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Ok, so thinking back, I've come to the realization that perhaps the reason I run into LMR literally every single date is because I consistently paint myself as BF material. That is- a girl believes that she can make me into a boyfriend. Even when I use BF disqualifies, it seems that some girls don't give up on the prospect of it. I know this because:
- Girls are rarely directly and openly sexual with me. In fact, the only reason I know for sure they're interested (which is almost every time), is because of their body language and because I rarely get kiss rejections. I've noticed that some of the higher level guys definitely post some LRs where girls make direct sexual comments and/or have very sexual conversations. In my case, the convos are mostly platonic. They're fun, but they're platonic. With the exception of a chase frame here and there. I'm not entirely sure how to use sex talk to make a conversation sexual.
- Girls seem to want to sleep with me on first dates... its not that they lack sufficient attraction or connection. I know this because throughout LMR, they'll often use phrases like "I don't do that on a first date" or "I don't do that with guys I just met" or "I won't let you do xyz on a first date".
-They often go out of their way to demonstrate just how "picky/conservative" they are when it comes to sex. Typically via telling me stories about how their friends hooked up fast with xyz guy, but they would never do that. Or by telling stories of things they've done with guys, but intentionally leaving out the fact that she obviously slept with him (usually there'll be gaps in her story or it just won't make sense. But if we assume she slept with the guy, the pieces start to come together).
I feel like my fundamentals are ok. I don't think sexiness is a problem. Cause I've gotten to a point where girls are consistently opening me at parties, and almost every girl I talk to seems to be at the very least, attracted to me. So I can't help but think this is a mistake I'm making with my actual game/verbal communication.
How do I prevent this from happening in the future?
- Girls are rarely directly and openly sexual with me. In fact, the only reason I know for sure they're interested (which is almost every time), is because of their body language and because I rarely get kiss rejections. I've noticed that some of the higher level guys definitely post some LRs where girls make direct sexual comments and/or have very sexual conversations. In my case, the convos are mostly platonic. They're fun, but they're platonic. With the exception of a chase frame here and there. I'm not entirely sure how to use sex talk to make a conversation sexual.
- Girls seem to want to sleep with me on first dates... its not that they lack sufficient attraction or connection. I know this because throughout LMR, they'll often use phrases like "I don't do that on a first date" or "I don't do that with guys I just met" or "I won't let you do xyz on a first date".
-They often go out of their way to demonstrate just how "picky/conservative" they are when it comes to sex. Typically via telling me stories about how their friends hooked up fast with xyz guy, but they would never do that. Or by telling stories of things they've done with guys, but intentionally leaving out the fact that she obviously slept with him (usually there'll be gaps in her story or it just won't make sense. But if we assume she slept with the guy, the pieces start to come together).
I feel like my fundamentals are ok. I don't think sexiness is a problem. Cause I've gotten to a point where girls are consistently opening me at parties, and almost every girl I talk to seems to be at the very least, attracted to me. So I can't help but think this is a mistake I'm making with my actual game/verbal communication.
How do I prevent this from happening in the future?
