7 December 2016: Saigon, Vietnam.
I matched with 26 year old Oanh on VietnameseCupid. She seemed pretty interested in me based upon the text messages alone. We arranged to meet at my hostel. She was dressed impeccably in a cute black dress and heels. Her nails were extremely well maintained and she sported a pretty necklace and earrings. She had medium length hair, fair skin, big lips, straight white teeth and cute face. In heels she stood around around 5'3. I felt slightly underdressed wearing a henley tshirt, ripped jeans and boots.
The meet:
I walked out to meet her, taking shelter under my umbrella because it was pouring with rain. We introduced and I briefly shook her hand. She'd ridden here on her motorbike, so we had to figure out where to park it. Her English was not very good, so she didn't understand what I was saying a lot of the time. She decided to take us for ride to find a restaurant. We ended riding pretty far away from my hostel. She picked a restaurant, which was a little bit fancy.
We took the lift to the top floor, and we seated. She had a very quiet personality. She didn't say very much, and was definitely the shy, quiet type. The shy girls that I've encountered in the past have been obvious with their shyness, but Oanh's shyness was a little bit more concealed and less obvious.
I had trouble hearing her across the table, so I changed seat so we were sitting at a right angle. This also closed the awkward distance between us. Throughout dinner, the conversation was a little lacking. I found it difficult to connect with her because of the language barrier. I've also noticed that I've been regurgitating a lot of the same old topics and questions over and over again on my dates, so I myself was bored to death over asking the same questions. I deep dived her about her travels, work, favourite pastimes. I threw in a chase frame, complimenting her style and thanking her for dressing up for me. She seemed very shyly replied, "You're welcome."
There was very little physical touch throughout dinner because of the awkward seating angle and clutter on the table. This created a weird tension and also made the conversation feel cold and distanced.
She didn't ask me many questions during dinner and she had trouble understanding me a lot of the time. I threw in many pregnant pauses and slow spreading smiles, which she seemed to enjoy.
We finished up soon enough and we split the bill. She was not ready to be pulled yet, and I would've liked to sit down somewhere private with her to physically escalate, but I had already suggested grabbing drinks, and there was no private place to sit down nearby. I suggested going to a coffee shop. I told her that there were many near my hostel, so we drove toward there, but couldn't find a park, so we ended up parking somewhere far away from my hostel. We'd have to find another park again if I wanted to pull her later.
We parked and walked along to find a coffee shop. I figured that a bar would be more fitting because I needed to break the touch barrier. A bar seemed to be the best choice. We were walking along and I tried to see if I could naturally and seamlessly hold her hand. I didn't think that I could make it hapoen smoothly so I just grabbed onto it. She didn't flinch, but she just kinda dangled her hand there not moving it much.
I picked us a bar and we walked in and grabbed a seat. The table between us was small, so I was able to caress her hands across the table. We ordered our drinks and the vibe was now far more intimate. She had beautiful eyes, and at many instances we gazed into each other's eyes and smiled. Her eye contact was slightly darting from time to time.
She asked me why I liked older women. I told her that I thought they were more mature, sweet and that I connected better with them. This is actually true. At one point she said that I looked like a girl. I've been having a lot of girls tell me this recently. It's got me questioning whether my fundamentals need work. She told me that I looked like a girl in my pictures online. And she also said that my eyes look like a girl's eyes. I suspect that she thinks this because when I put on my warm eye contact, my eyes are very gentle and sweet. Anyway, I'm not too fussed about girls thinking I look like a girl, because I usually sleep with them anyway.
Oanh's eyes frequently scanned left and right between my eyes. I told her that I thought it was cute. She said that she liked looking into my eyes. I asked her why, and she said that there was no reason. She just liked it. I asked her what she thought about me, and she said she thought I was cute and sociable. At some point, I figured it was time to pull. It was getting late, and she lived with her parents, so I needed to move things along.
