Every once in a while Chase posts an article on here that seems to hit on exactly what I'm currently dealing with... https://www.girlschase.com/content/7-si ... lationship
Been having a tough time with the girl I'm currently with and that article nailed what I've been facing. It started with her complaining about me not giving her enough affirmation and spending enough quality time with her which I took at face value. I tried to address this by spending some long weekends with her and giving some subtle compliments (I'm not one to shower a girl with "you're so beautiful" but if she is dressed up for date or wedding, etc. I will tell her she looks good/great). I took her complaints at face value but it seems I've made a misstep somewhere.
She's been moody and almost combative the past several weeks but was also complaining a lot about allergies and headaches so I took it with a grain of salt. This past week however a big shift took place, or so it felt like to me. She had been complaining about gaining weight and wanted to workout but couldn't find motivation without a friend. Apparently her friend agreed and so they are going to start frequenting the gym together. No problem - except it seems it is at the complete sacrifice of our time together. We usually hangout on Monday's - she said she already had plans to go to the gym so that's out. She then told me last night that "No more spending the night over at your place" as supposedly she and her friend are going to start meeting for early morning workouts on weekends. We normally split time at each other's places. Chase addresses this in the article...it sounds like she's checking out. This coupled with the constant disagreeing makes me really think she is starting to or on the way to checking out
My question is this: does it make sense to point this out to her? If so - do I approach it as: I'm really glad you are dedicating time to the gym but it feels like you are doing so you are checking out of this relationship. If you aren't willing to invest any time with me I cannot/will not break my back to see you. Let me know if you've faced this and what you think.
Been having a tough time with the girl I'm currently with and that article nailed what I've been facing. It started with her complaining about me not giving her enough affirmation and spending enough quality time with her which I took at face value. I tried to address this by spending some long weekends with her and giving some subtle compliments (I'm not one to shower a girl with "you're so beautiful" but if she is dressed up for date or wedding, etc. I will tell her she looks good/great). I took her complaints at face value but it seems I've made a misstep somewhere.
She's been moody and almost combative the past several weeks but was also complaining a lot about allergies and headaches so I took it with a grain of salt. This past week however a big shift took place, or so it felt like to me. She had been complaining about gaining weight and wanted to workout but couldn't find motivation without a friend. Apparently her friend agreed and so they are going to start frequenting the gym together. No problem - except it seems it is at the complete sacrifice of our time together. We usually hangout on Monday's - she said she already had plans to go to the gym so that's out. She then told me last night that "No more spending the night over at your place" as supposedly she and her friend are going to start meeting for early morning workouts on weekends. We normally split time at each other's places. Chase addresses this in the article...it sounds like she's checking out. This coupled with the constant disagreeing makes me really think she is starting to or on the way to checking out
My question is this: does it make sense to point this out to her? If so - do I approach it as: I'm really glad you are dedicating time to the gym but it feels like you are doing so you are checking out of this relationship. If you aren't willing to invest any time with me I cannot/will not break my back to see you. Let me know if you've faced this and what you think.
