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Will_V

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interesting view on it. Do agree that it's possible to turn anger/aggression into a protective shield to avoid depression and anxiety short-term (matches my experience too). BUT eventually to function you need to get all 4 of those things out of your system.

I don't think of it so much as a shield. It's more of an opposing force. Depression and anxiety is a force that pulls inward and away from a challenge, and aggression is a force that pushes outward toward it.

A lot of what is commonly thought of as aggression is in fact anxiety and desperation combined with violence, but that's not what I'm talking about. Aggression can be relatively tranquil, subtle, it can be experienced with joy and a profound sense of uninhibition and satisfaction, and it does not need to be generally destructive to its environment when it is well controlled. It protects the mind not by defending it as such, but by providing it with the fuel and the impulse to achieve some kind of effect on a target, and thereby diverting its attention from its fears.

As a man the ideal mode is to move through your environment unimpeded, achieving your goals and having the effect you want with a minimum of interference. When that interference comes from within in the form of anxiety, confusion, profound helplessness, unwarranted guilt, etc, you have to counteract it by force, not by castigating yourself, or by covering it with an addictive behavior, but by generating outward-projecting energy and impulse. Perhaps there is a better term for it than 'aggression' but that's the only one I know of.
 
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Very thought provoking! Need to think some more time on it.
 

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Update: I have stopped it altogether.

It's not like I will become a straight edge but it's better to not have any habit of it.

The only issue here is the urges and a bit of agression, panic ..It's not a lot but sometimes it feels that way.
 
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Update: I have stopped it altogether.

It's not like I will become a straight edge but it's better to not have any habit of it.

The only issue here is the urges and a bit of agression, panic ..It's not a lot but sometimes it feels that way.

If needed ask for meds that help with that stuff. Also supplement yourself with vit B6 . and if no meds, caffeine is your best friend for a while, while you reduce your reliance slowly. energydrinks, caffeinated drinks, coffee. that shit will have to do. I took extreme amounts when i quit.
 

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If needed ask for meds that help with that stuff. Also supplement yourself with vit B6 . and if no meds, caffeine is your best friend for a while, while you reduce your reliance slowly. energydrinks, caffeinated drinks, coffee. that shit will have to do. I took extreme amounts when i quit.
Thanks, but I was never that addicted so even though I faced some problems but they stopped a few days ago. And no urges anymore too. So, that's great.

Well since,.may I was doing it like thrice a month ... So i was already quitting it gradually from that time.
 

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Thanks, but I was never that addicted so even though I faced some problems but they stopped a few days ago. And no urges anymore too. So, that's great.

Well since,.may I was doing it like thrice a month ... So i was already quitting it gradually from that time.
Oooh thrice a month, amazing . Not that much and much easier to quit yes.
 

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The only issue here is the urges and a bit of agression, panic ..It's not a lot but sometimes it feels that way
It's 20 days now and all the urges and everything have vanished.
 

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75 days in ... And I have re-started getting some urges again.

I am using " Master of tension" principle by @Will_V to navigate it.

Btw.... My life has improved a lot since the day i stopped drinking altogether. I would say that my mental, physical fitness is definitely better now and even my wings ask me if I have taken any inner game coaching cuz I have transformed a lot.
 

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75 days in ... And I have re-started getting some urges again.

I am using " Master of tension" principle by @Will_V to navigate it.

Btw.... My life has improved a lot since the day i stopped drinking altogether. I would say that my mental, physical fitness is definitely better now and even my wings ask me if I have taken any inner game coaching cuz I have transformed a lot.
hell yes brother. keep it up. those urges are illusions. Satisfy them some other way. Break in your routine, do something adventurous, that sort of thing.
 

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hell yes brother. keep it up. those urges are illusions. Satisfy them some other way. Break in your routine, do something adventurous, that sort of thing.
That's what I am focused on.

I am also constantly facing my fears no matter how small or childish. And for some reason I have become more confrontational in life too. ( While using common sense)

And I still remember why I had to leave drinking. I still remember how my chest felt, stomach issues, emotional issues I had when I got into such habit.

Currently.. i am focused on building a solid routine and building my career along with getting back in game.

And btw, thank you @StrayDog too. You were a big help in making me quit smoking outside my family. 🙏🏻
 
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