Playing with chick at work

[quiteastory]

Hello everyone, greetings from Poland I'm new to this forum, but I'm reading the blog for quite a while.

I've got this specific case - I've got a chick at work that I can't go out with (because I know she's not single), but I still want her to see me as an potential candidate. I don't want to destroy her relationship, I just want her to remember me as "the guy" in case she'll be single.

I thought about these 2 strategies:
1. keep enough distance not to become friend and being close enough to show my assets
2. ask her out (to show her want I want), get rejected, than show her that I don't care and I'm still cool & chill, than do all above anyway

What do you think guys? For now I'm sticking to number 1 strategy, and I see that the girl is opening up, I see that little signals she's giving (unconsciously, I think). I still don't mind changing my strategy or adding some new tricks.

 

[Fuck This]

I once had a girl tap my wedding ring at work and say. "if it wasn't for that I'd ask you out right here and now"

I wasn't interested in her before but it piqued my curiosity. It started festering in the back of my mind.

You wanna be her option? Don't be an orbiter trying to make her LIKE you. Tell her. "If we didn't work together and you weren't madly in love with your boyfriend, I'd be....[some lover type activity]. Don't sexually harass her, and don't mention it again. Then go fuck 10 other women.

 

[quiteastory]

I once had a girl tap my wedding ring at work and say. "if it wasn't for that I'd ask you out right here and now"

I wasn't interested in her before but it piqued my curiosity. It started festering in the back of my mind.

You wanna be her option? Don't be an orbiter trying to make her LIKE you. Tell her. "If we didn't work together and you weren't madly in love with your boyfriend, I'd be....[some lover type activity]. Don't sexually harass her, and don't mention it again. Then go fuck 10 other women.

So it's basically my strategy number 2 oop: Position yourself as a lover in her head, then go live your life. Exactly the answer I needed

 

[Dr. Manhattan]

...Tell her. "If we didn't work together and you weren't madly in love with your boyfriend, I'd be....[some lover type activity]. Don't sexually harass her, and don't mention it again. Then go fuck 10 other women.

This is your answer, OP. I've done this 10+ times.

 

[quiteastory]

...Tell her. "If we didn't work together and you weren't madly in love with your boyfriend, I'd be....[some lover type activity]. Don't sexually harass her, and don't mention it again. Then go fuck 10 other women.

This is your answer, OP. I've done this 10+ times.

Out of curiosity - what's the result?

 

[Dr. Manhattan]

...Tell her. "If we didn't work together and you weren't madly in love with your boyfriend, I'd be....[some lover type activity]. Don't sexually harass her, and don't mention it again. Then go fuck 10 other women.

This is your answer, OP. I've done this 10+ times.

Out of curiosity - what's the result?

Yeah, sure.

Either:
They look at me like I'm crazy.
They smile and get all flirty cos they know I'm into them sexually and have the social game to say that and know how to - it's attractive.
They continue on about how they love their boyfriend and try and make me chase because they assume my interest means I'll supplicate.

Either way, you say it once, behave the same as you did before, and go shag other girls.

Edit:
#1 used to happen to me all the time first starting out. I didn't have the confidence and mate value to pull it off. Now, it never happens because I know which girls will be receptive.

 

[quiteastory]

...Tell her. "If we didn't work together and you weren't madly in love with your boyfriend, I'd be....[some lover type activity]. Don't sexually harass her, and don't mention it again. Then go fuck 10 other women.

This is your answer, OP. I've done this 10+ times.

Out of curiosity - what's the result?

Yeah, sure.

Either:
They look at me like I'm crazy.
They smile and get all flirty cos they know I'm into them sexually and have the social game to say that and know how to - it's attractive.
They continue on about how they love their boyfriend and try and make me chase because they assume my interest means I'll supplicate.

Either way, you say it once, behave the same as you did before, and go shag other girls.

Edit:
#1 used to happen to me all the time first starting out. I didn't have the confidence and mate value to pull it off. Now, it never happens because I know which girls will be receptive.

Nice, thx man

 

[Dr. Manhattan]

No problem