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I've been using pre-selection a lot the last few months to rasie my value, which looks like low visible effort. Once the ball gets rolling with this its really easy to see it start snowballing and stacking up on itself.
Pick a Venue
Pick a place to start with. I picked a coffee shop. You can use nightclubs, bars, anything really. Just try and pick something that you'll actually frequently visit, at least once a week.
Once you have it picked, start talking to the staff. Get their names, ask them how their days were, flirt, bullshit, compliment them. This is to get them on your side.
Find a group that you keep seeing over and over. They don't have to be cool, bonus points if they are though. There's usually customers or people that you will start recognizing and repeatedly see. Get to know them, win their group over. I found this to be much easier if you have a friend or two (not an entire group, try and keep it to 2-3, depending on the size of the group you're approaching. You can also do it alone, this just helps.)
Bring friends to the place. Maybe even start a weekly ritual of meeting up there and hanging out. Establish yourself and your group in this place.
I don't do club dates, so this is more for daytime, or more chill venues, but bring dates to the place. At this point, the staff should recognize you, and even give you discounts or free stuff.
The goal of this is that you shouldn't be able to sit down or walk through the place without getting stopped by someone you know. This works extremely well I found for social circle game, it also works on dates, you just have to be careful you are warm because your date could auto-reject if she thinks you're too high value for her.
Having a specific venue you have as a go-to can help significantly if you feel like your fundamentals aren't down tight enough yet, or if you're just feeling lazy and don't feel like putting in a huge amount of effort to meet people that day.
I hope this helps,
Jake.
Pick a Venue
Pick a place to start with. I picked a coffee shop. You can use nightclubs, bars, anything really. Just try and pick something that you'll actually frequently visit, at least once a week.
Once you have it picked, start talking to the staff. Get their names, ask them how their days were, flirt, bullshit, compliment them. This is to get them on your side.
Find a group that you keep seeing over and over. They don't have to be cool, bonus points if they are though. There's usually customers or people that you will start recognizing and repeatedly see. Get to know them, win their group over. I found this to be much easier if you have a friend or two (not an entire group, try and keep it to 2-3, depending on the size of the group you're approaching. You can also do it alone, this just helps.)
Bring friends to the place. Maybe even start a weekly ritual of meeting up there and hanging out. Establish yourself and your group in this place.
I don't do club dates, so this is more for daytime, or more chill venues, but bring dates to the place. At this point, the staff should recognize you, and even give you discounts or free stuff.
The goal of this is that you shouldn't be able to sit down or walk through the place without getting stopped by someone you know. This works extremely well I found for social circle game, it also works on dates, you just have to be careful you are warm because your date could auto-reject if she thinks you're too high value for her.
Having a specific venue you have as a go-to can help significantly if you feel like your fundamentals aren't down tight enough yet, or if you're just feeling lazy and don't feel like putting in a huge amount of effort to meet people that day.
I hope this helps,
Jake.
