Just wanted to update you guys on an outing report.
I am living in Hanoi vietnam. I have huge approach anxiety for girls that I do not know and it freaks me out, so I usually just keep to myself. I am reading a book to help me overcome approach anxiety and it seems to be working well.
I had no plans to meet girls today, just sit at a coffee shop and discuss the approach anxiety book with a friend (since we are discussing it together). As I was leaving the coffee shop there were three cute girls (I had noticed them while in the coffee shop). As I was leaving one of them looked at me and pointed and whispered something to her friend.
I decided to take the initiative and approached. Everything was a little blur as my heart was beating pretty fast, but I talked to them, the book suggests to go slow and at this point advises just to talk without a goal (SNL, dating, or asking a number), so I talked to them for a few minutes. The approach seemed to go well. I then walked away and thanked them for their time. I had followed what the book had suggested.
But as I was getting on my motorbike to leave I began to regret not getting at least one number and I knew that it would eat at me for a few days, especially as it seemed to be going so well.
I then walked over to the prettiest girl and said "Linh do you have zalo, instagram or facebook". Her friends giggled and she said yes, We then exchanged zalo (a vietnamese messaging app). I thanked her and left.
I have been messaging her a few days and I am on cloud 9. I am super surprised and happy I was able to do that.
So just wanted to share this small win
I am living in Hanoi vietnam. I have huge approach anxiety for girls that I do not know and it freaks me out, so I usually just keep to myself. I am reading a book to help me overcome approach anxiety and it seems to be working well.
I had no plans to meet girls today, just sit at a coffee shop and discuss the approach anxiety book with a friend (since we are discussing it together). As I was leaving the coffee shop there were three cute girls (I had noticed them while in the coffee shop). As I was leaving one of them looked at me and pointed and whispered something to her friend.
I decided to take the initiative and approached. Everything was a little blur as my heart was beating pretty fast, but I talked to them, the book suggests to go slow and at this point advises just to talk without a goal (SNL, dating, or asking a number), so I talked to them for a few minutes. The approach seemed to go well. I then walked away and thanked them for their time. I had followed what the book had suggested.
But as I was getting on my motorbike to leave I began to regret not getting at least one number and I knew that it would eat at me for a few days, especially as it seemed to be going so well.
I then walked over to the prettiest girl and said "Linh do you have zalo, instagram or facebook". Her friends giggled and she said yes, We then exchanged zalo (a vietnamese messaging app). I thanked her and left.
I have been messaging her a few days and I am on cloud 9. I am super surprised and happy I was able to do that.
So just wanted to share this small win
