Soo I thought I will post this FR, because I was able to persist and get a girl to come on date with me while she wanted to spend the night solo or with her friends.
I think I would have gotten the lay as well if logistics were clear but that I will write in the end
Matched on friday
Opened with skills opener glad we matched
Checked with how her day is going.
(I prefer to meet on the day of match itself)
She asked about mine
said it will end with fun and chaos
she asked about chaos - good sign
I told her I will bring the fun … chaos she will add.
Then she said well she is indeed chaotically or I asked and then she said.
(Anyways she qualified to me)
then I ask how much in mood she is to be chaotic today
she said -1
(Its not personal always seek objection
I ask why
She is going on trek
I make few jokes about being corporate and then drop the convo
Reason we can’t meet no point over texting her
I will resume the convo when she is back.
Once she is back from trek
I make a light tease about physical activity but soften it with adding gym and workout
I have learned on dating apps arousal needs to be build if she bites a bit or it can lead to quick unmatch because of sounding too needy or girls know most guys want quick hook up
She builds on it by saying endorphins are good
I add so are oxytocins
Then say just kidding
And ask her about her trek
She replies goooooooood -> again a positive sign she is trying to communicate energy over text
Then she I just say it as it is
And make statement about trekking being her best hobby except talking to me (crude chase frame)
(I sent her this text at 2:30 am in night)
(When I meet her I was to learn I was about to be unmatched, you can trigger auto-rejection just by being too late to reply as well)
Today
I then say its your fault that you come in my mind at odd hours
Then a bit back and forth about
how she should not pry my mind
Then I ask what is she upto
She said work and sleep
-> green signal for me nothing planned
If I make the convo interesting we can get out
-> logistics sorted so we start the name guessing game
-> I have this standard routine to get the name right to grab drinks thing
( then branch off from there, alcohol, her name choices etc)
She is not able to guess my name but says her patience is running low
sooo I tell her my name and check why is it low
she says work
I say should not let the day end like this
then I ask her what she like to do
her dream is to drink and smoke up every day etc
Then I ask her how she wants to end the day
she says name of a bar famous here
Then I say time to make her dream come true
she is like how
then I do a few more baby steps to
(I was not in mood to rush, it was a good call you will see later)
We go to bar
she I have work
I said after work
she hmm
then I ask what time does she think is best
she says let’s do weekend
I am too dead for today
Objection now rest of my chat was spent on overcoming this objection
which I overcame by using open loops a bit of role play and making her invest over text by asking her to bring things for me.
She was adamant that she is looking dead so she cant meet me
I first turned the convo towards she calling me shallow and I am being offended by it
Added some banter to it
she wanted to go for drinks alone or with her friends
So then I switched the date plan from drinking to meet at the beach
this uses
Emotionally rich language
here is the text
Well I was just gonna we can actually skip the drink … sit besides sea … light some cigarettes … maybe speak or just hear sound of ocean
Still she was making plans
so this time I give her space
then she herself says
if I really want to meet her
I say I wanted to - still play slow and chill
Then finally I let her pick a beach near her place
she tells me she will come in pjs I am fine with it
she had nice tits anyways
now a bit more back and forth
and we exchange numbers
Now the date
she was really in Pjs I was shocked - not getting the lay cause any girl who wants it comes dressed to 9s
But then I learn she lives with her parents need to go back in an hour
I change my strategy to leaving at high point and enjoy my time
we walk and talk, I maintain same teasing and flirty persona I did on text
she eats up what I say
she don’t want to sit in dark now but I was asking for it in considering we had 1 hour or so
Eventually we do end up sitting close
we both write poems so show each other that, she bring talk about anime etc
then as she was reading my poem, I let my hand linger over her thigh she don’t removes it comfy
now suddenly we talking about sex she is shy and laughing so I know things are going right about it
I learn she has not slept with anyone from past 1.5 years
she even calls me being coy when I touch but don’t move things forward I don’t see a point it cause I can’t escalate anyways (was kicked out of a club and in public place there is always a risk that cops might beat u up, India)
so I keep teasing her and continue the finally date ends.
Date itself involved a lot of push pull which I like
- she said that guy is attractive I grab her hand and tell let me get his digit for you
- she did it cause she was butthurt from me being a tease
- touching her physically but saying otherwise verbally
Finally once she goes home she text me
That texting was good indicating future meet and solidifying her interest in me
But in the end I overgamed her over the text after date so now lets see.
Here are few last texts
Me: I wish the night was longer
She: same
me: Well but we will have more nights like this
she: one can hope
-> I should have stopped at this point
but my damn overdoing personality
Me: so you are hoping
-> no reply to this, she saw my message blue tick
-> I wait for 5 mins
-> then me : If you are that is two of us
(I send this so not to put her auto rejection but gave away my interest in massive way now)
No reply again, blue tick
-> ok sleep now good night
(Blue tick, no reply)
so I know I over did it
p.s. when the convo went sexual there were a lot of thing I like saying I am virgin she saying its her fantasy to teach a virgin etc
cuddling with male roommates, being bi and all
lot of it started by her whenever a women does it … its the biggest sign she is verbalising her arousal and her comfort of being aroused with you
I think I would have gotten the lay as well if logistics were clear but that I will write in the end
Matched on friday
Opened with skills opener glad we matched
Checked with how her day is going.
