Patterning

[foxman2]

What I am realizing is that our minds pick up on patterns at a subconscious level, if not a conscious level.

Girls will reject guys because they have rejected similar guys in the past. They see you have a similar approach and demeanor, and they assume that you are therefore the same. This is why being different makes a big difference. Many girls are approached a lot, and therefore are more skilled at picking up social behaviors than men. This is why they have such an advantage in the interactions compared to the average guy.

Enter the pick up philosophy- approaching many women regularly. The only way to become better at picking up social patterns, is to approach many women, so you have reference points. After a while, you will easily be able to tell which girls like you, which do not, and you will even be able to pick up on the very subtle cues that girls can give in a social situation. You will be able to calibrate much better if you have many reference points, and you will have an advantage in the interaction compared to the girl, because you are consciously aware of what is going on, and your goals, whereas she probably isn't decided.

I have found myself getting much better at patterning, and have been able to read social situations much better than in my beginning stages. Now pick up is becoming very natural to me.

 

[Richard]

You are correct to an extent, our brains learn a lot through pairing (fire is hot, heat hurts, don't touch fire). In this case, heat is paired with pain, and we learn to not touch heat. Pairing is used at a subconscious level by everyone, women, men, animals, everything.

While it is true women may use pairing on men who have a similar pattern to previous men, think about most "previous men" for the average woman. Hounded over, asked basic auto-piloted questions, no intrigue, they auto reject those men, but not men who have learned what to do. Most women (except slightly above average women) have been approached enough to get a pattern, because the most beautiful women aren't approached because most men think she already has abundance and simply don't talk to her. Most guys think this, so, most guys don't approach, and it is actually the most beautiful women who are the most humbling. It takes a man with confidence to approach a woman correctly, and those men are almost never auto-rejected out of habitual pattern.