FR Park approach after IOIs with cute blonde

[Orgasmatron]

Hey dudes,

I'm a bit confused about this one.

So, I'm in the park near my home, just chilling, listening to headphones for about 10 minutes.

There is a very cute wee blonde sitting about 10 feet away to my right, she's was there before I arrived. She gets up, walks past me, looks at me, smiles, and then sits down a similar distance to my left.

So, I think, cool, that's a definite IOI. And she looks super cute, she's petite, slim, midrift showing, looks very cool, sunglasses, nicely dressed, very much my type.

I can't help myself, so I go over and say hi, Indirect opener. Ask if I can sit down, start chatting to her like we already know one another.

One compliment after a while, I like your sunglasses.

We are chatting away, she's laughing, obviously comfortable talking to me, we are both having a fun time, talking about lots of things, travel, she's a primary school teacher, bagpipes are awful aren't they, lots of other stuff.

5 minutes in she mentions a partner in passing, so I think okay, spoken for, but 'partner' not boyfriend, so I think, must be gay.

She's nice to talk too, we are having fun so I hang around for a bit and we keep chatting. It's all good.

But I'm super confused now, it all seemed to be going well, but it seems like I was never going to get anywhere to begin with.

Why am I getting IOIs from a girl who either has a boyfriend (maybe) or is gay (probably)?

You're going to say the partner was made up because my vibe was off or something like that, but she didn't make a big deal of it, so it wasn't used as a blatant clear off and leave me alone thing, and nothing changed in regards to how she was behaving afterwards. She was asking me stuff about myself and was still happy to be there, it all seemed to be going well. Partner was mentioned in passing a bit later too. So I thought there was no point in asking her out.

There wasn't anything I could think of that would've turned the approach bad. We are both laughing and having fun. I didn't do anything to sexualise things that would make her go "oh I'd better mention my partner so he doesn't get the wrong idea".

I don't know how to sexualise the interaction btw, I'm working on that.

I was doing some eye contact, it's hard to tell when she's wearing sunglasses, and she took them off after a while, dunno if that means anything.

So, pretty confused about it.

Fun side note - 2 gay guys sitting nearby, and one kept looking over and seemed to look impressed that I'd just sat down and started to chat up this girl, and was making her laugh, so that was good.

Anyway, I thought that was a clear IOI, but apparently not, so pretty confused about the whole thing.

I'm a bit annoyed about it now tbh. She was lovely. What are we not going out together at the weekend? It's not right.

Any thoughts?

 

[Fuck This]

Ten Feet away I'd have engaged her without moving, then moved closer when she responded.

So she mentions partner in passing. I've had that with a woman who was Eyefucking me. She said "We" in reference to something she did. I pried by saying "So who is the other part of "WE"? She clarified it was her husband, who was a few yards away from us, and we continued our conversation .

Later in the day her attention to me served as a social proof with another couple of women. It also served as a good reference for what material worked well. Sometimes taken women are a lot bolder about building attraction because they can feed the fire and then say "but I'm taken , sorry" after putting on the flirt. But I knew that so I thought I'd try some stuff to see what intrigued her since she was the type I wanted.

With that in mind I'd have pried about the partner. I'd joke around the idea of her partner being my wing man/girl. Maybe he/she has a good looking ex I should meet? Warning...This takes a lot of calibration and is pretty advanced.

 

[Orgasmatron]

Ten Feet away I'd have engaged her without moving, then moved closer when she responded.

So she mentions partner in passing. I've had that with a woman who was Eyefucking me. She said "We" in reference to something she did. I pried by saying "So who is the other part of "WE"? She clarified it was her husband, who was a few yards away from us, and we continued our conversation .

Later in the day her attention to me served as a social proof with another couple of women. It also served as a good reference for what material worked well. Sometimes taken women are a lot bolder about building attraction because they can feed the fire and then say "but I'm taken , sorry" after putting on the flirt. But I knew that so I thought I'd try some stuff to see what intrigued her since she was the type I wanted.

With that in mind I'd have pried about the partner. I'd joke around the idea of her partner being my wing man/girl. Maybe he/she has a good looking ex I should meet? Warning...This takes a lot of calibration and is pretty advanced.

Cool, thanks

Some interesting ideas there.

Tbh I wasn't even out looking to talk to girls, was still feeling a bit unwell after my weekend accident. 10 ft seems quite close, maybe it was 20. It was nearby anyway. It was only when she walked past and looked and smiled and sat down not far away that I thought, hang on she's quite cute and why would you move from there to there, made no sense. And my initial approach was not great but it didn't seem to matter.

I realised later that I had no AA and felt compelled to go talk to her after getting the approach invitation, so I'm taking that as a win here.

I need to work on being more than funny chatty guy though.

So the husband didn't mind you chatting up his wife? Wow.

I've asked about the partner before when I've been turned down. Just in a friendly way, ask how long they've been going out and stuff like that kindof because it's where the conversation has gone and also to not be all butthurt about it. I figure you might run into her a few months later and if the bf is history or she's with a friend, then you're still a cool guy rather than guy who reacted badly when she said no thanks.

That's a good idea about playing with that a bit though, I'll add that to my arsenal.

Cheers