"Okay. Once we finish ours drinks, let's go back to my hostel, where we can talk and hang out where it's quieter and less people," I said. She stared at me for 2 seconds or so. I asked her if she understood what I said. She said that she understood what I said, but suggested taking a walk. Clearly she didn't feel comfortable going back to my room with me. I agreed on the walk. I suggested going to a park nearby my hostel for our walk. This was for 2 reasons. 1. I could pull straight for the park to my hostel without having to park the motorbike again. 2. We could sit down on the park bench where I could physically escalate.
She ended up paying the bill and she drove us near a park and parked her bike. We walked along the dimly lit park, and sat down after a few minutes, in a very dark area. The bench was in a wide open area and relatively secluded. The bench was drenched at the time but luckily I carried some toilet paper with me to wipe up the water. I don't think she would've sat down on a wet be charged considering that she was wearing a nice dress.
Escalation:
We sat down, and held hands. The vibe now was very intimate because we were sitting very close together. I commented on her shyness and cuteness and I spoke very warmly to her. At one point I kissed her cheek and lingered my lips for a long moment before continuing with the conversation. At another instance, I kissed her cheek again, and I noticed that she angled her face toward me. I kissed her a little closer to her lips, before I eventually shuffled my body to an angle where I could kiss her lips front on. I lip locked her lips twice, and pulled back first. I told her she had soft lips. Her kissing style was very gentle and sensual. It was freaking hot. She was an amazing kisser.
I enquired about her past boyfriends and when was the last time she kissed someone. She said that her last boyfriend was 11 years ago, at the age of 15. She mentioned that she had not kissed a guy in a very long time. At one point I leaned into kiss her again, this time slipping in some tongue and gentle wet lip locks. Her lips were nice and big and absolutely pleasurable to lick and kiss.
We continued our passionate make-out, and I grabbed onto her thighs. I slowly edged my way to her pussy, which was met with no resistance. At one point, I was touching her panties, and I rubbed her pussy through her panties. She moaned quite a bit and and gave me some token resistance a couple of times. She didn't seem to care that I was rubbing her pussy with people nearby and walking past.
At one point I tried to pull her again. I told her it was too hot outside and wanted to go to my room which was much cooler. She declined saying the temperature was nice here. I told her that we should go because there'd be more privacy, but she still refused. I eventually asked her why, and she said she was too shy. I tried to push a little further, but she still wouldn't budge.
I decided to just escalate then and there in the park. Our making out became more and more passionate, as we began to suck and lick each other's tongues and mouths. I pulled my windbreaker over our laps to conceal my hand movements, and I continued to rub her pussy through her panties, and one point I pulled it aside and fingered her a little bit. Her pussy was very wet. I couldn't finger her properly because of the tension and the angle of the panties. I think she was wearing shorts over her panties too.
Eventually I guided her hand to my cock. She seemed surprised and said that she'd never done this before. I reassured that it was okay, and I got her to grab my balls through my jeans as I kissed her. I eventually unbuttoned and unzipped my jeans, and moved her hand to my briefs. We continued to make-out and I moved her hand to touch my naked cock. She said that she didn't know what to do with it, so I taught her how to jack me off. She not so subtly jacked me off, and her actions were not very well concealed under my jacket. It felt awesome to have her touching my dick. I didn't even care that there were people in the distance who could see us. I told her, "Keep going... don't stop." And she kept jacking me off like a good girl. Eventually, she kept it up until I was ready to explode. I came all over her hands, my jacket, and my shirt. The orgasm was out of this world. It kinda felt exciting knowing that we were fooling around in plain sight.
Her reaction after I came was so cute. She asked me why I was wet, and I don't think she understood the concept of semen. I got the toilet paper to clean up the mess, and we made out some more. I asked her if she liked my dick, and she moaned, "Mhmm." She'd never done it before and she said it was to give me a special memory for Saigon. We made out some more and I fingered her a bit and whispered dirty things into her ear as I licked and suck them. I told her how I wanted to massage her and lick her pussy and that I wanted her to come back with me. She refused because it was late and she had to go home. She also said she couldn't have sex until marriage because of Vietnamese culture.
