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Hi everyone. First time poster here! As a quick introduction, I found Girlschase a few months ago after a series of first dates that weren't terrible but which went nowhere, and after spending my teens and early twenties (I'm now 26) depressed and clueless about all the opportunities I was missing despite going out frequently. I'm hoping to turn things around now and have already had a lot of small wins since finding the site. Mainly kisses and number closes, but also my first ONS ever.
Anyway, on to the FR. I was on an overseas holiday with my family (parents and siblings, all in long term relationships) over the christmas break. We were on a paid tour with mainly older couples, a few lone guys in their late 30s/early 40s, and a cute med student (who I'll refer to as X from now on) travelling solo. I started talking to her the first day at breakfast with another couple, but it was platonic. However, I tried to keep a strong, sexual yet easygoing frame to avoid being too nice guyish. Bringing up sexual topics in conversation was difficult since I was around my family and the other tour members, and it was hard to get her on her own. But even then, bringing up sexual topics has never been my strong suit because of my inexperience (I'm trying to work on it. Never have I ever used to be nightmarish, lol). I kept this up over the next few days and it seemed to work, I could sense she was starting to become attracted.
On christmas day we were camping at a caravan park. It had an outdoor dance venue. Around 9pm after a few drinks I started scouting it out with another guy, then I went back and invited X and a few others to come and dance. My sister came as well. I was with X for most of the night, but we weren't going too crazy. I just had my hand around her waist and was leading her around the dance floor to get drinks and make song requests. If my sister wasn't there it might have been different! After a few hours I went for a kiss but X protested because my sister was there. We continued dancing for a while then made up an excuse to leave.
We found a small clearing outdoors that was kind of hidden but still visible to someone if they walked past and decided to look in that direction. We started lying on top of each other and making out, but she was uncomfortable outdoors because she thought my family might walk past (it was 2am and my sister had already gone). Despite me saying it was fine and there was hardly anyone around, and her waiting there for 10 minutes while I went and got a condom from the campsite, she said she didn't want to stay there and suggested a toilet. The toilets at the campsite were gross so that didn't happen. Now, what I should have done at this point was gone back to the dance venue toilets since they were clean, but I suggested her tent instead. Bad idea?
All the tents for the people on tour were set up really close to each other. My parents and brother had upgraded to a proper room and were out of earshot, but my sisters were nearby. I wasn't too fussed but X was and wanted us to be quite. We got inside and starting taking everything off. She gave me head but when I went to do the same she said no because she was afraid it would be too loud. I tried reassuring her that it would be fine and that everyone on the tour was cool and would understand (they really were), but she wouldn't have any of it. She said it was "fine if people knew about you but it's different for girls" and I told her I understood, which I did. I could tell she genuinely wanted it but was just really afraid of everyone else on tour finding out, especially my family, and thinking negatively of her, since we still had a few days left. But after all that and promising her that I would be quite, we heard another tent unzip and saw a flashlight. And that was it, she panicked, closed off and I left after that.
Unfortunately, the logistics for the rest of the trip never worked out and I didn't close (It was probably possible to make it work if I had more experience, but that's an entirely new topic). The main bit of advice I would like is
how I could have put her more at ease in the tent or even the clearing. On some level, she obviously thought that me saying everything was fine was me just trying to do everything I could to get in her pants without caring about the consequences (which was partly true, lol). But honestly, I was empathizing with her and I knew the people we were on tour with, and my family, wouldn't have been judgemental at all. I would have been a lot more careful if I knew there was even the slightest possibility that they would spread rumours and ruin the trip for X. So I was being honest.
I'd really like to know what you guys would have done in this situation to put her at ease. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated!
Anyway, on to the FR. I was on an overseas holiday with my family (parents and siblings, all in long term relationships) over the christmas break. We were on a paid tour with mainly older couples, a few lone guys in their late 30s/early 40s, and a cute med student (who I'll refer to as X from now on) travelling solo. I started talking to her the first day at breakfast with another couple, but it was platonic. However, I tried to keep a strong, sexual yet easygoing frame to avoid being too nice guyish. Bringing up sexual topics in conversation was difficult since I was around my family and the other tour members, and it was hard to get her on her own. But even then, bringing up sexual topics has never been my strong suit because of my inexperience (I'm trying to work on it. Never have I ever used to be nightmarish, lol). I kept this up over the next few days and it seemed to work, I could sense she was starting to become attracted.
On christmas day we were camping at a caravan park. It had an outdoor dance venue. Around 9pm after a few drinks I started scouting it out with another guy, then I went back and invited X and a few others to come and dance. My sister came as well. I was with X for most of the night, but we weren't going too crazy. I just had my hand around her waist and was leading her around the dance floor to get drinks and make song requests. If my sister wasn't there it might have been different! After a few hours I went for a kiss but X protested because my sister was there. We continued dancing for a while then made up an excuse to leave.
We found a small clearing outdoors that was kind of hidden but still visible to someone if they walked past and decided to look in that direction. We started lying on top of each other and making out, but she was uncomfortable outdoors because she thought my family might walk past (it was 2am and my sister had already gone). Despite me saying it was fine and there was hardly anyone around, and her waiting there for 10 minutes while I went and got a condom from the campsite, she said she didn't want to stay there and suggested a toilet. The toilets at the campsite were gross so that didn't happen. Now, what I should have done at this point was gone back to the dance venue toilets since they were clean, but I suggested her tent instead. Bad idea?
All the tents for the people on tour were set up really close to each other. My parents and brother had upgraded to a proper room and were out of earshot, but my sisters were nearby. I wasn't too fussed but X was and wanted us to be quite. We got inside and starting taking everything off. She gave me head but when I went to do the same she said no because she was afraid it would be too loud. I tried reassuring her that it would be fine and that everyone on the tour was cool and would understand (they really were), but she wouldn't have any of it. She said it was "fine if people knew about you but it's different for girls" and I told her I understood, which I did. I could tell she genuinely wanted it but was just really afraid of everyone else on tour finding out, especially my family, and thinking negatively of her, since we still had a few days left. But after all that and promising her that I would be quite, we heard another tent unzip and saw a flashlight. And that was it, she panicked, closed off and I left after that.
Unfortunately, the logistics for the rest of the trip never worked out and I didn't close (It was probably possible to make it work if I had more experience, but that's an entirely new topic). The main bit of advice I would like is
how I could have put her more at ease in the tent or even the clearing. On some level, she obviously thought that me saying everything was fine was me just trying to do everything I could to get in her pants without caring about the consequences (which was partly true, lol). But honestly, I was empathizing with her and I knew the people we were on tour with, and my family, wouldn't have been judgemental at all. I would have been a lot more careful if I knew there was even the slightest possibility that they would spread rumours and ruin the trip for X. So I was being honest.
I'd really like to know what you guys would have done in this situation to put her at ease. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated!
