I see nothing wrong with what you posted. I think women like being possessed depending on who’s the possessor. Though possession, similar to showing interest and affection, may be best done after attraction is clear
The issue with neediness is that you are altering your behavior to satisfy the will of someone else, like when you push someone to the ground and they roll up in a defensive ball. Its a sign of a weak will. It shows your character is malleable, changes to whatever glass it fills. And most importantly, this altering of behavior is done to get in the girls pants; so you’re not changing your behavior to show your true character (your authentic self), you’re doing it to satisfy a motive, like a chameleon who changes color to satisfy his desire to remain alive. This motive is hard to hide. Hence the pitiful situation of the friend zone where the girl knows what the guy is up to, and the man continues to alter his behavior to appear friendly and cool in order to sneak his way in. It’s like being her slave. If youre a man and you find yourself sliding into that circumstance, best to put an end to it immediately for your own dignity and self respect.
Possessing someone is different, and is in fact the circumstance many women find with many men, where the man is so enraptured by her beauty and his lust that he does whatever he is told. It is a bad circumstance to be in. A woman being possessed by a man however is more ideal since an ideal characteristic of man is dominance and an ideal characteristic of a woman is submissiveness, so the two fit together like opposite ends of a magnet. Naturally those who are dominant possess and control those who are submissive, not just in the physical realm, but in the psychological one as well. It is the inevitable, thus natural, order of things.
Furthermore, with possession, being possessive says something about the quality of the object you want to control - it is very important or precious to you. So when a man is possessive of a woman, it says that this woman is somehow a precious object, like a diamond; it is worth protecting and cherishing. Possession is still a bad thing, because it’s not good to cling on to material things too much, but I’m sure you can see where possession, lust and sexuality bind together in ways that neediness can never achieve.
A slight counter to your first paragraph is that reciprocating interest is very important. If a girl loves you but you show no love in her, then at some point things will explode. If a girl hits on you, but you brush it off like “nahh I’m ok” then expect the girl to eject just like a guy lol.
I think the idea that man should not possess women is a by product of libertarian/equality/humanist bullshit (falsely treating mankind as if they’re not wild animals themselves) and individual men coping with modern sexual dynamics.
