Poppin' Cherries & Baking Bread - Ross's Journal

[Ross]

Enter with caution.

Goals

- Achieve an ideal life of pleasure; spread that life and share it with others.

This goal involves quite a bit, as you can imagine. Throughout this guide I will reveal what I have found to provide happiness. All aboard for this daily recounting of my life.

 

[Marty]

You've set yourself a high bar there! I'll be following with interest, anticipation and a desire to learn

 

[Ross]

You've set yourself a high bar there! I'll be following with interest, anticipation and a desire to learn

Perhaps it seems like a high bar. After much thought, I've arrived at the conclusion that it isn't that much of a high bar. I believe that happiness isn't some infinite scale that continually goes higher and higher - you can only go so high in so much. For example - the music I listen to right now is awesome. Are there other amazing songs out there? Sure. Are they better than these songs? I don't think so - just different expressions of art. Not better, not worse, and would still incite the same awesomeness and pleasure. The idea that there is always something better is very much one of our western culture. Helps drive consumerism and our general way of living .

 

[Ross]

Went to class around 9am. I picked out a couple of girls I found somewhat physically attractive during the class. The issue with classes is that you get your spots picked pretty early on in the class - and these girls sit in the front, while I sit towards the front. I'm going to open the people around me so that they can see me in action and get some pre-selection going as well as work on my social circle.

After class decided to go shopping and see if I could pick out any cute girls. Also picked up some supplies for baking bread . That didn't go down so well. The women were all 40+ and unattractive. I saw one 20 something that I found attractive, but unfortunately it was right as I was checking out with my stuff and flirting with the checkout girl.

Went home, baked some banana nut bread. Makes the entrance to your home inviting, as people walk in and smell bread. Also took a tip from the male scent article that says banana nut bread turns a woman on .

Then did some homework. In retrospect, I'm going to head to campus when I do homework so that I can spend my free time doing street approaches. It's my preferred method of talking to women, as most people on the campus aren't in a rush around 4-6pm.

Class 6-8, then ditched out early to go to a intramural flag football game. As I expected, the only girls that showed up were girlfriends of the guys that played. Flirted with one female friend of mine that is dating another guy on the team, but they're both good friends of mine. If you're interested in an example of a sexual frame:

Her: "I'm cold!"
Me: "Come here then. *open arms and sexy smile*"
Her: "No! You're sweaty!"
Me: "I thought you liked it sweaty."
Her: *laughs*

I then shut off my body language as she didn't accept the hug. With a bored look on my face while I packed up my stuff, she re-opened me and and started to flirt more heavily.

I did, however, find a referee particularly attractive. Only problem is, I was swept up in the emotion of the game and didn't remember that I meant to approach her until after I was finished with the game. Plus I had a friend waiting on me to leave. Need to remember to approach at my next game (we won).

So, in other words, today was a failure in that I didn't fully approach any girls. I did, however, flirt with every girl I came in contact with, which is a change from my normal platonic and shut off behavior that I had been displaying the past few months. Dedicating tomorrow from 3-6 to approaching girls on campus, so hopefully I can get a few numbers or perhaps an instant date transformed into a lay. Not leaving campus until I get at least 10 approaches (or a lay) under my belt.

 

[Ross]

Re: STICKIED: Poppin' Cherries & Baking Bread - Ross's Journal

Turns out I have a sprained left wrist. Any pressure on it puts it in a fair amount of pain - so I ended up doing things a little differently today. Also noticed that my sex drive is way down. Masturbation was a problem when I was putting a lot of pressure on figuring out my purpose and shut myself off from people. Cutting it out to bring my interests in women to a biological high.

This morning I met a girl in my chemistry class. Sort of cute and easy to talk to. I wasn't particularly excited about her, so I decided to just enjoy my time talking to her. I only barely got off a hi and an introduction because I walked in late to class and the teacher was mad at us for talking.

Me: "Hi. What's your name?"
Her: (Tells me her name)
Me: *hand extend, hold her hand for a brief moment while saying* "I'm Ross, nice to meet you (name)"
Teacher: Hey, back there, don't talk blbah blah blah.

Throughout the class we joked with each other about the teachers quirks. I frequently found myself spacing out and starting to think about things outside of the present moment. I only recognized it afterwords, but it's a habit I need to quit. I believe I developed this bad habit over the past nine months, and I used it as a shield from interacting with people.

Anyways, I had classes up until 3pm. At which time I had barely eaten anything all day and was dead tired. So I headed back to my apartment, took a nap from 4-6pm, and realized I way overslept. It was dark out, my wrist was in a lot of pain, and it was crazy cold outside. I had every excuse to stay inside, but I forced myself to go out, something which I haven't done in quite some time. I decided I'd head to the library as I needed to get some work done, and I was going to check out and see if anyone was studying the subjects which I was taking.

Usually when you force yourself to go out, you're glad you did. I saw two guys studying chemistry and decided to join them. Relatively easy to do. I didn't accomplish my goal of approaching 10 women (only approached one in class), but I made sure I accomplished another goal of mine which is to meet and build my social circle. I joked around with and talked with the guys that I hung out with, and we're planning on studying tomorrow. All that's left is to get into a more social context where I can have a conversation with them, build an emotional connection, and find out what they enjoy doing with their free time in order to have them as a social option and be in good spirits with them. I'm planning on showing you guys, through this journal, that building a broad social circle is an easy task - especially when you can share good times with people and bring a lot of pleasure to their lives.

 

[Ross]

Sorry for anyone who was excited to read this. My goals seem to be in a good state of flux, but I can assure you this: I've gotten my game back to where I think it needs to be (read: got laid multiple times). It sure has been a crazy few years for me, ideologically speaking. I also noticed that Franco stickied this (no idea when). Good thing it's unstickied now, as it is probably quite a let down.

I hope to help out from a much more realistic viewpoint. Writing a journal and expecting people to learn from it is quite a blind shot. It's like I'm aiming for something, and I just have to shoot 100 times to achieve it. I'd rather help out people on a case-by-case basis and use actual techniques in conversation and behavior recognition to teach, than put up a guide of my own journey and expect people to learn from it.