(I prefer to meet on the day of match itself)
She asked about mine
said it will end with fun and chaos
she asked about chaos - good sign
I told her I will bring the fun … chaos she will add.
Then she said well she is indeed chaotically or I asked and then she said.
(Anyways she qualified to me)
then I ask how much in mood she is to be chaotic today
she said -1
(Its not personal always seek objection
I ask why
She is going on trek
I make few jokes about being corporate and then drop the convo
Reason we can’t meet no point over texting her
I will resume the convo when she is back.
Once she is back from trek
I make a light tease about physical activity but soften it with adding gym and workout
I have learned on dating apps arousal needs to be build if she bites a bit or it can lead to quick unmatch because of sounding too needy or girls know most guys want quick hook up
She builds on it by saying endorphins are good
I add so are oxytocins
Then say just kidding
And ask her about her trek
She replies goooooooood -> again a positive sign she is trying to communicate energy over text
Then she I just say it as it is
And make statement about trekking being her best hobby except talking to me (crude chase frame)
(I sent her this text at 2:30 am in night)
(When I meet her I was to learn I was about to be unmatched, you can trigger auto-rejection just by being too late to reply as well)
Today
I then say its your fault that you come in my mind at odd hours
Then a bit back and forth about
how she should not pry my mind
Then I ask what is she upto
She said work and sleep
-> green signal for me nothing planned
If I make the convo interesting we can get out
-> logistics sorted so we start the name guessing game
-> I have this standard routine to get the name right to grab drinks thing
( then branch off from there, alcohol, her name choices etc)
She is not able to guess my name but says her patience is running low
sooo I tell her my name and check why is it low
she says work
I say should not let the day end like this
then I ask her what she like to do
her dream is to drink and smoke up every day etc
Then I ask her how she wants to end the day
she says name of a bar famous here
Then I say time to make her dream come true
she is like how
then I do a few more baby steps to
(I was not in mood to rush, it was a good call you will see later)
We go to bar
she I have work
I said after work
she hmm
then I ask what time does she think is best
she says let’s do weekend
I am too dead for today
Objection now rest of my chat was spent on overcoming this objection
which I overcame by using open loops a bit of role play and making her invest over text by asking her to bring things for me.
She was adamant that she is looking dead so she cant meet me
I first turned the convo towards she calling me shallow and I am being offended by it
Added some banter to it
she wanted to go for drinks alone or with her friends
So then I switched the date plan from drinking to meet at the beach
this uses
Emotionally rich language
here is the text
Well I was just gonna we can actually skip the drink … sit besides sea … light some cigarettes … maybe speak or just hear sound of ocean
Still she was making plans
so this time I give her space
then she herself says
if I really want to meet her
I say I wanted to - still play slow and chill
Then finally I let her pick a beach near her place
she tells me she will come in pjs I am fine with it
she had nice tits anyways
now a bit more back and forth
and we exchange numbers
Now the date
she was really in Pjs I was shocked - not getting the lay cause any girl who wants it comes dressed to 9s
But then I learn she lives with her parents need to go back in an hour
I change my strategy to leaving at high point and enjoy my time
we walk and talk, I maintain same teasing and flirty persona I did on text
she eats up what I say
she don’t want to sit in dark now but I was asking for it in considering we had 1 hour or so
Eventually we do end up sitting close
we both write poems so show each other that, she bring talk about anime etc
then as she was reading my poem, I let my hand linger over her thigh she don’t removes it comfy
now suddenly we talking about sex she is shy and laughing so I know things are going right about it
I learn she has not slept with anyone from past 1.5 years
she even calls me being coy when I touch but don’t move things forward I don’t see a point it cause I can’t escalate anyways (was kicked out of a club and in public place there is always a risk that cops might beat u up, India)
so I keep teasing her and continue the finally date ends.
Date itself involved a lot of push pull which I like
- she said that guy is attractive I grab her hand and tell let me get his digit for you
- she did it cause she was butthurt from me being a tease
- touching her physically but saying otherwise verbally
Finally once she goes home she text me
That texting was good indicating future meet and solidifying her interest in me
But in the end I overgamed her over the text after date so now lets see.
Here are few last texts
Me: I wish the night was longer
She: same
me: Well but we will have more nights like this
she: one can hope
-> I should have stopped at this point
but my damn overdoing personality
Me: so you are hoping
-> no reply to this, she saw my message blue tick
-> I wait for 5 mins
-> then me : If you are that is two of us
(I send this so not to put her auto rejection but gave away my interest in massive way now)
No reply again, blue tick
-> ok sleep now good night
(Blue tick, no reply)
so I know I over did it
p.s. when the convo went sexual there were a lot of thing I like saying I am virgin she saying its her fantasy to teach a virgin etc
cuddling with male roommates, being bi and all
lot of it started by her whenever a women does it … its the biggest sign she is verbalising her arousal and her comfort of being aroused with you
