Backstory: Started seeing a career driven HB10 a couple months ago. At first we both had multiple FWBs however after hanging out a few times realized we had a lot in common and actually never found enough time together. Decided to go 'exclusive' but she only just broken off with a 5 year commitment where she was cheated on AND abused, so she didn't want to jump into being BF/GF or whatever the term is.
Since I've cut out my other FWBs, I found myself texting her more and asking her to hang out too much. She's started to make time twice a week usually, but she's just as busy as before. As well, she almost always waits for me to text or has minimal interest via text levels. When we're in person however, her interest level is off the charts. Mid restaurant she'll lean over the table and whisper that she wants me to take her right on the table infront of everyone. Wants to have sex (I quote) 'a billion times' etc... She's making tentative plans, wanting to meet my friends, tells me I'm amazing over and over. Very affectionate. All the positive signs. She's even told me a couple times when old FWBs or friends have asked her to come over or date, she said she's seeing someone.
It's just as soon as we're not in each others presence, she is super distant with texts. Lately I've slowed down with my texting too trying to get her to initiate more, but sometimes it's even a few days before she'll text me. Anytime I do text her, she knows to play the Mirror Minus One strategy too (If I take a minute, often she'll respond in two, if I take an hour, so will she / Only will call me babe when I call her babe etc...)
My Mistake: After a week or two of being exclusive, I've told her that I worry because I know she gets a lot of attention and I don't want to waste my time if she's going after others too. As well as opening up about not minding seeing her 3 or 4 times a week at least. She mirrored and said she would love that, and could never get sick of me too. Something about how all guys would bore her at this point, but I'm a constant challenge. But then when it comes to actually organizing it, she never asks and always said she was too busy with 'other priorities' to make it happen.
A: How do I power shift back in my favor? So she's basically begging for me to hang out more, if that's possible!
B: What do I do about her wanting to be exclusive but not date yet?
Since I've cut out my other FWBs, I found myself texting her more and asking her to hang out too much. She's started to make time twice a week usually, but she's just as busy as before. As well, she almost always waits for me to text or has minimal interest via text levels. When we're in person however, her interest level is off the charts. Mid restaurant she'll lean over the table and whisper that she wants me to take her right on the table infront of everyone. Wants to have sex (I quote) 'a billion times' etc... She's making tentative plans, wanting to meet my friends, tells me I'm amazing over and over. Very affectionate. All the positive signs. She's even told me a couple times when old FWBs or friends have asked her to come over or date, she said she's seeing someone.
It's just as soon as we're not in each others presence, she is super distant with texts. Lately I've slowed down with my texting too trying to get her to initiate more, but sometimes it's even a few days before she'll text me. Anytime I do text her, she knows to play the Mirror Minus One strategy too (If I take a minute, often she'll respond in two, if I take an hour, so will she / Only will call me babe when I call her babe etc...)
My Mistake: After a week or two of being exclusive, I've told her that I worry because I know she gets a lot of attention and I don't want to waste my time if she's going after others too. As well as opening up about not minding seeing her 3 or 4 times a week at least. She mirrored and said she would love that, and could never get sick of me too. Something about how all guys would bore her at this point, but I'm a constant challenge. But then when it comes to actually organizing it, she never asks and always said she was too busy with 'other priorities' to make it happen.
A: How do I power shift back in my favor? So she's basically begging for me to hang out more, if that's possible!
B: What do I do about her wanting to be exclusive but not date yet?
