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When you approach a girl during the day , she may smile, play with her hair or even congratulate you on having the balls to approach.
She may entertain your questions, ask you a couple questions back and even give you her number,
All of these are great things and are more favourable than clear fuck off signals and outright rejections.
However, as I've approached girls in every situation imaginable during the day (including underground parking lots), there's one thing I've come to prioritize above others.
And it's a very simple one yet most guys don't even pay attention to it.
Here it is:
Observe how much physical distance the girl actively puts between you and her.
Easier to observe with girls who are standing.
With girls who are stationary (e.g. sitting in a cafe), observe how much of her body she turns away from you.
If she actively distances herself from you physically or she turns her body progressively away from you, then she's usually not interested OR something about your approach did not sit well with her.
And that holds true even if she's smiling or answering your questions
How do you use this information?
For beginners hitting on girls in public, this is key to know when to eject from an interaction.
If you approach a girl and she's literally walking away while answering your questions (unless she's clearly in a rush), that's a sign she's not into you or doesn't appreciate your approach (same thing at this stage tbh. she doesn't know you. she knows your fundamentals + approach)
You don't wanna be the guy who keeps hanging around a girl while she grows increasingly uncomfortable, especially in controlled settings like a mall or cafe.
(although the best thing to do, in my opinion, is to stay in the interaction until she clearly rejects you BUT that requires some basic level of social calibration)
For more intermediate cold approaches, this is feedback on how to adjust your approach and vibe.
The flipside is that if she's moving towards you, facing more of her body to you or reacting at least in a neutral way when you close in the distance, then it's a reliable sign you're doing a pretty good job so far in the interaction.
And especially if she's a quieter girl, don't miss out on her because she's not smiling and laughing.
Watch out for this sign and adjust.
You'll get a much clearer picture of which girls are into you, which girls aren't and how you can keep course correcting.
She may entertain your questions, ask you a couple questions back and even give you her number,
All of these are great things and are more favourable than clear fuck off signals and outright rejections.
However, as I've approached girls in every situation imaginable during the day (including underground parking lots), there's one thing I've come to prioritize above others.
And it's a very simple one yet most guys don't even pay attention to it.
Here it is:
Observe how much physical distance the girl actively puts between you and her.
Easier to observe with girls who are standing.
With girls who are stationary (e.g. sitting in a cafe), observe how much of her body she turns away from you.
If she actively distances herself from you physically or she turns her body progressively away from you, then she's usually not interested OR something about your approach did not sit well with her.
And that holds true even if she's smiling or answering your questions
How do you use this information?
For beginners hitting on girls in public, this is key to know when to eject from an interaction.
If you approach a girl and she's literally walking away while answering your questions (unless she's clearly in a rush), that's a sign she's not into you or doesn't appreciate your approach (same thing at this stage tbh. she doesn't know you. she knows your fundamentals + approach)
You don't wanna be the guy who keeps hanging around a girl while she grows increasingly uncomfortable, especially in controlled settings like a mall or cafe.
(although the best thing to do, in my opinion, is to stay in the interaction until she clearly rejects you BUT that requires some basic level of social calibration)
For more intermediate cold approaches, this is feedback on how to adjust your approach and vibe.
The flipside is that if she's moving towards you, facing more of her body to you or reacting at least in a neutral way when you close in the distance, then it's a reliable sign you're doing a pretty good job so far in the interaction.
And especially if she's a quieter girl, don't miss out on her because she's not smiling and laughing.
Watch out for this sign and adjust.
You'll get a much clearer picture of which girls are into you, which girls aren't and how you can keep course correcting.
