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Been reading GS for one year and posting on the boards since August, but wanted to thank everyone for their support! This is my story of turning from a pushover with no experience towards a direct asshole.
I was sitting at a bar one year ago with a group of friends when the topic of girls came up. I was excited to say I’ve been talking and hanging out with a girl for a couple weeks. A couple of friends stopped talking and said I needed to move faster or else I get put into the friendzone.
The very next day, I confronted the girl about her text messages and she said I was a great friend. BOOM, instantly crushed! How could this girl do this to me, she was like 3 yrs. younger than me and not even that good looking (but great personality). How can I get rejected from that? Started searching online for resources and started reading the most detailed site I found, GC!
My Problem
At 21 y.o., I was a complete white knight and nice guy. A complete pushover with people in my life, overly accommodating, never challenging, and always hid my interest. I asked one girl out in my life and had one makeout – that was it. I never had the lifestyle of meeting girls by commuting to college, studying for a technical degree, and a working all the time. When I did meet a girl, things turned sour fast, but I didn’t know why.
Here’s a cycle of past relationships:
-She initiates conversation.
-Instant “click” and we have passionate discussions. I start becoming attracted to her.
-She starts treating me like a girl.
-I become annoyed and push her away.
-I turn bitter and avoid her.
Starting Out
The first 6 months, I read a few articles for getting exposed to the idea of approaching girls. I was extremely bitter from being friendzoned, but could not stop thinking about her.
I began the newbie assignment in August and never looked back! I was in my last semester of college and about to transfer to the workforce, but made time for approaching girls. After ditching my social circles, I threw myself into approaching girls while running errands and night-game in lounges.
My results
-119 cold approaches
-2 casual relationships (2 lays)
-6 dates with different girls
Personal Changes
The most important change was my dating mentality and personality. I cannot be bitter towards girls no matter how hard I try. I am pushing away bitter thoughts after getting more experienced with girls:
-Rejected at the dance club? Well, that’s not a surprise. Why should a girl go home with a guy in front of all her friends.
-Why did I get friendzoned? I was supplicating to a girl by giving things unconditionally and listening to her boy problems for weeks.
The most dramatic transformation occurred by transforming from a pushover to an asshole. I took Chase’s advice to heart in his article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-nice-guys-finish-last and began seeing results. A year ago, girls used to say I was THE NICEST guy they ever met. Now, I’m called difficult, sassy, ornery, and bold.
GC has taken a lot of confusion about girls and helped me gain results in the most unsuccessful area of my life. Thanks GC!
I was sitting at a bar one year ago with a group of friends when the topic of girls came up. I was excited to say I’ve been talking and hanging out with a girl for a couple weeks. A couple of friends stopped talking and said I needed to move faster or else I get put into the friendzone.
The very next day, I confronted the girl about her text messages and she said I was a great friend. BOOM, instantly crushed! How could this girl do this to me, she was like 3 yrs. younger than me and not even that good looking (but great personality). How can I get rejected from that? Started searching online for resources and started reading the most detailed site I found, GC!
My Problem
At 21 y.o., I was a complete white knight and nice guy. A complete pushover with people in my life, overly accommodating, never challenging, and always hid my interest. I asked one girl out in my life and had one makeout – that was it. I never had the lifestyle of meeting girls by commuting to college, studying for a technical degree, and a working all the time. When I did meet a girl, things turned sour fast, but I didn’t know why.
Here’s a cycle of past relationships:
-She initiates conversation.
-Instant “click” and we have passionate discussions. I start becoming attracted to her.
-She starts treating me like a girl.
-I become annoyed and push her away.
-I turn bitter and avoid her.
Starting Out
The first 6 months, I read a few articles for getting exposed to the idea of approaching girls. I was extremely bitter from being friendzoned, but could not stop thinking about her.
I began the newbie assignment in August and never looked back! I was in my last semester of college and about to transfer to the workforce, but made time for approaching girls. After ditching my social circles, I threw myself into approaching girls while running errands and night-game in lounges.
My results
-119 cold approaches
-2 casual relationships (2 lays)
-6 dates with different girls
Personal Changes
The most important change was my dating mentality and personality. I cannot be bitter towards girls no matter how hard I try. I am pushing away bitter thoughts after getting more experienced with girls:
-Rejected at the dance club? Well, that’s not a surprise. Why should a girl go home with a guy in front of all her friends.
-Why did I get friendzoned? I was supplicating to a girl by giving things unconditionally and listening to her boy problems for weeks.
The most dramatic transformation occurred by transforming from a pushover to an asshole. I took Chase’s advice to heart in his article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-nice-guys-finish-last and began seeing results. A year ago, girls used to say I was THE NICEST guy they ever met. Now, I’m called difficult, sassy, ornery, and bold.
GC has taken a lot of confusion about girls and helped me gain results in the most unsuccessful area of my life. Thanks GC!
