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Hey guys, I wanted to write asking quickly about something… it was a recent approach but like an unfamiliar situation and I’m not sure how I could potentially remedy the situation or what my next move should be…
I could’ve made this into a report but it would’ve taken longer and I’d rather try to make something of it then have a report where a girl was turned on but nothing came out of it.
There’s a cougar and her friend another cougar who both work out at my gym and they are really hot (hot not beautiful https://www.girlschase.com/content/youre-passing-hottest-coolest-girls but still experienced women with nice fake titties).
I approached the one that was into me (while her friend was conveniently away at the bathroom) and my fundamentals were really strong (a good reason for this was because I was looking to work out in a rush and not interested in really trying to pick up on her; but saw her and the tricep bar and thought “hey two birds with one stone”).
I saw that she’s hot and we’ve noticed each other once or twice before so I asked her if I could work in and talked a bit with her.
She was really turned on for the bulk of the timeand talked the most from her end and I didn’t say too much from my end.
She was touching me while I was working out and screened and qualified me and asked me:
• Age (made her guess and told her I was 23; I’m 20 lol)
• Where im from; do I speak Spanish (I let her know I can only speak Spanish in the bedroom)
• What my sign is
• What my name is
• If I can buy her friend a smoothie (cougars want to be paid for; I let her know I'm poor and that she’s the successful woman and she should pay for me; the friend told me going on a bit about how guys just buy her things all the time just because they want to …. With the friend I just kept good fundamentals, and was a good listener balancing focus between girls and workout without telling her my views on the guys being orbiters who don’t know how to get their dicks wet lol).
• Other stuff that I forget but that kept her hooked (so wasn’t out of place)
So my interaction with her was going well and I was doing A level well (it was kind of blowing my mind because she was just wearing a top and had a good body for being an older woman, and just like 6 months ago I don’t think I could’ve talked to her looking her in the eye like this and had her hard chasing too) … and her friend came back and talked a little to me and asked me a couple of questions too.
The friend found me different and interesting (and perhaps attractive?) but wasn’t into me, cougar 1 was into me…
Where I fuck up: at some point while we’re talking she gets a little quieter after asking me many questions and us having a flirty but subtle back and forth…
This was the escalation window and I caught it but didn’t know what to do… because her friend was on the machine next to ours (and it was an unfamiliar situation)
What I would have done “I have to go to the next machine but we should get food sometime”
She was giving me major signs and feeling me up and wanted to tear me apart! So she would’ve said yes and if she said “well I’m married” I’d use my line “what you’re not allowed to have friend’s sly smile” and said a little more and then got her number… it was there, but her friend was there too so I didn’t go for the number then
I thought that the friend was there so maybe she would’ve reacted differently; I should’ve went for it and tried anyway I think now but I didn’t
What I did instead: I missed the escalation window yes, so she got a bit quieter, and I gave her a sexy smile underlook and said “hey well I’ll see you I have to go” … and went away … but the moment was lost
Aftermath: this girl wasn’t wet for me anymore; attraction expired next time I saw her… but I’m not surprised; think of an inexperienced girl and how you miss an escalation window and get many chances though to make it up… now take an experienced cougar, who has many orbiters that fucking buy her drinks and carry her weights for her, that window she gave me was tiny and I let it slip… and was valid candidate after to become an orbiter … so she wasn’t interested or the same anymore.
And I’ve made it a point and know how not to be an orbiter, so if I see her we might have a calibrated word or two but usually I'm busy working out and I won’t ever really go out of my way to see her from my end.
She’s part of my social circle and sees me working out… I saw her checking me out squatting today … but she thinks I’m not attainable or something (like that initial wet attraction for me isn’t there anymore)
I’m not crazy over this girl, but the situation is unfamiliar to me as for what happens now… so I won’t interact much, and know how to be calibrated so that she finds me attractive while not becoming an orbiter…
But it doesn’t change that I missed that initial window
I’ll be seeing this chick a couple of mornings each week for a long time (seeing as in she’ll be at the gym and I’ll be at the gym; both in a same social circle)…
Is there any redeeming this? What can I or should I do?
She had found me hot initially and probably still does…
I’m not outcome dependent but if there would be anything to do for me to turn this around, or get that spark again and get to move things forward with her, I would try it (she would be a unicorn lay of sort for me).
This cougar is the only hot older lady at the gym without kids (I know each of the hot older women and they all have kids, and because of that wouldn’t be interested in fucking them)… and the only one of them that was wet and touching me and really trying to get into my pants (and would’ve helped me every step of the way).
Any feedbacks or thoughts or ideas about what I can do would be super helpful and so appreciated … because I'm pretty lost with this one, and would like to do something with it if there’s potential steps I could take.
Thanks,
Gem
EDIT: hey guys any quick replies or comments or thoughts really would help me out; quick because I've already drawn this out and don't want to draw it out further and I'll be seeing a lot of this girl more regularly just as a member of my gym social circle and can't pretend not to see her all the time ... It'll either get to the point where we become 2 word friends who say hey and then go workout, or we see each other and never say anything to each other really, or we fuck and it's magical and stuff.