Even after making out and fooling around, Oanh was still very shy. She didn't say very much. Whenever I asked what she liked regarding something about me, she was very shy to tell me. Her passionate kissing indicated to me that she liked me a lot though.
At around 10.45 we walked back to her bike and she sung a Vietnamese song for me. Her voice was very sweet. She dropped me off and I wished her a goodnight as I kissed her cheek.
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Finishing thoughts:
Overall I'm kinda surprised about the outcome of the date. The conversation and vibe during dinner was lacking. I felt that it was difficult to connect with her, but it was easier to once I could establish some physical contact. My fundamentals were a little bit lower than average throughout the date. My seating posture was a little off, and my conversation was lacking. My hair also looked pretty unspectacular because I had recently showered and my hair was fuzzy. My conversation was also a bit uninspiring, and something I want to change. My eye contact was good though, and it drew her in to me. At times, there was strange tension build ups because neither of us had anything to talk about. Humour was a very useful tool to dispel this tension. I think the way I pulled seemed a little clumsily phrased. I also think having to drive the bike and having to find a park was annoying, and in the future I'll tell my date to park the bike beforehand so that we can walk on foot to find somewhere to eat/drink. That way I can cut down time on the date and makes it easier pull. I think my physical escalation in the bar and the park was good. The first kiss seemed to flow pretty naturally and did not seem jarring. I'm a little bit surprised that I managed to get a handjob from such an inexperienced girl in public. Especially so because she was quite traditional and conservative. But I guess anything can happen if you push the right emotional buttons in a girl. I was very passionate and I guess I unleashed her inner desire as well. I managed to lead the interaction forwards, and got her to follow my lead. Anyway, I've been going on quite a lot of dates recently, and I have high expectations for events to pan out ideally throughout the date. A couple of things were not ideal during the datr, but at its core I think I got most things right in this date which is why I was able to fool around with her in public. I sufficiently built enough comfort, I physically escalated, I moved the interaction forwards, I threw on a sexual vibe, and inspired desire within her.
Jeffrey
I matched with 26 year old Oanh on VietnameseCupid. She seemed pretty interested in me based upon the text messages alone. We arranged to meet at my hostel. She was dressed impeccably in a cute black dress and heels. Her nails were extremely well maintained and she sported a pretty necklace and earrings. She had medium length hair, fair skin, big lips, straight white teeth and cute face. In heels she stood around around 5'3. I felt slightly underdressed wearing a henley tshirt, ripped jeans and boots.
The meet:
I walked out to meet her, taking shelter under my umbrella because it was pouring with rain. We introduced and I briefly shook her hand. She'd ridden here on her motorbike, so we had to figure out where to park it. Her English was not very good, so she didn't understand what I was saying a lot of the time. She decided to take us for ride to find a restaurant. We ended riding pretty far away from my hostel. She picked a restaurant, which was a little bit fancy.
We took the lift to the top floor, and we seated. She had a very quiet personality. She didn't say very much, and was definitely the shy, quiet type. The shy girls that I've encountered in the past have been obvious with their shyness, but Oanh's shyness was a little bit more concealed and less obvious.
I had trouble hearing her across the table, so I changed seat so we were sitting at a right angle. This also closed the awkward distance between us. Throughout dinner, the conversation was a little lacking. I found it difficult to connect with her because of the language barrier. I've also noticed that I've been regurgitating a lot of the same old topics and questions over and over again on my dates, so I myself was bored to death over asking the same questions. I deep dived her about her travels, work, favourite pastimes. I threw in a chase frame, complimenting her style and thanking her for dressing up for me. She seemed very shyly replied, "You're welcome."
There was very little physical touch throughout dinner because of the awkward seating angle and clutter on the table. This created a weird tension and also made the conversation feel cold and distanced.
She didn't ask me many questions during dinner and she had trouble understanding me a lot of the time. I threw in many pregnant pauses and slow spreading smiles, which she seemed to enjoy.
