Opinion on flakes needed.

[razir110]

Hi all.

I'd like to get your opinion on flake prevention.

So I met this girl in a cafe. I was sitting, working on my laptop and she sat on my table because she needed to charge her phone. We started talking and the conversation went really well, she left all her life behind and just went raveling. She told me she was a bit lost in life and honestly I could relate to that, I've been in the same situation, so we spoke about how I overcame these obstacles and she also got to know quite a lot about my intense life.

I told her there were cool spots around the town I'd like to show her since she was visiting, so we agreed to meet the next day. I noticed we were talking for quite a long time, so I didn't want to get too comfortable and friends with her and said I had to leave.

Next day 2h before the date she texted me that she was in a no-mood and she regretted she accepted the meet without knowing me well.

SO. My question here is, should I just keep talking to her ones I meet her if there is a reasonable chance for that, we were sitting, not like standing on the street. Or should I always try to keep the interaction for around 15 mins and leave?

Texting: I keep my texting to the minimum. I advocate that the interaction has to be done in person and the texts are just a way to set up the date. I would never discuss any serious issues over text or would ask her stuff about herself/tell stuff about myself. How do you guys go about texting?

Another one: Should I ask her a lot of questions about herself, or should the interaction be focused on me? So she gets more comfortable with me? Our conversation was quite focused on my experiences.

What is you take on this?

Best!

PS: I've read the articles on flakes on GC

 

[dcman]

SO. My question here is, should I just keep talking to her ones I meet her if there is a reasonable chance for that, we were sitting, not like standing on the street. Or should I always try to keep the interaction for around 15 mins and leave?

If you and the girl are free at the time you meet her just see if you can isolate and move her to a place at that time rather than schedule for a different time. If not If I felt that I have built sufficient attraction I would agree on a different time to meet and be on my way.


Texting: I keep my texting to the minimum. I advocate that the interaction has to be done in person and the texts are just a way to set up the date. I would never discuss any serious issues over text or would ask her stuff about herself/tell stuff about myself. How do you guys go about texting?

If I did not have time to build sufficient attraction I may send a few messages to build value . If I have built attraction and have set up a time to meet her I would not bother messaging at all. I do not worry if some of them flake , do not answer etc but instead busy with the ones that are into me. Interacting and being busy gives me the confidence to text whatever I want without worrying about results or over-analyzing a girls response or no response.

Another one: Should I ask her a lot of questions about herself, or should the interaction be focused on me? So she gets more comfortable with me? Our conversation was quite focused on my experiences.
Ask her questions about herself it would make her think you are looking at aspects other than her body and is interested in knowing her as a person.However if you are talking about your experiences to relate to her that works as well and it will help her connect with you more faster. see the scenario and relate to it.