Altair said:
I kinda already did man, I kinda already did......
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Some members here (actually only one on this thread), do seem to have an axe to grind rather than wanting to see someone get ahead and finally break free. If I get banned then so be it, I honestly couldn't blame Chase given my history but it would have been a hell of an experience to finally cross that finish line of losing the V card and celebrating it with members on here.
I have to admit, my critics are right. I've recently started reading Models by Mark Manson and Mark talks about how certain ancestry groups and culture tend to produce a lot of narcissistic men and I am a narcissist.
I feel like life wronged me by putting me in bad situations growing up and if I had the same situation as some rich frat boy did, I would have slept with 100 different women by the age of 25.
It's like I know I am great but sometimes feel like social norms are stopping hot girls from getting with me.
If popularity contests did not exist in college for example, I would be balls deep in some hot co-eds and not see some ugly guy get more action than me because he happened to be in a fraternity.
It is that sort of shit that at times has me scrambling for answers like with my social life thread as well as going into the game so pissed off.
I thought about it for a while and that is the conclusion of my life I came to.
I am just so fucking angry that I go into the game angry and with a big fucking ego.
This is what I mean; not taking responsibility whatsoever.
"Social norms stop me"
"Popularity in college stops me"
"I've been wronged because I wasn't born a rich frat guy."
"It's not my fault I'm narcissistic and ego-driven, it's my cultures fault."
Literally everything you just said is blaming YOUR problems on something or someone else which absolves you of any personal responsibility either a) because you don't think you can overcome them or b) you actually don't think you're responsible for any of this.
Nothing against you, personally, but people who approach life in that manner (as a victim, devoid of responsibility, etc.) are people I don't want to interact with at all, my pre-dominant family is like that and it's why I've distanced myself so far from them and, guess what, socially intelligent people do the same thing; do you think someone who gets laid consistently, parties, etc. wants to be around a guy who can do nothing except say "Life sucks but it's not my fault?"
Think about it; your approach to life and the way you live is enough to push away the Tribal Elders (who have shown themselves to be socially aware and intelligent) and others to the point where a legitimate ban might be coming; it's a reflection of who you are in your real life, if you're doing it to us over a keyboard and screen then you're doing it to the same people you interact with in your actual life.
That's not a put-down; that's me explaining to you how your attitude/approach/etc. makes me feel because that's the only relationship I can look at and give credible feedback. As I've already said, every single one of us (myself, Chase, Tool, Franco (to a lesser degree), Grand Pooba, Hector, etc.) have all been in your shoes; all of us have shared our stories and with the exception of Franco and Light (both of whom were socially intelligent most of their lives) every single one of us went from being in your shoes where we made excuses, felt shitty about ourselves, to stepping up and assuming responsibility and then making legitimate changes in our lives - it's not like you're a special case and your circumstances are so "different" that you can't overcome them and that's why your posts outlining the same sob story over and over effect the forum members so much.
-Richard
EDIT: One more caveat, the excuses you've made are just that; being a psych major there are a couple things I know for sure; disorders, disabilities, etc. do not "CAUSE" anything; there is no disorder or mental illness that CAUSES you to kill somebody just like their is no disorder, mental illness, mentality, mindset, etc. that CAUSES you to not be able to approach and get laid. The excuses you've made are not CAUSES, they absolutely do not CAUSE you to not get laid.