Player Reputation/Setting Expectations

[LovelyDesires]

I was with this girl. 2nd date escalation was really fast for her. Apparently, she had really bad past experiences which she popped in during conversation like getting pregnant by an ex. When I escalated, she kept saying that "u must be doing this with lots of girls", pushing me away as she said that. She also kept saying that I was a player. Of course i just told her I am those guys and me are different and continued escalating.

Question how to frame yourself as being non exclusive to her without being thought of as a player? Apparently inexperience girls expect commitment

 

[Ross]

Being a player is a double-edged sword. It's something we call "polarizing" - it makes some women love you, and other women disdain you.

Sometimes admitting to being a player can increase attraction in these women. For example,

Her: "You're such a player."
You: "And you both love and hate that about me."
Her: *attraction spike*

Whenever you're saying you are non-exclusive, you're saying that you are a player in her eyes. Girls will try and wrangle you into a boyfriend role by playing this game with you, therefore she can come back later on and say, "But you said you weren't a player! I thought you were different!" It's basically a reassurance for them.