Open Relationship Sub-board?

[Zoro]

I think there should be a open relationship sub board.
In the past I have confused my relationship style as casual because it allowed each of us to be sexual outside the relationship. The thing is, I'm not running casual relationships, but rather open ones.

We go on dates, meet each other's friends, have sleepovers, etc. but we still have an agreement of non-exclusivity. It does require certain mindsets, responsibility and handling that differ from casual relationships.

I ended up losing a really cool girl I cared about because I kept her at arms length using advice meant for casual relationships. I think GC is a place that can definitely handle open relationship discussion and with Drexel working on a book on the topic I think the time for a new sub board is ripe!

 

[Franco]

J Wick

"Open" relationships still fall under the category of "long-term" relationships because there's still always some level of commitment that you've provided on your end. In other words, casual relationships can go one of three ways after a given period of time: (1) she becomes your monogamous, committed, long-term girlfriend, (2) both of you parts ways with each other, (3) she agrees to an open, committed, long-term relationship in which you two see other people while promising not to get attached to them.

We could have a separate board for it, but ultimately it can still be discussed on the number of boards we already have here. The important thing is to understand the difference between a casual and open relationship and then communicate which one you're involved in when you have a question or want to discuss something specific.

- Franco

 

[Grand Pooba]

FYI - next GC podcast is on open relationships and non-monogamy.

 

[Zoro]

Franco,

Gotcha. I thought that may be your answer. I hope Drexel's book will stir up more discussion on the topic cuz it's pretty interesting and fun.

Pooba,

Thanks for the heads up!