potential tinder date, not sure to go through with it...

[mindful]

sup guys,

I currently setup a date with a girl on Tinder. However, she basically said she isn't looking to bang as its not her style. I'll start the convo from where she throws me off:

her: haha
her: I'm just gonna throw it out there so we're on the same page, I'm not really looking to just bang, that's not really my style haha
me: Ah, I can't make any promises. Especially if you look anything like your pics
her: haha
me: I understand if you don't wanna meet up.
her: I mean I'm totally down to grab drinks! I just don't want you to be surprised when I don't sleep with you the first time I meet you haha
me: I'm down for happy hour.

Now, I thought my initial response would trigger her to just unmatch me or not respond, which is cool... I was trying to weed her out with that text. Then I sent the second text since she did respond just telling her we don't have to meet.

So as of now, the date is still on. Is it worth it to go on it? The spot we are going is real close to me, plus its during happy hour so it's not too much of an inconvenience. I can always practice my convo skills and see where it leads.

Any advice?
Thanks!

 

[Seppuku]

Hey man,

Of course it's worth to go. For the record, many girls have some version of "not into hookup", yet would go into first date sex with a sexy guy.

"I'm not into hookup" means "I may, or may not, be into hookups (depending on you), but if we end up in bed it's not my fault because I told you upfront I don't do that".

She is just absolving herself of what may happen, putting the responsibility on your shoulders instead.

If you play it sexy enough you can take her to bed anyway. So just ignore what she said, avoid bringing the subject again, and operate your magic on her like if she didn't say it. Get a feel for how it goes, and if you think she's into you, pull her home.

Cheers,
Seppuku
PS. My last Tinder lay was saying "not into hookups - looking for friendship" on her profile. After our first meet, she's the one who invited herself into my bed.

 

[mindful]

Thanks! I had a feeling it was just a shit test for deniability but I still find it annoying lol.

I will run the date as I usually do and hopefully get the lay

Thanks for the input!