Older woman saying “it takes time with me”: worth pursuing?

[lux7]

HER
We were on the first "date".
I suppose she's around 40, she didn’t wanna say and I wasn’t much interested in knowing.
She’s quite attractive and with a great body, that’s more important than age .

I'm not young but younger than her, and she said "you're a baby" when I said my year of birth, but she later forgot and I didn't repeat it.

WHAT HAPPENED
In a conversation she said “she’d wish for an engagement ring”. It was unrelated to me, but it got me worried a bit.

I brought her home and we made out on the bed without bra but in spite my persistence didn't want to take the pants off.
It was quite passionate though and we stayed there for quite some time, she was enjoying.

Both in conversation and in the bed before leaving she said “it takes time with me”.

GIVE ME YOUR OPINION
I’m worried about 2 things:
1. The “engagement ring” comment and the fact she says she’s very romantic worried me a bit about clingy behavior even though she doesn’t have any reason for thinking of me as a potential husband: I said I wanted to leave from here and the age difference seemed to matter to her;

2. She said that it will take time with her. As she was really “engaged” in the make out I thought that might not be the case, but.. Could it actually be?
I’m not that willing to spend too much time with her without nothing happening.

What do you think?

 

[lux7]

Re: Older woman saying “it takes time with me”: worth pursui

Latest text communications after I tell her to come over for dinner:

HER
Tomorrow yes but only in a public space! last time was too dangerous for me

ME
Kinky lady, people could see us in a public place .
It will rain tomorrow, inside is cosier...

HER
Inside in some restaurant with good, reputable girl )

(5 mins later)
HER
Hey, you still interested in the dinner, Mr Casanova?

ME
Yes, but I don't like restaurants, I want to feel free in more private locations..

HER
I'm not so free like you


I'm a bit losing patience to be honest, she was enjoying and I believe she likes me, she knows -or should know- I don't want a relationship... What's all this childish thing of "dangerous" and "reputable"?

 

[Jesse]

Re: Older woman saying “it takes time with me”: worth pursui

I would suggest instead of focusing on the outcome of getting quick sex from her (where you would learn nothing or very little from the experience), use her as a test bed for getting more reference experiences.

Say some shockingly dirty things into her ear ("I'm gonna bring over my hot ex-girlfriend to lick you out") and see how she reacts. Just for playful fun and to test experiments.

Practice out some touch escalation moves on her. Physically practicing on her makes it more likely you'll remember to do them in a club at the appropriate time.

Practice physical persistence on her, or physical escalation.

And be non-outcome seeking in everything you're doing. It's just fun and out of curiosity.

So this girl CAN bring you a lot value, apart from sex. Reframe it that way.

 

[lux7]

Re: Older woman saying “it takes time with me”: worth pursui

I would suggest instead of focusing on the outcome of getting quick sex from her (where you would learn nothing or very little from the experience), use her as a test bed for getting more reference experiences.

Say some shockingly dirty things into her ear ("I'm gonna bring over my hot ex-girlfriend to lick you out") and see how she reacts. Just for playful fun and to test experiments.

Practice out some touch escalation moves on her. Physically practicing on her makes it more likely you'll remember to do them in a club at the appropriate time.

Practice physical persistence on her, or physical escalation.

And be non-outcome seeking in everything you're doing. It's just fun and out of curiosity.

So this girl CAN bring you a lot value, apart from sex. Reframe it that way.

I like this point of view.

But at the same time I'm not willing to do something I don't like doing -dinner date- just because of her.
I like enjoying my food when I eat and that means not making deep conversation, especially with someone with a poor English.
She's still initiating text messages and still insisting not to come over.
And even though I like your point view and like her physically I don't feel like yielding and playing by her rules.

After all, I still have her bra, the spoils of war are on my side