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pks391

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Hey all.....I just needed to share something with you guys and ask your views on the same. Im a 23 y/o guy from India. Im still learning my way through pick up......theres this girl in my office who most likely has friendzoned me.......now the major advice would be to move on and i would....only thing is that she is the only other person in my office apart from my boss.....i cannot avoid meeting and interacting with her everyday....however i dont want to provide any more value......but since my work demands it, how do i continue working with her without providing any more friend/provider/other value???? Your suggestions would be most helpful...i just wanna work with her and nothing more....
P.S. Its been 2 years since we met and i havent directly told her my intentions.....i do act sexual around her but i rarely/almost never acted sexual with her/....we touch hands, i touch her face and she has told me a couple of times that she isnt interested in me....but her body language says otherwise.....she says she acts like this with everyone which she probably does....
 

luego

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She's literally the only person at work other than the boss. She's outright told you she's not interested, which means that she knows your intentions, even though you haven't outright told her.

You've known her for 2 years.

This sounds like something with a very low chance of having an upside, and a very high chance of being a disaster. Is she that exceptional?

Edit: "I just want to work with her and nothing more" (or somethign to that effect). Umm.. ok.... then what's the problem? Stop flirting with her and touching her, etc. Just work with her.
 

pks391

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Hey luego, thanks for your feedback. Uhm you're right i do wish to only work with her but i want to do so in a way where it doesnt seem obvious that ive changed my demeanour with her.
Besides that she has told me she isnt interested over text. Just recently she showed me some clothes she picked up after shopping. She also said (albeit laughingly) that my magnetic charms don't work on her. But somehow her words are not matching ger actions. However, personally i feel im friendzoned. She has never outright called me her friend.
 
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pks391

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And oh btw she isnt that exceptional at all.... I just thought id give it a try with her. I got myself a bit invested with her i guess....
 

pks391

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luego said:
She's literally the only person at work other than the boss. She's outright told you she's not interested, which means that she knows your intentions, even though you haven't outright told her.

You've known her for 2 years.

This sounds like something with a very low chance of having an upside, and a very high chance of being a disaster. Is she that exceptional?

Edit: "I just want to work with her and nothing more" (or somethign to that effect). Umm.. ok.... then what's the problem? Stop flirting with her and touching her, etc. Just work with her.
pks391 said:
Hey luego, thanks for your feedback. Uhm you're right i do wish to only work with her but i want to do so in a way where it doesnt seem obvious that ive changed my demeanour with her.
Besides that she has told me she isnt interested over text. Just recently she showed me some clothes she picked up after shopping. She also said (albeit laughingly) that my magnetic charms don't work on her. But somehow her words are not matching ger actions. However, personally i feel im friendzoned. She has never outright called me her friend.
 

pks391

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luego said:
She's literally the only person at work other than the boss. She's outright told you she's not interested, which means that she knows your intentions, even though you haven't outright told her.

You've known her for 2 years.

This sounds like something with a very low chance of having an upside, and a very high chance of being a disaster. Is she that exceptional?

Edit: "I just want to work with her and nothing more" (or somethign to that effect). Umm.. ok.... then what's the problem? Stop flirting with her and touching her, etc. Just work with her.
pks391 said:
Hey luego, thanks for your feedback. Uhm you're right i do wish to only work with her but i want to do so in a way where it doesnt seem obvious that ive changed my demeanour with her.
Besides that she has told me she isnt interested over text. Just recently she showed me some clothes she picked up after shopping. She also said (albeit laughingly) that my magnetic charms don't work on her. But somehow her words are not matching ger actions. However, personally i feel im friendzoned. She has never outright called me her friend.
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pks391 said:
luego said:
She's literally the only person at work other than the boss. She's outright told you she's not interested, which means that she knows your intentions, even though you haven't outright told her.

You've known her for 2 years.

This sounds like something with a very low chance of having an upside, and a very high chance of being a disaster. Is she that exceptional?

Edit: "I just want to work with her and nothing more" (or somethign to that effect). Umm.. ok.... then what's the problem? Stop flirting with her and touching her, etc. Just work with her.
pks391 said:
Hey luego, thanks for your feedback. Uhm you're right i do wish to only work with her but i want to do so in a way where it doesnt seem obvious that ive changed my demeanour with her.
Besides that she has told me she isnt interested over text. Just recently she showed me some clothes she picked up after shopping. She also said (albeit laughingly) that my magnetic charms don't work on her. But somehow her words are not matching ger actions. However, personally i feel im friendzoned. She has never outright called me her friend.
pks391 said:
And oh btw she isnt that exceptional at all.... I just thought id give it a try with her. I got myself a bit invested with her i guess....
 
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