One Night Stand Gone Wrong: I want to see her again.

[zach445897]

Bit of background:

Both in college, im 23 shes 22. I'm new to area and have been told by multiple different women at multiple different bars how my roommate (long time bestfriend) and I are some of the most attractive new men in our small college town.

When I moved I followed a few girls on Instagram to try and expand my social circles a bit. Last night I was at the bar and I saw her so I went up to her. We hit if off instantly and she was on my arm for the remainder of the evening, we went to an afterparty then I took her home.

We had amazing sex, smoked some weed before be and cuddled and madeout all night. Joked with eachother in the morning and overall had a pretty unreal time. Before she left my place this morning I grabbed her number.

Im the type of guy that does one night stands and im fine with never talking to them again. Might be overthinking this but me actually wanting to see her again in a sober capacity is making me anxious and I'm trying to figure out the right approach of getting in touch with her.

Quick text this evening?

I was thinking something light and casual along the lines of: "Glad your bedroom game isnt the same as your pong game . I had fun with you last night."

Not used to putting an effort in but I think something with this girl might go somewhere so I appreicate any and all suggestions.

 

[Bismarck]

ONS can be a bitch when you get a soft spot for the girl...

Have you thought of sending the girl a video message? This might work wonders by setting you apart from all the other guys she's been with (Cialdini's Law of Scarcity). Check Teevs' (Alek Rolstad) articles on the matter on the main site ("Video Messaging Girls Parts 1 & 2").

Otherwise, if you wanna stick to traditional texting, it doesn't really matter what you write her, as long as it comes from somewhere genuine (and non-needy), and you keep it succinct. Flirting over text, in the line of the message you tentatively fleshed out, with some callback humor, is a good idea.

She either feels the same as you or she doesn't, and you have to be ready for either scenario. This is usually easier to deal with when you're spinning multiple plates which, considering the compliments you're getting from the babes, shouldn't be too difficult especially in US college life, which from what I understand isn't very different to Blue Mountain State or American Pie.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

Nicely done @zach445897 sounds like a solid lay.

This article here helped me out a lot with keeping ONS around: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-convert-one-time-sex-regular-sex

If you want the short answer: "hey it was fun meeting you last night, hope you have a good week ".

I play it safe in follow up texts because if her mood is really different to when she met you i.e not in party mode she may dismiss you as a pure one night thing. You also get to read the warmth of her reply to know if the feeling is mutual or not too. You want to see "really great to meet you too! " rather than "thanks you too". Based on her reply give it a day or 2 to check her schedule & confirm the next meet up.

You want to get the 2nd lay pretty quickly as that keeps the momentum in your favour.