Please HELP Fast!!?

[Xerud]

I met her at festival in America. It wasn't big festival and she wasn't drunk or anything like that.

This were last messages: before we were writing too just little but she wasn't asking... the only thing she asked if i've got snap I answered that I don't have it. She replied I understand...
Here's the text
You've got plans for this friday?
Her : I'll be on sea
Me: what about next friday?
Her: If you want to come to XY place and some weird emojis (this : Image)
Me: i know where they've got good pancakes Do you eat them?
her : yes (emoji)
me : on friday XY:00 time
her : jp (that's in our language for yes)
me: where do we get?
her : location (she suggested location)
me: jap
me: my number 000-000-000 you can save so we could find
Now I didn't get reply I didn't want to write it. Plus I don't know now if she said yes does it really mean yes or should I just ignore or what.

I'm really bad at texting, but thanks for reply would like to learn more.

Also every time I saw her she wanted to write something on facebook you can see, but she keep writing like 6 times but she didn't send. Why is she doing that? I know it was shy there.

 

[Lotus]

whoaaaaa,

When you text to set a don't pick a specific day because that limits her options. Ask her which days she is free and then run from there.

You've got plans for this friday?
Her : I'll be on sea
Me: what about next friday?

better replaced by:

You: Hey XXX, lets get together for those XXX( drinks, food, coffee) we talked about.
Her: Yeah,that would be great!
You: When is your schedule open this week? or When do you have some free time this week?
Her: well I can't hangout this week, but I can do next Friday.
...

much smoother

Also every time I saw her she wanted to write something on facebook you can see, but she keep writing like 6 times but she didn't send. Why is she doing that? I know it was shy there.

If I understand what you are saying, in facebook messenger if she is typing to ANYONE it shows her typing. It doesn't necessarily mean she is typing a message to you.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong but I believe it's the same way with I-message on iphones.

-Taylor

 

[Xerud]

Thank you for reply, damn I really suck at texting.

What now? I don't even know if she's up for going out, she said yes but on last message where I gave her number she didn't reply. I know that she went to sea, but she was online too.

Should I just wait till next friday and ask her on text if she'll come or should I just go to town and see if she'll come?

*When you're typing over mobile I can see as ... (Dots) if you delete that dots go away. I'm not 100% but I think that's how it is.*

 

[ray_zorse]

I really don't see anything much wrong with this texting, agree that it's good to let her pick the time, OTOH lately my schedule has been so complicated that I just tell her one or two times I'm free, and if she isn't free then we can't hang out. It can certainly work, though it's not good for beginner.

Anyway you have her agreement to place and time, so the date is set up. But since it's some time in the future she could certainly forget. So you can send a subtle reminder maybe the day before "hey getting hungry for those pancakes " or if you want to be more of a boss you could say something like "hey about the pancakes I will be held up at the office until XX:XX, can we postpone by half an hour". Or radeng's staple: "got your heels picked out for tonight?".

Ray

 

[Xerud]

Thanks everyone for help.

So Ray_Zorse should I ask her one day before for that if she's ready so I'll be sure that she'll come. How should I "ping" her?

So I'll just ping like you said one day before
Hei getting hungry for those pancakes

If she won't reply I'll just delete her from social media, simple as that.

 

[ray_zorse]

Sounds good to me. The same principle applies when sending icebreaker text, and also to some extent in conversation. A direct question is a reward, whereas you can gauge interest and give her space to invest by making a statement. It is of course possible she'd see this as a statement and not requiring a response, and still turn up to the date. If that's the case, she lacks all social nuance and deserves to be stood up until she learns to read situations.
Ray