We finished up soon enough and we split the bill. She was not ready to be pulled yet, and I would've liked to sit down somewhere private with her to physically escalate, but I had already suggested grabbing drinks, and there was no private place to sit down nearby. I suggested going to a coffee shop. I told her that there were many near my hostel, so we drove toward there, but couldn't find a park, so we ended up parking somewhere far away from my hostel. We'd have to find another park again if I wanted to pull her later.
We parked and walked along to find a coffee shop. I figured that a bar would be more fitting because I needed to break the touch barrier. A bar seemed to be the best choice. We were walking along and I tried to see if I could naturally and seamlessly hold her hand. I didn't think that I could make it hapoen smoothly so I just grabbed onto it. She didn't flinch, but she just kinda dangled her hand there not moving it much.
I picked us a bar and we walked in and grabbed a seat. The table between us was small, so I was able to caress her hands across the table. We ordered our drinks and the vibe was now far more intimate. She had beautiful eyes, and at many instances we gazed into each other's eyes and smiled. Her eye contact was slightly darting from time to time.
She asked me why I liked older women. I told her that I thought they were more mature, sweet and that I connected better with them. This is actually true. At one point she said that I looked like a girl. I've been having a lot of girls tell me this recently. It's got me questioning whether my fundamentals need work. She told me that I looked like a girl in my pictures online. And she also said that my eyes look like a girl's eyes. I suspect that she thinks this because when I put on my warm eye contact, my eyes are very gentle and sweet. Anyway, I'm not too fussed about girls thinking I look like a girl, because I usually sleep with them anyway.
Oanh's eyes frequently scanned left and right between my eyes. I told her that I thought it was cute. She said that she liked looking into my eyes. I asked her why, and she said that there was no reason. She just liked it. I asked her what she thought about me, and she said she thought I was cute and sociable. At some point, I figured it was time to pull. It was getting late, and she lived with her parents, so I needed to move things along.
"Okay. Once we finish ours drinks, let's go back to my hostel, where we can talk and hang out where it's quieter and less people," I said. She stared at me for 2 seconds or so. I asked her if she understood what I said. She said that she understood what I said, but suggested taking a walk. Clearly she didn't feel comfortable going back to my room with me. I agreed on the walk. I suggested going to a park nearby my hostel for our walk. This was for 2 reasons. 1. I could pull straight for the park to my hostel without having to park the motorbike again. 2. We could sit down on the park bench where I could physically escalate.
She ended up paying the bill and she drove us near a park and parked her bike. We walked along the dimly lit park, and sat down after a few minutes, in a very dark area. The bench was in a wide open area and relatively secluded. The bench was drenched at the time but luckily I carried some toilet paper with me to wipe up the water. I don't think she would've sat down on a wet be charged considering that she was wearing a nice dress.
Escalation:
We sat down, and held hands. The vibe now was very intimate because we were sitting very close together. I commented on her shyness and cuteness and I spoke very warmly to her. At one point I kissed her cheek and lingered my lips for a long moment before continuing with the conversation. At another instance, I kissed her cheek again, and I noticed that she angled her face toward me. I kissed her a little closer to her lips, before I eventually shuffled my body to an angle where I could kiss her lips front on. I lip locked her lips twice, and pulled back first. I told her she had soft lips. Her kissing style was very gentle and sensual. It was freaking hot. She was an amazing kisser.
I enquired about her past boyfriends and when was the last time she kissed someone. She said that her last boyfriend was 11 years ago, at the age of 15. She mentioned that she had not kissed a guy in a very long time. At one point I leaned into kiss her again, this time slipping in some tongue and gentle wet lip locks. Her lips were nice and big and absolutely pleasurable to lick and kiss.
We continued our passionate make-out, and I grabbed onto her thighs. I slowly edged my way to her pussy, which was met with no resistance. At one point, I was touching her panties, and I rubbed her pussy through her panties. She moaned quite a bit and and gave me some token resistance a couple of times. She didn't seem to care that I was rubbing her pussy with people nearby and walking past.
