the one who messed it up, neither she. If it didn´t work that´s it!! There are plenty of women in this world (More beautiful, more grateful, more inteligent) that will share with you their lifes, but for that you have to make youself your own life.
4- Invest in yourself and ONLY YOURSELF.
Want to play a new sport? DO IT! , Want to be succeding in your studies or in your job? DO IT MAN!! you are the only one holding back. Keep your mind busy, make yourself grow as a person and start getting the time you waisted with her back!! Feel like religion helps? It does man!! ...
5- Do not call her, text her, advoid seeing her; and don´t date anyone else untill you feel like your life is back on track. If you make yourself better as a person everyday she will eventually see that and start chasing you like never did (trust me i´ve been there), but don´t ever get back with her, the moment you broked up you did it for a reason, you are not happy!.
Why not just dating women? Because you need to get your life back on track. When you invest so much in a woman like this you forget about a lot of things in your life and become a little dog that depends on what is given to him or just someone who is lack of goals in life/not investing enough in your goals.
Hope it helps,
Ditto.
