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There was this party that was advertised through Facebook, one of my friends sent me an invite so I checked the list of people who had accepted to go. It didn't look like too much of a sausagefest, and it was one of the few, rare house parties that happen around here so I said why not. I called my friend to go to the city to buy some props.
In the end we went for a sterotypical cop look with a police radio, handcuffs, pair of aviators, fake 'stache and a cap. When we entered the building it was obvious that we were only one of the few people who had bothered to dress up, my friend and I shrugged it off and thought that we could use it to our advantage to stand out from the hordes of tshirt/jeans college dudes and easily open sets. I wanted to do a shotgun opening and get a feel of the building and the cute girl population inside but when we went to get our drinks and walked through the whole building we saw that almost everybody was in packs of 10, with 8 guys trying to get attention of 2 girls with one of them being somewhat cute. After some time, we saw three cute girls standing by themselves in one of the living rooms so we went up to them and teased them a bit with a police style questioning. After that I used a pregnant pause and then the blonde girl next to me looked at my radio and asked something about it, so I could see she was investing in the conversation. Well, the rest of the girls looked very cold and my I could hear and sense my friend's futile attempts to find common ground with those girls and get them to open up.
Anyways, I talk with this girl for about 45 minutes or so, and I increase the intensity of my touch and decrease distance between us. We were getting closer and closer to make ourselves heard through the loud music and drunk people. I wanted to weave in a sexual tone into our conversation too, but for some reason I couldn't do it, I've got to work on that. Bu this girl was really hooked into the conversation and was telling me about her dreams, childhood, and friends, with a wide smile on her face. As our eyes were locked together her cockblock attempting friends kept coming back and walking away in regular intervals to pull her to the rest of the group. After one particular instance, she whispered to my ears "my friends keep asking me if 'I'm going to talk to that guy the whole night', but it's amazing to talk to you". I knew I could easily physically escalate with her if I could get ourselves just a tad bit away from the party crowd so after realizing we had finished our drinks I lead her to the kitchen. There I poured us some drinks and we could continue talking in the corner where it was a bit more secluded. While we were talking a couple of guys came by and this girl went up to hug them and make some small talk, so I did my usual bored look, sipped some of my drink and eyed the drunk girl across the stairs. Shortly after, my girl came back and immediately explained that "those were just some friends", which I find is a good sign that girls automatically make when they feel invested in a conversation. Also, this girl was pretty bold in her body language too, so when she was explaining how she used to fight with her siblings she grabbed my throat and slowly pulled me closer. I did the same to her, saying "oh like that?", with a bit of tease and fun added.
Then it happened, she took out her phone, laughed at her friends' messages asking her to go back with them and asked me to write a message to them. It was fine until she checked her other message where she had a photo with a guy in the background, and then she explained "My boyfriend want me to report to him what I'm doing every hour! ugh!". I didn't show any reaction to that and kept my cool, but I was a bit disappointed for putting time and effort to this girl and her dropping this bf-bomb on me now. I'd thought about asking whether or not she was single earlier on, but I figured if she ignored her friends away and was open to getting more physical, she was either single or didn't care. After that she said her friends were getting more restless and reminding her that she had a boyfriend, so she said "I told them I'm not doing anything". I hear this often too, some girls like to vocalize and proclaim that they have boyfriends or that they aren't "doing anything" before they get more involved.
She then told me she had to go to the bathroom, and asked me to promise her that we'd meet each other there later on. Then we split off. I saw two girls that were standing on the opposite corner so I went to talk with them, thinking it was the best thing to do rather than waiting like a puppy. This girl wasn't attractive or interesting in the least, but I talked with her for some time. Then I found a couple of my friends upstairs and chatted with them. After 10 minutes, I saw my girl again and went up to her. I wanted to use the "if it weren't for X, I'd be carrying you to the back of the room/taking you home/kissing you now" thing, and I wasn't even sure if it's effective or a good move to use it with her "not being single" but I did it anyway. She said she wished she was single, and she'd been going out with him since April. This is the problematic part, she said "You're a nice guy, I can talk to many thing with you" and earlier on she had used "us vs them" theme by herself by creating a hypothetical scenario, which was an awesome indicator of the deep dive being effective. But the "nice guy" thing is something I come across more frequently than I'd like, other girls which I made out with or took to bed had even used that "nice" word once too. I'm not sure if their word choice is an indication of me needing to up my assholeness and bad boy dials, or simply enjoying kissing them and taking the rest to bed and ignoring their words.
So after both of us mentioning we wished we'd met at a different time (may sound cheesy but I figured if she's mentioning she's got a bf as if she's regretting she had to make that decision, she doesn't want to cheat), she leaned towards me and said "You know, you can kiss me" so I did. After that she said maybe we'll see each other when we're single and we could keep in contact. I took out my phone and got her info, then she said she was going to say goodbye to some of her friends who were leaving.
There was an asian girl and a brunette that were checking me out throughout the night so I went up to them one after the other, then easily went for a kiss with both of them after some banter. But I couldn't escalate or take them away because their friends were physically pulling them from me, mostly drunk guys who had been standing in the corner all night and some other girls. And the girls were just enjoying all the attention they were getting, so I needed to put in more effort to isolate them to come home with me.
I had enough that night, so I found my girl again as she was leaving, told her to take care and kissed her goodbye.
I did send an icebreaker the next day:
I'll just keep her on the backburner, see if her relationship status changes and then invite her out to a simple coffee with some callback humor to jump-start her memory.
I later found out my friend had left for home just after getting blown out by the other girls, so I thought I had a relatively better night but then again that's not saying much. I've got to visit some nearby cities which I hear is much more lively and with a diverse student population. And I've got to work on showing my sexualness, both in demeanor and conversations.
