@theReason,
That is not how humans work.
Remove a man's pride from his work and you rip the heart out of a man.
Imagine a software engineer who always writes buggy code because he intentionally wants to sabotage his work.
Or a blacksmith who always crafts brittle tools and weapons because he secretly wants his stuff to break.
Not only will those guys be out of a job, but they are going to feel like absolute dogshit all the time and have to quit and do something else.
I have known a ton of coaches in this space, not just our own (
@Teevster,
@Tony D.,
@Colt Williams,
@Michael Chief, myself), but from a large variety of companies, and they're all crazy about getting students results. I took training with four different coaches when I was new, and each one bent over backwards to deliver results and provided me massive value in terms of tactics, experiences, and mindset shifts. From everything I have seen, that is the norm, not an exception.
Try to imagine a coach (i.e., a
teacher), whose job is coaching, whose pride comes from the success of his teaching and methods, sabotaging his own students, subconsciously or otherwise. Imagine how much pride that man would have if his students continually fail. That man would not last long as a coach -- aside from people not wanting to book him because he gets clients zero results, he'd very quickly start feeling like a failure in his entire life, because wracking up failures in one key area spills over into others.
The other thing I will say:
It is impossible while in scarcity to imagine the outlook of a man who is in abundance.
A pickup coach who gets laid a lot with choice women is not worried about "if I train up this guy, that'll mean fewer women for me!"
He is at a point where he has all the women he wants; he cannot realistically manage more women in his life than whatever capacity he has already decided he can handle; and now he wants to give back while getting paid for what he knows how to do.
Women are an abundant resource for you at that point. You go out with other guys and try to get them laid. You feel happy when your friends and clients get laid and bummed out when they don't. If you pick up a girl but the buddy you were trying to get laid fails to you feel like you shouldn't have left so early so you could've winged your bud longer and maybe helped him out more.
A guy in scarcity doesn't want to share access to food, money, or women. A guy in abundance though tends to get off on spreading the wealth.
That has been my experience with the countless talented naturals and PUAs I have met over the years: anyone they had advice for, whether me or someone else, it was usually something useful, and always something well-intentioned.
People who offer advice like for their advice to be right and for it to work.
That is simply how it is with human beings.
Anyway, if you do not trust a coach, you can always do what I recommended doing in 2014 to a guy who leveled this same suspicion at me back then: TEST that coach's advice!
“Ive been a long time reader of your articles, and I can’t help but be skeptical at times. Your posts often have a tone of disliking competition from other men, and what makes you even want to help other men? Wouldn’t you be worried that other men will take your girl eventually due to the popularity of this blog? Or does making money off this site offset the potential costs seen there? I know whenever other men ask me for advice, I always tell them to be nice and confident, of course knowing that the advice won’t help at all.
What really are your motivations for your website?”
Leaving aside the suspicions of my motivations for running Girls Chase (which seem to imply that I’ve spent the past 5.5 years of my life, 3.5 of them full time, investing 6,000+ hours of my own time and writing somewhere between 1.5 and 2 million words building this site, dealing with all the headaches involved, composing and polishing and curating the content here, and responding to comments in order to wage a long-term, planetary-scale disinformation campaign designed to lead my competition for women down the garden path in order that I might personally have an easier time getting laid), I want to focus on one aspect in particular, and it’s this statement:
“I can’t help but be skeptical at times.”
To be sure, I actively encourage healthy skepticism in anything and everything that doesn’t match up with your prior experience and that you have no way of taking for a trial run.
And I’ll be the last man on Earth to tell you to take anything on faith alone (or even in large part).
And while I understand holding skepticism about things you have no ability to try out for yourself – things like religion, philosophy, or reports about anything remotely occult-related – the subject matter on this website is almost entirely (with a few dives into the theoretical here and there) not that sort of material.
Every single thing on this site is designed to be used, tried out, played with, toyed with, experimented upon, rotated in, weighed against alternatives, and kept if found sound or chucked if found not... not rolled around endlessly and skeptically in your mind as you try to make a decision on whether you want to personally believe it or not.
If you’ve been approaching the material on this site as something that must be taken “on faith”, and waiting for someone else to come along and convince you further, you’ve been coming at it all wrong.
Because I don’t want your faith. Don’t need it, don’t care for it. Never have, and never will.
Rather, I want your tests. Because real empiricists don’t take things on faith. Real empiricists test.
In the comments of Saturday’s article about signs you’re in the friend zone, uForia makes the following comment: “Ive been a long time reader of your articles, and I can’t help but be skeptical at times. Your posts often have a tone of disliking competition from other men, and what makes you...
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