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i met a woman on tinder. we will call her Amelia. She said she had a lot of trust issues because people have left her right out of the blue before. We are both moving away at the end of the summer, so she said she doesnt want a relationship. she said: “ i like having random people to chat with. maybe someone to cuddle with, i dont know. i dont know if i am looking for a relationship, it depends on the day. i enjoy being single but i like having someone to rant to and hug me lots.” After talking a bit more with her, we hung out.
when we hung out, we went for a walk around town. she likes to be active! we connected well. due to my living situation i cant bring girls back to my house. towards the end of our walk, we were talking about kissing and she mentioned she had an A+ in kissing (jokingly). when we got closer to her house she said “what are we doing now.” i had no idea what to say because i did not want to make it seem like i was inviting myself to her house. i gave her a hug goodbye but did not kiss her, i was so nervous and was already developing a crush on her. she seemed pretty nervous too.
we hung out a few more times. she always texts me first. one time i texted her “i would kiss you all over your body.” and she said “no. I’m gross.” i realized late that that was an objection, not a rejection.
we continue to hang out, and she is unable to hold eye contact with me. i feel like that might be because she likes me, or because she is submissive and shy. its hard to create some tension when she won’t even look at me for more than a split second.
I confessed my feelings for her and she said this “i like you a bunch too, i actually dont know in what way because I’m trying to be heartless and not like anyone right now because i have trust issues.”
she does not like staying at her apartment because it is small. she is always going outside to walk or read at the beach. so she is often looking for someone to join her, so we go for a lot of walks or we go out to eat. she has barely any friends - they all went home for the summer. on our walks around town i often see people i know and she has said “you know everyone!” to me. and i think she is using me as a “provider” for company and for social activities like parties.
I never made a move, and i am kicking myself over it. i recently started using a bit of touch with her, just touching her arms when we are talking and creating moments of incidental touch. just this past weekend we were talking and she was comparing our conversations to the ones she used to have with her ex, and saying that we connect well.
what do you think? as i type this out it really does sound like I’m in the friend zone. its been a MONTH since i met her and i have failed to kiss her despite hanging out with her so much - even alone. although i have been employing some sexual frames and light touch lately and she was touching me a little bit at a party we were at last weekend.
i do like her a lot but there is no hope for a relationship since we are both moving away at the end of august. how can i learn from this experience? should i kiss her? she is sexually liberated, we talk about sex often, i want to be friends with benefits with her. let me know what you think.
when we hung out, we went for a walk around town. she likes to be active! we connected well. due to my living situation i cant bring girls back to my house. towards the end of our walk, we were talking about kissing and she mentioned she had an A+ in kissing (jokingly). when we got closer to her house she said “what are we doing now.” i had no idea what to say because i did not want to make it seem like i was inviting myself to her house. i gave her a hug goodbye but did not kiss her, i was so nervous and was already developing a crush on her. she seemed pretty nervous too.
we hung out a few more times. she always texts me first. one time i texted her “i would kiss you all over your body.” and she said “no. I’m gross.” i realized late that that was an objection, not a rejection.
we continue to hang out, and she is unable to hold eye contact with me. i feel like that might be because she likes me, or because she is submissive and shy. its hard to create some tension when she won’t even look at me for more than a split second.
I confessed my feelings for her and she said this “i like you a bunch too, i actually dont know in what way because I’m trying to be heartless and not like anyone right now because i have trust issues.”
she does not like staying at her apartment because it is small. she is always going outside to walk or read at the beach. so she is often looking for someone to join her, so we go for a lot of walks or we go out to eat. she has barely any friends - they all went home for the summer. on our walks around town i often see people i know and she has said “you know everyone!” to me. and i think she is using me as a “provider” for company and for social activities like parties.
I never made a move, and i am kicking myself over it. i recently started using a bit of touch with her, just touching her arms when we are talking and creating moments of incidental touch. just this past weekend we were talking and she was comparing our conversations to the ones she used to have with her ex, and saying that we connect well.
what do you think? as i type this out it really does sound like I’m in the friend zone. its been a MONTH since i met her and i have failed to kiss her despite hanging out with her so much - even alone. although i have been employing some sexual frames and light touch lately and she was touching me a little bit at a party we were at last weekend.
i do like her a lot but there is no hope for a relationship since we are both moving away at the end of august. how can i learn from this experience? should i kiss her? she is sexually liberated, we talk about sex often, i want to be friends with benefits with her. let me know what you think.
