I don't know why but every girl i meet seems to open up about their pasts in a converation with me quite early in a conversation (Within hours). What does this mean??Is this a good thing or a bad one? I personally feel its bad coz i don't want to get stuck in the role of a therapist with every girl i meet....please suggest something....
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Having girls open up to you about their past is definitely a good thing and means they are comfortable around you. Remember the more a girl shares about herself with you means the stronger the connection she will feel and the more she is investing in you.
However if she telling you about a bunch of negative shit and problems of the past (i.e. her horrible ex boyfriend that used to beat her or her dad died and she started using drugs or some shit) then that is your fault for letting the conversation go into that territory.
If a negative subject is brought up you need to switch topics immediately and get onto more stable positive ground.
However if she telling you about a bunch of negative shit and problems of the past (i.e. her horrible ex boyfriend that used to beat her or her dad died and she started using drugs or some shit) then that is your fault for letting the conversation go into that territory.
If a negative subject is brought up you need to switch topics immediately and get onto more stable positive ground.
Yes but I've noticed they start talking about the guys from their pasts....although its just once that they do it and then it ends, I still don't like that and i want to know if its some sort of wrong friendly vibe i give off from my side that they tell me all this. Am i being a friend too much???Mr.Rob said:
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I wouldn't think in to it that much. If it's just for a brief thread and then of to another one it's not that big of a deal. Remember that women enjoy talking about relationships and their dynamics.
Are you getting laid by these women you're going on dates with?
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Are you getting laid by these women you're going on dates with?
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You're more than welcome. I wouldn't worry too much about over deep diving in this regard it sounds like your focus may be on the wrong thing (which when you are a beginner without a coach is typically easy to do so no worries there).
What do you mean by you are learning to "set the right frame"?
What do you mean by you are learning to "set the right frame"?
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When you are new I would say the best way you can do that is through touch and steadily increasing it throughout your interaction with a girl. Also just telling her direct and specific things you find sexy/attractive about her as they arise (she give certain eye contact you like or she touches your leg).
You want to communicate that you have a dick where as most guys go platonic then bring the girl home, whip their dick out, and he is now being incongruent to the person he first posed as.
Not saying it's impossible to get laid that way but you will always be better off communicating your intent early and continue to "remind" her throughout.
Sexy is not a requirement for making things happen but showing intent is.
You want to communicate that you have a dick where as most guys go platonic then bring the girl home, whip their dick out, and he is now being incongruent to the person he first posed as.
Not saying it's impossible to get laid that way but you will always be better off communicating your intent early and continue to "remind" her throughout.
Sexy is not a requirement for making things happen but showing intent is.
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Rob already has you covered, but, I'll offer some snippets of wisdom.
Like yourself, women open up relatively early (and without my pushing for it) in conversation and it boils down to your vibe. I'd guess and say that you are pretty chill, and your body language suggests that you're mellow but also willing to listen. In my case, my body language and walk suggest that I don't waste time but I'm still pretty care-free and women open up fast.
Everybody has this ability to read others but women maintain more of that ability as they age than men do. You'll see this same trend with abnormal psych patients, and mental disorder patients - they know who will listen to them, who will not judge them, and who they can just talk to. Kudos to you for having that vibe because it's a giant piece of the seduction equation/puzzle.
Having the vibe that allows women to open up to you means that they are comfortable with you and when women are comfortable with you then they are willing to let you into their world and inject whatever qualities you have into it; namely sex and adventure. If she's opening up - keep your natural vibe going and start to introduce sexual content. If she runs with it then take her home
Like yourself, women open up relatively early (and without my pushing for it) in conversation and it boils down to your vibe. I'd guess and say that you are pretty chill, and your body language suggests that you're mellow but also willing to listen. In my case, my body language and walk suggest that I don't waste time but I'm still pretty care-free and women open up fast.
Everybody has this ability to read others but women maintain more of that ability as they age than men do. You'll see this same trend with abnormal psych patients, and mental disorder patients - they know who will listen to them, who will not judge them, and who they can just talk to. Kudos to you for having that vibe because it's a giant piece of the seduction equation/puzzle.
Having the vibe that allows women to open up to you means that they are comfortable with you and when women are comfortable with you then they are willing to let you into their world and inject whatever qualities you have into it; namely sex and adventure. If she's opening up - keep your natural vibe going and start to introduce sexual content. If she runs with it then take her home
Yes this is becoming common with all the girls i talk to. But is there a way to know which girls are attracted and which of them simply want an emotional tampon/therapist out of me to save my effortRichard said:Rob already has you covered, but, I'll offer some snippets of wisdom.
Like yourself, women open up relatively early (and without my pushing for it) in conversation and it boils down to your vibe. I'd guess and say that you are pretty chill, and your body language suggests that you're mellow but also willing to listen. In my case, my body language and walk suggest that I don't waste time but I'm still pretty care-free and women open up fast.
Everybody has this ability to read others but women maintain more of that ability as they age than men do. You'll see this same trend with abnormal psych patients, and mental disorder patients - they know who will listen to them, who will not judge them, and who they can just talk to. Kudos to you for having that vibe because it's a giant piece of the seduction equation/puzzle.
Having the vibe that allows women to open up to you means that they are comfortable with you and when women are comfortable with you then they are willing to let you into their world and inject whatever qualities you have into it; namely sex and adventure. If she's opening up - keep your natural vibe going and start to introduce sexual content. If she runs with it then take her home