I could’ve made this into a report but it would’ve taken longer and I’d rather try to make something of it then have a report where a girl was turned on but nothing came out of it.
There’s a cougar and her friend another cougar who both work out at my gym and they are really hot (hot not beautiful https://www.girlschase.com/content/youre-passing-hottest-coolest-girls but still experienced women with nice fake titties).
I approached the one that was into me (while her friend was conveniently away at the bathroom) and my fundamentals were really strong (a good reason for this was because I was looking to work out in a rush and not interested in really trying to pick up on her; but saw her and the tricep bar and thought “hey two birds with one stone”).
I saw that she’s hot and we’ve noticed each other once or twice before so I asked her if I could work in and talked a bit with her.
She was really turned on for the bulk of the timeand talked the most from her end and I didn’t say too much from my end.
She was touching me while I was working out and screened and qualified me and asked me:
• Age (made her guess and told her I was 23; I’m 20 lol)
• Where im from; do I speak Spanish (I let her know I can only speak Spanish in the bedroom)
• What my sign is
• What my name is
• If I can buy her friend a smoothie (cougars want to be paid for; I let her know I'm poor and that she’s the successful woman and she should pay for me; the friend told me going on a bit about how guys just buy her things all the time just because they want to …. With the friend I just kept good fundamentals, and was a good listener balancing focus between girls and workout without telling her my views on the guys being orbiters who don’t know how to get their dicks wet lol).
• Other stuff that I forget but that kept her hooked (so wasn’t out of place)
So my interaction with her was going well and I was doing A level well (it was kind of blowing my mind because she was just wearing a top and had a good body for being an older woman, and just like 6 months ago I don’t think I could’ve talked to her looking her in the eye like this and had her hard chasing too) … and her friend came back and talked a little to me and asked me a couple of questions too.
The friend found me different and interesting (and perhaps attractive?) but wasn’t into me, cougar 1 was into me…
Where I fuck up: at some point while we’re talking she gets a little quieter after asking me many questions and us having a flirty but subtle back and forth…
This was the escalation window and I caught it but didn’t know what to do… because her friend was on the machine next to ours (and it was an unfamiliar situation)
What I would have done “I have to go to the next machine but we should get food sometime”
She was giving me major signs and feeling me up and wanted to tear me apart! So she would’ve said yes and if she said “well I’m married” I’d use my line “what you’re not allowed to have friend’s sly smile” and said a little more and then got her number… it was there, but her friend was there too so I didn’t go for the number then
I thought that the friend was there so maybe she would’ve reacted differently; I should’ve went for it and tried anyway I think now but I didn’t
What I did instead: I missed the escalation window yes, so she got a bit quieter, and I gave her a sexy smile underlook and said “hey well I’ll see you I have to go” … and went away … but the moment was lost
Aftermath: this girl wasn’t wet for me anymore; attraction expired next time I saw her… but I’m not surprised; think of an inexperienced girl and how you miss an escalation window and get many chances though to make it up… now take an experienced cougar, who has many orbiters that fucking buy her drinks and carry her weights for her, that window she gave me was tiny and I let it slip… and was valid candidate after to become an orbiter … so she wasn’t interested or the same anymore.
And I’ve made it a point and know how not to be an orbiter, so if I see her we might have a calibrated word or two but usually I'm busy working out and I won’t ever really go out of my way to see her from my end.
She’s part of my social circle and sees me working out… I saw her checking me out squatting today … but she thinks I’m not attainable or something (like that initial wet attraction for me isn’t there anymore)
I’m not crazy over this girl, but the situation is unfamiliar to me as for what happens now… so I won’t interact much, and know how to be calibrated so that she finds me attractive while not becoming an orbiter…
But it doesn’t change that I missed that initial window
I’ll be seeing this chick a couple of mornings each week for a long time (seeing as in she’ll be at the gym and I’ll be at the gym; both in a same social circle)…
Is there any redeeming this? What can I or should I do?
She had found me hot initially and probably still does…
I’m not outcome dependent but if there would be anything to do for me to turn this around, or get that spark again and get to move things forward with her, I would try it (she would be a unicorn lay of sort for me).
This cougar is the only hot older lady at the gym without kids (I know each of the hot older women and they all have kids, and because of that wouldn’t be interested in fucking them)… and the only one of them that was wet and touching me and really trying to get into my pants (and would’ve helped me every step of the way).
Any feedbacks or thoughts or ideas about what I can do would be super helpful and so appreciated … because I'm pretty lost with this one, and would like to do something with it if there’s potential steps I could take.
Thanks,
Gem
EDIT: hey guys any quick replies or comments or thoughts really would help me out; quick because I've already drawn this out and don't want to draw it out further and I'll be seeing a lot of this girl more regularly just as a member of my gym social circle and can't pretend not to see her all the time ... It'll either get to the point where we become 2 word friends who say hey and then go workout, or we see each other and never say anything to each other really, or we fuck and it's magical and stuff.
