So I already am pretty familiar with the concept of the 'Cold Approach' but I am just not feeling it enough.
It's like, I do realize that logically girls shouldn't be able resist a good compliment given in a nice, friendly way but that's where the problem begins for me.
You see, The family I was brought up in didn't shower me with love, sure, they weren't abusive and were supportive when I needed them but I felt kinda lack of emotions behind it all. Then there were my friends, I couldn't talk to them about a girl I liked because they would go crazy after that!
That leads us to today, I moved from that town almost a year ago for high schooling and started reading GC after failing to get a girl (SURPRISE!). I worked on my fundamentals and get visibly more attention and approach invitations from the hottest chicks now! (Thanks, GC).
It's all fun and games until, enter- 'AA' OR 'Nervousness'.
I've been trying to overcome this for a while now and although I can talk to girls easily, I can' t approach them specifically with the purpose of talking to them because I find them attractive.
Theories are good but something inside tells me, "If you compliment, you are chasing automatically. And you don't want to lose the attraction!". I also feel that I'll come off as the 'touchy feely' guy with 'Emotions' for the girl.
Now, I don't know if that holds ground or if it's just BS, but it seems to stop me. I feel that I'm giving her all the power I hold prior to the interaction by being a confident and sexy guy who isn't even looking at her.
I know that seduction's a dance, but I don't know how much OR when to bow, so I start being a little douchey.
What happens is that it makes me unable to emotionally connect with girls sometimes.
The posts on not chasing women are literally awesome, but I think with a little less girls(whom I deal with mostly), it needs to be understood a little differently, you have to give them more warmth probably? I have difficulties figuring this stuff out.
This is my weak area so, all the help I can get.
Thanks in advance,
Suave
It's like, I do realize that logically girls shouldn't be able resist a good compliment given in a nice, friendly way but that's where the problem begins for me.
You see, The family I was brought up in didn't shower me with love, sure, they weren't abusive and were supportive when I needed them but I felt kinda lack of emotions behind it all. Then there were my friends, I couldn't talk to them about a girl I liked because they would go crazy after that!
That leads us to today, I moved from that town almost a year ago for high schooling and started reading GC after failing to get a girl (SURPRISE!). I worked on my fundamentals and get visibly more attention and approach invitations from the hottest chicks now! (Thanks, GC).
It's all fun and games until, enter- 'AA' OR 'Nervousness'.
I've been trying to overcome this for a while now and although I can talk to girls easily, I can' t approach them specifically with the purpose of talking to them because I find them attractive.
Theories are good but something inside tells me, "If you compliment, you are chasing automatically. And you don't want to lose the attraction!". I also feel that I'll come off as the 'touchy feely' guy with 'Emotions' for the girl.
Now, I don't know if that holds ground or if it's just BS, but it seems to stop me. I feel that I'm giving her all the power I hold prior to the interaction by being a confident and sexy guy who isn't even looking at her.
I know that seduction's a dance, but I don't know how much OR when to bow, so I start being a little douchey.
What happens is that it makes me unable to emotionally connect with girls sometimes.
The posts on not chasing women are literally awesome, but I think with a little less girls(whom I deal with mostly), it needs to be understood a little differently, you have to give them more warmth probably? I have difficulties figuring this stuff out.
This is my weak area so, all the help I can get.
Thanks in advance,
Suave
