A while back, I was listening to Tucker Max’s Mating Grounds podcast. In one podcast, Max critiques the idea of meeting women through mass approaching, arguing among other things that getting rejected by tons of women is a great way to undermine confidence. This strikes me as logical, that repeated misfires with girls will invariably hurt your feeling of competence, and thus confidence.
This reality of pick-up for most guys necessitates the need for an inner game strategy. Lately I’ve been revisiting Norman Vincent Peale’s Power of Positive Thinking. In what follows, I discuss the book and its potential application to a seduction context.
To provide some historical background, Peale was the minister at Marble Collegiate Church in New York. Peale was known for his charismatic oratory and idea of positive thinking most famously explored in The Power of Positive Thinking. To the extent that President Trump is religious, he has offered fond reminiscences of Peale, whose Marble Collegiate Church the Trumps attended and who officiated his marriage to first wife Ivana.
I would not claim Power of Positive Thinking is the best book ever written, with Peale sometimes having the feel of a small-time swindler and supporting a lot of his points with flimsy anecdotal evidence. However, reading Peale’s book two main points come across. One, that a lot of people feel varying levels of frustration in their lives, and that 'positive thinking’ can serve as a form of autosuggestion that results in improved mood and capacity to respond to the challenges of life. Second, that force of belief behind an action can result in extraordinary success, e.g. a batter who thinks the Gods are on his side stepping up to bat and hitting a home run.
In a since-deleted post, a dating authority who will remain unnamed states that practicing cold approach it is crucial to have a positive attitude and expectation of success, as you need to “communicate value” when you talk to the girl. In my experience, girls are far more sensitive to vibe than guys, and if there is any incongruence particularly the super hot ones will pick up on it and reject guys they might otherwise say yes to. The problem is cold approach as a strategy does not promote tremendous confidence. Yes, results will vary based on how you present, but invariably a guy approaching random strangers will encounter mostly rejection. Thus, nurturing positive psychology becomes important not only to bring your best YOU to your interactions but also to maintain the ability to practice cold approach sustainably without experiencing burnout.
Day-game can be hard, in the sense that you can wait for hours for a throwaway approach. Rather than your recent track record, picture yourself really pulling it off with a cold approach. Maybe you see your perfect 10 at the mall and go talk to her. She is standing with you and letting you flirt her up. She excitedly gives you her number when you ask for it, and later when your phone buzzes after you send an introductory ping you get excited. Cold approach as a strategy can be this successful, you just need to reprise an image of it.
In conclusion, cold approach as a strategy is inherently a stochastic process with a lot of rejection and thus can be emotionally challenging. I would argue things like positive thinking can be used as an inner game strategy when on the raw end of that stochastic process. Hold an image in your mind of success with women and be unwavering about it. If you truly believe in it, you can occasionally even bring it to fruition.
This reality of pick-up for most guys necessitates the need for an inner game strategy. Lately I’ve been revisiting Norman Vincent Peale’s Power of Positive Thinking. In what follows, I discuss the book and its potential application to a seduction context.
To provide some historical background, Peale was the minister at Marble Collegiate Church in New York. Peale was known for his charismatic oratory and idea of positive thinking most famously explored in The Power of Positive Thinking. To the extent that President Trump is religious, he has offered fond reminiscences of Peale, whose Marble Collegiate Church the Trumps attended and who officiated his marriage to first wife Ivana.
I would not claim Power of Positive Thinking is the best book ever written, with Peale sometimes having the feel of a small-time swindler and supporting a lot of his points with flimsy anecdotal evidence. However, reading Peale’s book two main points come across. One, that a lot of people feel varying levels of frustration in their lives, and that 'positive thinking’ can serve as a form of autosuggestion that results in improved mood and capacity to respond to the challenges of life. Second, that force of belief behind an action can result in extraordinary success, e.g. a batter who thinks the Gods are on his side stepping up to bat and hitting a home run.
In a since-deleted post, a dating authority who will remain unnamed states that practicing cold approach it is crucial to have a positive attitude and expectation of success, as you need to “communicate value” when you talk to the girl. In my experience, girls are far more sensitive to vibe than guys, and if there is any incongruence particularly the super hot ones will pick up on it and reject guys they might otherwise say yes to. The problem is cold approach as a strategy does not promote tremendous confidence. Yes, results will vary based on how you present, but invariably a guy approaching random strangers will encounter mostly rejection. Thus, nurturing positive psychology becomes important not only to bring your best YOU to your interactions but also to maintain the ability to practice cold approach sustainably without experiencing burnout.
Day-game can be hard, in the sense that you can wait for hours for a throwaway approach. Rather than your recent track record, picture yourself really pulling it off with a cold approach. Maybe you see your perfect 10 at the mall and go talk to her. She is standing with you and letting you flirt her up. She excitedly gives you her number when you ask for it, and later when your phone buzzes after you send an introductory ping you get excited. Cold approach as a strategy can be this successful, you just need to reprise an image of it.
In conclusion, cold approach as a strategy is inherently a stochastic process with a lot of rejection and thus can be emotionally challenging. I would argue things like positive thinking can be used as an inner game strategy when on the raw end of that stochastic process. Hold an image in your mind of success with women and be unwavering about it. If you truly believe in it, you can occasionally even bring it to fruition.
