Having a good, solid and long term frame is like a blue print, sort of a map. When you walk in nature, you don't have to stare in the map all the time, you would miss the whole point (being in the nature). Just occasionally you check and correct your direction. For that you of course have to know where are you going first, otherwise all the maps are useless...
So first thing to do is to make it clear what kind of relationship you want to be in. Monogamous? Open? Long term? Bang 50 girls in 50 days? That's your destination, that's where you are going. The more detailed the map is, the better the direction will be - the more details you put in your frame, the better for you and your relationship...
Once you know where you are going with the current relationship it is much easier to set some frame. For example:
Long term relationship:
She has to respect you, otherwise you are gone, betanized, pussy whipped, then dumped. You have to make decisions, at least the major ones. There has to be good communication, you should know what is she feeling and thinking about your relationship. She has to do things for you, not just you doing things for her.
As the time goes you can improve the LT frame, add to it, modify it, but the core remains the same. Note that you don't have to do these things every single day, just occasionally, when needed. You may not need the frame for months, perhaps even years. But when occasion arises, you have to use it.
So what happens if you have clear LT frame?
* Say she disrespect you. You immediately realize that as the alarm sounds in your brain. When she disrespect you, you should hear very unpleasant noise in your head and red flashing light, that is the alarm. You don't have to react immediately, you can take time to make some plan how to correct it. But you have to correct it, she needs to know that this will not be tolerated.
* Say she is becoming too dominant, too commanding, making too many choices. Another alarm sounds, another huge red light. So now you have to correct your direction, you have to assert some dominance over her. So more decisions, more stubbornness, tell her or express more of the "No", till she backs down.
* Say you have decided for 100% monogamous relationship, yet she started to talk about her old BF, that she wants to go visit him. She of course make it seem that it is totally innocent, just a silly good old 'hi'. Alarm sounds, another "No". She needs to be clear that this is not acceptable, and she needs to know that if she does it anyway (disrespect your clear wishes) you will walk away...
Many great things can be done with good and solid frames. If you find a good/classy girl, you won't even need much of a frame, she will automatically do things with you and for you, as she is totally respecting you as her man. Sounds like a fantasy, but girls like that are there...
Another example, bang 50 girls in 50 days:
So you have a goal: 50 in 50.
Is it realistic? Well, that is 1 girl per day. With little luck it is possibly doable, but it requires too much effort, too much stress... That is no good, stress is no good... 50 in 50 sounds like a fantasy anyway, unless you are ready for sport fuck it will not work out...
So you modify the frame, perhaps 50 girls in 1 year? That is approx. 1 girl per week. Not bad, definitely more realistic, and you can take 2 weeks vacation.
So what you have to do? Well, you can't waste much time on one girl. You got to be moving fast. You need huge abundance mentality. You need more cockiness and sexiness. You need to approach more girls and you need to be bolder, more focused on getting laid that particular girl. You need to have good solid strategy, good logistic. You have to cut down on emotions, girls are sweet and sexy, but you just can't fall in love with one... you don't have time to be investing emotionally into one particular girl. You have to be approaching girls left and right to get more choices, to have more options...
Quality frame:
So what does that mean? That means you want to have quality relationship with that particular girl. Which also means long term relationship, good investment from both sides. It most likely means monogamy. It means that there should be love, and if not at least great friendship. There have to be good vibes, there have to be common things that you both like. There should be the same religion (if religion is important to one or both of you), perhaps you should be even from the same culture. Sounds like something that is easy to overcome, but after couple of years you may feel the "differences", and you may not like it. If you love fitness and while she is gaining 10 pounds every year, well, in 5 years you will not like it, and in 10 years you will hate it. For quality, you have to understand that you can't just sit home and play games while she is watching movies. You have to do things together, travel, go to galleries, experience and share the world around you... You have to discuss things, communicate, share feelings,... You have to monitor where the relationship is currently, and where it is going... You have to adjust it if it is not going where you want to... So quality frame doesn't just fall into your lap, it actually requires quite of an active effort, constant and active refreshment of the relationship... Quality frame is difficult to achieve because you have to do lots of things, lots of investment of your time and effort into one particular girl, not even mentioning that she should be doing exactly the same...
Lazy frame:
It is just what it is. Maybe she will show up in your life, maybe not. Maybe the relationship will work out, maybe not. It requires no effort, sort of pasive approach. It may feel good because you don't have to do much, you are just sort of drafting. Perhaps it doesn't even seem like a frame, but think twice: Even lazy frame is a frame, it gets you exactly where your objection is...
