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What's up gentleman, for all of you guys in the community who have been hitting up online dating sites, I'm here to tell you what not to do!
I created a fake profile on Plenty Of Fish to look at the typical results a girl gets from a wide variety of guys, over a 24 hour period, I accumulated over 400 inboxed messages and went through all of them. Just about every guy said "Hey, how's your day going?" or "Hey, you're really beautiful, would you like to chat?" or "Hey, I'm such and such, I want to be a (profession) too, and I own a (place), going to school for (whatever) currently, we should chat" and lastly "You're gorgeous, and probably out of my league, so, I'm just going to throw it on the table and hope for the best... (weird confession about a girl he's never met before.)" These are the typical initial messages that a girl sees, and even for me, reading it over and over and over and oooovvvveeerrrrr was draining, but I was learning lol .
The out of the ordinary guys were the one's who read through the about me section, targeted a single area, and went from there. A few responses were something like "Hey, I see you play chess, that means there is alot more to you than meets the eye
. If you're interested, hit me up some time . I'm out like a fat kid in dodgeball." This stood out far above the rest of the comments, but given the circumstances...yeah... anyway, let's dissect this message.
"Hey, I see you play chess, that means there is more to you than meets the eye" - What I like about this is, it allows for immediate connection through implicit value, this guy is stating that he understands chess and probably plays without being conceded or showing himself off. He's inquiring my (as a girls) interest by simply mention I see you play, instead of saying "Yo, I'm a grandmaster! I've been playing for my whole life! I bet you couldn't beat me! My record is like 2666666666666666 and 0." Then, he keeps it humble by saying "there's more to you than meets the eye." By me playing chess, what else does this guy know about me already? Again, inquiring me to ask about him and his history with chess, and how it shows him who I am.
"If you're interested, hit me up some time." - This, I don't like because it's not establishing a solid chase, but that's hardly possible over the Internet anyway, so, I'll keep it neutral to not a good thing but not a bad one either. However, if she does decide (and I imagine most girls would) to reply to him, he could then establish a solid chase frame.
"I'm out like a fat kid in dodgeball." - This is probably what would've captured my attention if I was a woman, this funny remark is ending her read on a positive note, a very upbeat tempo has been left by this guy, and it sandwiches his weakest sentence between a solid opener and a hearty closer, doing a nice job at that.
- I'm done with seriously talking to women online ( I just deleted my Facebook), but I'll be experimenting on another site with openers like this to see what kind of results I get.
In the mean time, maybe you guys should follow a message like this.
-Cheers,
Richard
I created a fake profile on Plenty Of Fish to look at the typical results a girl gets from a wide variety of guys, over a 24 hour period, I accumulated over 400 inboxed messages and went through all of them. Just about every guy said "Hey, how's your day going?" or "Hey, you're really beautiful, would you like to chat?" or "Hey, I'm such and such, I want to be a (profession) too, and I own a (place), going to school for (whatever) currently, we should chat" and lastly "You're gorgeous, and probably out of my league, so, I'm just going to throw it on the table and hope for the best... (weird confession about a girl he's never met before.)" These are the typical initial messages that a girl sees, and even for me, reading it over and over and over and oooovvvveeerrrrr was draining, but I was learning lol .
The out of the ordinary guys were the one's who read through the about me section, targeted a single area, and went from there. A few responses were something like "Hey, I see you play chess, that means there is alot more to you than meets the eye
. If you're interested, hit me up some time . I'm out like a fat kid in dodgeball." This stood out far above the rest of the comments, but given the circumstances...yeah... anyway, let's dissect this message."Hey, I see you play chess, that means there is more to you than meets the eye" - What I like about this is, it allows for immediate connection through implicit value, this guy is stating that he understands chess and probably plays without being conceded or showing himself off. He's inquiring my (as a girls) interest by simply mention I see you play, instead of saying "Yo, I'm a grandmaster! I've been playing for my whole life! I bet you couldn't beat me! My record is like 2666666666666666 and 0." Then, he keeps it humble by saying "there's more to you than meets the eye." By me playing chess, what else does this guy know about me already? Again, inquiring me to ask about him and his history with chess, and how it shows him who I am.
"If you're interested, hit me up some time." - This, I don't like because it's not establishing a solid chase, but that's hardly possible over the Internet anyway, so, I'll keep it neutral to not a good thing but not a bad one either. However, if she does decide (and I imagine most girls would) to reply to him, he could then establish a solid chase frame.
"I'm out like a fat kid in dodgeball." - This is probably what would've captured my attention if I was a woman, this funny remark is ending her read on a positive note, a very upbeat tempo has been left by this guy, and it sandwiches his weakest sentence between a solid opener and a hearty closer, doing a nice job at that.
- I'm done with seriously talking to women online ( I just deleted my Facebook), but I'll be experimenting on another site with openers like this to see what kind of results I get.
In the mean time, maybe you guys should follow a message like this.
-Cheers,
Richard
