Pay Attention to THIS During A Day Game Approach (above other things)

[James D]

When you approach a girl during the day , she may smile, play with her hair or even congratulate you on having the balls to approach.

She may entertain your questions, ask you a couple questions back and even give you her number,

All of these are great things and are more favourable than clear fuck off signals and outright rejections.

However, as I've approached girls in every situation imaginable during the day (including underground parking lots), there's one thing I've come to prioritize above others.

And it's a very simple one yet most guys don't even pay attention to it.

Here it is:

Observe how much physical distance the girl actively puts between you and her.

Easier to observe with girls who are standing.

With girls who are stationary (e.g. sitting in a cafe), observe how much of her body she turns away from you.

If she actively distances herself from you physically or she turns her body progressively away from you, then she's usually not interested OR something about your approach did not sit well with her.

And that holds true even if she's smiling or answering your questions

How do you use this information?

For beginners hitting on girls in public, this is key to know when to eject from an interaction.

If you approach a girl and she's literally walking away while answering your questions (unless she's clearly in a rush), that's a sign she's not into you or doesn't appreciate your approach (same thing at this stage tbh. she doesn't know you. she knows your fundamentals + approach)

You don't wanna be the guy who keeps hanging around a girl while she grows increasingly uncomfortable, especially in controlled settings like a mall or cafe.

(although the best thing to do, in my opinion, is to stay in the interaction until she clearly rejects you BUT that requires some basic level of social calibration)

For more intermediate cold approaches, this is feedback on how to adjust your approach and vibe.

The flipside is that if she's moving towards you, facing more of her body to you or reacting at least in a neutral way when you close in the distance, then it's a reliable sign you're doing a pretty good job so far in the interaction.

And especially if she's a quieter girl, don't miss out on her because she's not smiling and laughing.

Watch out for this sign and adjust.

You'll get a much clearer picture of which girls are into you, which girls aren't and how you can keep course correcting.

 

[Atlas IV]

Great advice!

I've seen Youtube daygamers who aren't calibrated on this. They just keep getting sticking really close to her and end up triggering a "fight or flight" reaction.

I would also add: make it a priority to lock her in as quickly as possible (i.e. move her somewhere else, even if it's just a few feet to the side). Ideally, try to get positioned with her facing toward you while you are leaning against something - a railing, a wall, a lamp post, with your body facing outward.

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But maintain strong eye contact.

This enables you to close distance with her in a non-threatening way and helps create that "bubble" effect.

 

[James Cruse]

I think (like you mentioned) this is simply good for feedback on a small part of your interaction - a good way to indicate where you need to make adjustments, and even make those adjustments live.

But there’s been plenty of women turned away from me, continuing to walk, whatever during an approach during the day (or night) where I still had sex with them.
It happens to me alot when I approach women clearly going somewhere.

This is really more of a signal that you haven’t gotten to the hookpoint yet - rather than a total lack of interest.

It’s better to just test for compliance or even escalate compliance before reading too much into this signal.

 

[Stark]

You’re spot on. I’ve seen experienced coaches keep ploughing despite her moving or progressively facing away.

There’s a wisdom in seduction community that if she’s standing then you persist. The nuances of her body language indicators are lost in this approach.

In certain cases, these women are social savvy or polite thus not giving a clear fuck off signal causing the guy to persist.

I personally hadn’t paid much attention to this till coming across this post. I think this is a super reliable indicator.

But there’s been plenty of women turned away from me, continuing to walk, whatever during an approach during the day (or night) where I still had sex with them.
It happens to me alot when I approach women clearly going somewhere.

This is true. There are times you approach a girl who’s on the move, and she continues to walk away past the initial opener. In such scenarios, it’s better to test for compliance or recycle the opener to see if a hook point is reached.

After that her body language clearly indicates if it’s worth pushing further.

I’ve been going through my private notes of past approaches and I see many interactions where the girl didn’t contribute actively to the interaction. Making me count those as a botched interaction and deciding to exit early.

I remember some of my wings doing the same.

We’re leaving out such shy, introverted & potentially super submissive girls by not reading her body language accurately.

 

[James Cruse]

I’ve been going through my private notes of past approaches and I see many interactions where the girl didn’t contribute actively to the interaction. Making me count those as a botched interaction and deciding to exit early.

Yes, I think most or all the infield videos I see in products and on youtube - they just eject early if they can’t see big clear obvious signs they’ve hit the hookpoint and they feel like they’re floundering to come up with new conversation.

This misses a tonne of great women that are just fairly passive &/or introverted and are very interested and happy to just keep following whatever you’re doing and she doesn’t feel the need to contribute much.

Most nice sweet girls aren’t jumping out of their skin to contribute to a conversation with you, even if they’re ready to have your children.

Just keep going and get more compliance and escalate.