At one point I tried to pull her again. I told her it was too hot outside and wanted to go to my room which was much cooler. She declined saying the temperature was nice here. I told her that we should go because there'd be more privacy, but she still refused. I eventually asked her why, and she said she was too shy. I tried to push a little further, but she still wouldn't budge.
I decided to just escalate then and there in the park. Our making out became more and more passionate, as we began to suck and lick each other's tongues and mouths. I pulled my windbreaker over our laps to conceal my hand movements, and I continued to rub her pussy through her panties, and one point I pulled it aside and fingered her a little bit. Her pussy was very wet. I couldn't finger her properly because of the tension and the angle of the panties. I think she was wearing shorts over her panties too.
Eventually I guided her hand to my cock. She seemed surprised and said that she'd never done this before. I reassured that it was okay, and I got her to grab my balls through my jeans as I kissed her. I eventually unbuttoned and unzipped my jeans, and moved her hand to my briefs. We continued to make-out and I moved her hand to touch my naked cock. She said that she didn't know what to do with it, so I taught her how to jack me off. She not so subtly jacked me off, and her actions were not very well concealed under my jacket. It felt awesome to have her touching my dick. I didn't even care that there were people in the distance who could see us. I told her, "Keep going... don't stop." And she kept jacking me off like a good girl. Eventually, she kept it up until I was ready to explode. I came all over her hands, my jacket, and my shirt. The orgasm was out of this world. It kinda felt exciting knowing that we were fooling around in plain sight.
Her reaction after I came was so cute. She asked me why I was wet, and I don't think she understood the concept of semen. I got the toilet paper to clean up the mess, and we made out some more. I asked her if she liked my dick, and she moaned, "Mhmm." She'd never done it before and she said it was to give me a special memory for Saigon. We made out some more and I fingered her a bit and whispered dirty things into her ear as I licked and suck them. I told her how I wanted to massage her and lick her pussy and that I wanted her to come back with me. She refused because it was late and she had to go home. She also said she couldn't have sex until marriage because of Vietnamese culture.
Even after making out and fooling around, Oanh was still very shy. She didn't say very much. Whenever I asked what she liked regarding something about me, she was very shy to tell me. Her passionate kissing indicated to me that she liked me a lot though.
At around 10.45 we walked back to her bike and she sung a Vietnamese song for me. Her voice was very sweet. She dropped me off and I wished her a goodnight as I kissed her cheek.
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Finishing thoughts:
Overall I'm kinda surprised about the outcome of the date. The conversation and vibe during dinner was lacking. I felt that it was difficult to connect with her, but it was easier to once I could establish some physical contact. My fundamentals were a little bit lower than average throughout the date. My seating posture was a little off, and my conversation was lacking. My hair also looked pretty unspectacular because I had recently showered and my hair was fuzzy. My conversation was also a bit uninspiring, and something I want to change. My eye contact was good though, and it drew her in to me. At times, there was strange tension build ups because neither of us had anything to talk about. Humour was a very useful tool to dispel this tension. I think the way I pulled seemed a little clumsily phrased. I also think having to drive the bike and having to find a park was annoying, and in the future I'll tell my date to park the bike beforehand so that we can walk on foot to find somewhere to eat/drink. That way I can cut down time on the date and makes it easier pull. I think my physical escalation in the bar and the park was good. The first kiss seemed to flow pretty naturally and did not seem jarring. I'm a little bit surprised that I managed to get a handjob from such an inexperienced girl in public. Especially so because she was quite traditional and conservative. But I guess anything can happen if you push the right emotional buttons in a girl. I was very passionate and I guess I unleashed her inner desire as well. I managed to lead the interaction forwards, and got her to follow my lead. Anyway, I've been going on quite a lot of dates recently, and I have high expectations for events to pan out ideally throughout the date. A couple of things were not ideal during the datr, but at its core I think I got most things right in this date which is why I was able to fool around with her in public. I sufficiently built enough comfort, I physically escalated, I moved the interaction forwards, I threw on a sexual vibe, and inspired desire within her.
Jeffrey
