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We met briefly at a bar over the weekend where I number closed her before going off and continuing partying elsewhere. She's a 23 y/o skinny brunette with two tattoos and shoulder length hair. Over text she is very enthusiastic, and is more than happy to meet up with me last night.
I get to the cafe a little late and join her. Build a little rapport, talk about her daily activities, her life, concerns, dreams, etc.
I set an adventure frame, and also a "don't be a square, be free thinking. A girl who blindly follows social conventions like the three date rule for sex is less respectable than a girl who knows what she wants. The most experienced women, even though they put on a front with people not in the know, are actually the fastest to bed...", etc. She also asks me about the last time I got in a fight and that story is great for preselection (the other guys were jealous I had so many girls).
Lot's of sex talk too (Example: "Her: So what's your greatest attribute? -- she wanted me to qualify about some skills here -- Me: Hmmm, definitely my dick. You?" Her: "Nice. My boobs.").
She's talking about how she wants to experiment and try new things. We've only been talking for a half hour, but okay, time to pull:
"Hey, it's kind of busy and loud in here. What say we go watch a movie and grab a nightcap somewhere quiet and peaceful."
She is on the fence and trying to decide about it. She keeps giving excuses like "It's getting late." "I'm tired", "My apartment's dirty", etc. The usual. I say stuff like "Oh, okay, you're leaving then?" to show that I'm not needy and I also address each individual excuse after she gives it and explain why it's not valid. The whole time she is biting her lip and unconsciously fondling an empty beer bottle.
She wants to keep hanging out with me (which I point out with the whole "I'm having a good time? (Yeah, me too) It would be cool if we continued hanging out (yeah, for sure. but what about another night?)."
I don't bend and say that we can meet up another night, because, since she's on the fence, I know that if I just keep persisting eventually she's going to say yes right now and it'll make the sex better.
She tries to change the topic a few times, but it's boring so I let my gaze trail off to the side a bit to show her this, and then I use silence to build the tension more before turning back to the topic of getting out of there after a reasonable amount of time has passed.
She ended up resisting my advances for about 20 more minutes, but eventually I get her to put her address in my phone (give it to her and go to the bathroom. When I come back, she's put it in there like I suggested). A little bit more and she seems to have made up her mind to leave again though. I ask her one last time (each time I come at it from a different angle), after we've shaken hands and said farewell and she's getting up to leave, if she was sure (Me: "Hey, tell you what...(long pause) are you really sure you don't want to keep hanging out tonight?"
She wasn't, and I reel her back in -- this time for the close. She mentions she has to walk the dog, and this was the plausible deniability she needed. She finally acquiesces after I say I was thinking about going for a walk anyway and that if she wants to go to bed after 5 minutes I can just leave.
Get to her place and go for a walk around the block with light banter and a good bit of touching. Go in her apartment, she gives me a cup of cranberry juice, I sit down on the couch, she sits down next to me, I pull her in while she's telling me about something and kiss her. She loses track of what she was saying and we escalate fast. After a few minutes of passionate foreplay I bed her with only a hint of LMR (only verbal token resistance when I suggest we move to the other room. I just pick her up and carry her there anyway). Seems like once I got her to let me over to her place, she was all ready to go.
Conclusion:
I was extra sexual, in particular using a good bit of sex talk, and this payed off big time with this girl, as she felt somewhat sexually restricted and thus was quite responsive to it. She wanted to be more open, so I was able to become that fantasy libertine for her. It's amazing how explicitly sexual you can be with a girl you just met. Not all girls like it, but it can be a great tool for breaking them out of their shells.
Love it when a girl is on the fence and putting up resistance earlier on in the date. This suggests that she's into you but doesn't know if your'e going to be judgmental about moving fast or thinking less of her for not putting up a stronger resistance. Reassure her that you respect women who move fast more than those who move slow, as the fast ones know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it.
Hope you enjoyed this LR,
Howell
I get to the cafe a little late and join her. Build a little rapport, talk about her daily activities, her life, concerns, dreams, etc.
I set an adventure frame, and also a "don't be a square, be free thinking. A girl who blindly follows social conventions like the three date rule for sex is less respectable than a girl who knows what she wants. The most experienced women, even though they put on a front with people not in the know, are actually the fastest to bed...", etc. She also asks me about the last time I got in a fight and that story is great for preselection (the other guys were jealous I had so many girls).
Lot's of sex talk too (Example: "Her: So what's your greatest attribute? -- she wanted me to qualify about some skills here -- Me: Hmmm, definitely my dick. You?" Her: "Nice. My boobs.").
She's talking about how she wants to experiment and try new things. We've only been talking for a half hour, but okay, time to pull:
"Hey, it's kind of busy and loud in here. What say we go watch a movie and grab a nightcap somewhere quiet and peaceful."
She is on the fence and trying to decide about it. She keeps giving excuses like "It's getting late." "I'm tired", "My apartment's dirty", etc. The usual. I say stuff like "Oh, okay, you're leaving then?" to show that I'm not needy and I also address each individual excuse after she gives it and explain why it's not valid. The whole time she is biting her lip and unconsciously fondling an empty beer bottle.
She wants to keep hanging out with me (which I point out with the whole "I'm having a good time? (Yeah, me too) It would be cool if we continued hanging out (yeah, for sure. but what about another night?)."
I don't bend and say that we can meet up another night, because, since she's on the fence, I know that if I just keep persisting eventually she's going to say yes right now and it'll make the sex better.
She tries to change the topic a few times, but it's boring so I let my gaze trail off to the side a bit to show her this, and then I use silence to build the tension more before turning back to the topic of getting out of there after a reasonable amount of time has passed.
She ended up resisting my advances for about 20 more minutes, but eventually I get her to put her address in my phone (give it to her and go to the bathroom. When I come back, she's put it in there like I suggested). A little bit more and she seems to have made up her mind to leave again though. I ask her one last time (each time I come at it from a different angle), after we've shaken hands and said farewell and she's getting up to leave, if she was sure (Me: "Hey, tell you what...(long pause) are you really sure you don't want to keep hanging out tonight?"
She wasn't, and I reel her back in -- this time for the close. She mentions she has to walk the dog, and this was the plausible deniability she needed. She finally acquiesces after I say I was thinking about going for a walk anyway and that if she wants to go to bed after 5 minutes I can just leave.
Get to her place and go for a walk around the block with light banter and a good bit of touching. Go in her apartment, she gives me a cup of cranberry juice, I sit down on the couch, she sits down next to me, I pull her in while she's telling me about something and kiss her. She loses track of what she was saying and we escalate fast. After a few minutes of passionate foreplay I bed her with only a hint of LMR (only verbal token resistance when I suggest we move to the other room. I just pick her up and carry her there anyway). Seems like once I got her to let me over to her place, she was all ready to go.
Conclusion:
I was extra sexual, in particular using a good bit of sex talk, and this payed off big time with this girl, as she felt somewhat sexually restricted and thus was quite responsive to it. She wanted to be more open, so I was able to become that fantasy libertine for her. It's amazing how explicitly sexual you can be with a girl you just met. Not all girls like it, but it can be a great tool for breaking them out of their shells.
Love it when a girl is on the fence and putting up resistance earlier on in the date. This suggests that she's into you but doesn't know if your'e going to be judgmental about moving fast or thinking less of her for not putting up a stronger resistance. Reassure her that you respect women who move fast more than those who move slow, as the fast ones know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it.
Hope you enjoyed this LR,
Howell