In the end we went for a sterotypical cop look with a police radio, handcuffs, pair of aviators, fake 'stache and a cap. When we entered the building it was obvious that we were only one of the few people who had bothered to dress up, my friend and I shrugged it off and thought that we could use it to our advantage to stand out from the hordes of tshirt/jeans college dudes and easily open sets. I wanted to do a shotgun opening and get a feel of the building and the cute girl population inside but when we went to get our drinks and walked through the whole building we saw that almost everybody was in packs of 10, with 8 guys trying to get attention of 2 girls with one of them being somewhat cute. After some time, we saw three cute girls standing by themselves in one of the living rooms so we went up to them and teased them a bit with a police style questioning. After that I used a pregnant pause and then the blonde girl next to me looked at my radio and asked something about it, so I could see she was investing in the conversation. Well, the rest of the girls looked very cold and my I could hear and sense my friend's futile attempts to find common ground with those girls and get them to open up.
Anyways, I talk with this girl for about 45 minutes or so, and I increase the intensity of my touch and decrease distance between us. We were getting closer and closer to make ourselves heard through the loud music and drunk people. I wanted to weave in a sexual tone into our conversation too, but for some reason I couldn't do it, I've got to work on that. Bu this girl was really hooked into the conversation and was telling me about her dreams, childhood, and friends, with a wide smile on her face. As our eyes were locked together her cockblock attempting friends kept coming back and walking away in regular intervals to pull her to the rest of the group. After one particular instance, she whispered to my ears "my friends keep asking me if 'I'm going to talk to that guy the whole night', but it's amazing to talk to you". I knew I could easily physically escalate with her if I could get ourselves just a tad bit away from the party crowd so after realizing we had finished our drinks I lead her to the kitchen. There I poured us some drinks and we could continue talking in the corner where it was a bit more secluded. While we were talking a couple of guys came by and this girl went up to hug them and make some small talk, so I did my usual bored look, sipped some of my drink and eyed the drunk girl across the stairs. Shortly after, my girl came back and immediately explained that "those were just some friends", which I find is a good sign that girls automatically make when they feel invested in a conversation. Also, this girl was pretty bold in her body language too, so when she was explaining how she used to fight with her siblings she grabbed my throat and slowly pulled me closer. I did the same to her, saying "oh like that?", with a bit of tease and fun added.
Then it happened, she took out her phone, laughed at her friends' messages asking her to go back with them and asked me to write a message to them. It was fine until she checked her other message where she had a photo with a guy in the background, and then she explained "My boyfriend want me to report to him what I'm doing every hour! ugh!". I didn't show any reaction to that and kept my cool, but I was a bit disappointed for putting time and effort to this girl and her dropping this bf-bomb on me now. I'd thought about asking whether or not she was single earlier on, but I figured if she ignored her friends away and was open to getting more physical, she was either single or didn't care. After that she said her friends were getting more restless and reminding her that she had a boyfriend, so she said "I told them I'm not doing anything". I hear this often too, some girls like to vocalize and proclaim that they have boyfriends or that they aren't "doing anything" before they get more involved.
She then told me she had to go to the bathroom, and asked me to promise her that we'd meet each other there later on. Then we split off. I saw two girls that were standing on the opposite corner so I went to talk with them, thinking it was the best thing to do rather than waiting like a puppy. This girl wasn't attractive or interesting in the least, but I talked with her for some time. Then I found a couple of my friends upstairs and chatted with them. After 10 minutes, I saw my girl again and went up to her. I wanted to use the "if it weren't for X, I'd be carrying you to the back of the room/taking you home/kissing you now" thing, and I wasn't even sure if it's effective or a good move to use it with her "not being single" but I did it anyway. She said she wished she was single, and she'd been going out with him since April. This is the problematic part, she said "You're a nice guy, I can talk to many thing with you" and earlier on she had used "us vs them" theme by herself by creating a hypothetical scenario, which was an awesome indicator of the deep dive being effective. But the "nice guy" thing is something I come across more frequently than I'd like, other girls which I made out with or took to bed had even used that "nice" word once too. I'm not sure if their word choice is an indication of me needing to up my assholeness and bad boy dials, or simply enjoying kissing them and taking the rest to bed and ignoring their words.
So after both of us mentioning we wished we'd met at a different time (may sound cheesy but I figured if she's mentioning she's got a bf as if she's regretting she had to make that decision, she doesn't want to cheat), she leaned towards me and said "You know, you can kiss me" so I did. After that she said maybe we'll see each other when we're single and we could keep in contact. I took out my phone and got her info, then she said she was going to say goodbye to some of her friends who were leaving.
There was an asian girl and a brunette that were checking me out throughout the night so I went up to them one after the other, then easily went for a kiss with both of them after some banter. But I couldn't escalate or take them away because their friends were physically pulling them from me, mostly drunk guys who had been standing in the corner all night and some other girls. And the girls were just enjoying all the attention they were getting, so I needed to put in more effort to isolate them to come home with me.
I had enough that night, so I found my girl again as she was leaving, told her to take care and kissed her goodbye.
I did send an icebreaker the next day:
Me: Glad to have met you-lingua
Her: Same here
I'll just keep her on the backburner, see if her relationship status changes and then invite her out to a simple coffee with some callback humor to jump-start her memory.
I later found out my friend had left for home just after getting blown out by the other girls, so I thought I had a relatively better night but then again that's not saying much. I've got to visit some nearby cities which I hear is much more lively and with a diverse student population. And I've got to work on showing my sexualness, both in demeanor and conversations.
