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Had my first good experience with night game. I'm definitely not a nighttime person, but I was visiting DC where I didn't know anyone, so went out on a Saturday.
I walked into my first bar which I chose based on the Latin music and the fact that it seemed from the outside to have a decent number of women. Started watching the band and dancing on my own, very minimally, and noticed a girl hovering next to me. I figured she probably wants me to say hi, so I turned towards her, put my mouth near her ear (it was loud), and asked her name. She looked good. Danced with her until the end of the song. I think I impressed her with my skills. Not that I'm an amazing dancer or anything, but I think significantly better than the average guy who'll hit on you at a bar.
At the end of the song I asked her if there's anywhere we can sit at this bar, and she said upstairs. Perfect, away from her friends
. We went up and sat on a couch. The upstairs was almost completely empty. Some talking and figuring out logistics: she was a student, it was her friend's birthday, and this girl was the sober driver. I was completely sober, too, btw, which nicely put us in a similar state of mind. I barely drink - like I said, not a nighttime person. Learned a bit more about her, and based on her behavior I figured she's pretty damn attracted, so I put her hand around my head, put mine around hers, and kissed her.
We continued intermingling talking and making out, with the physicality escalating. At one point she told me it's too bad she's her friends' driver and that I should find a girl who can give me what I want tonight. I said I'm happy with her. I point out her goosebumps and she says, "Well, whose fault is that?" We escalated until her hand was on my crotch and mine was on her inner thigh underneath her dress. Then I told her we're going to go to the bar's bathroom. I had also taken down her number at some point just in case.
Bathroom was taken so we wait, and this is where the mood died a bit. It just took too long for us to get in there, and in the meantime we were standing somewhere downstairs where everyone could see us, maybe even her friends. It was a small bar and not the type of place where anyone else was making out around us. So while I remained physical while we waited, I didn't feel I could be as physical as we were upstairs on that couch. I think I only kept one hand on her, probably mostly on her hip, with some kissing. We also stood there longer than necessary because I kept my energy so focused on her to keep the mood up that multiple times I noticed someone going into the bathroom and realized that, "Damn, the last person came out and I didn't notice." Altogether we probably waited 5 minutes.
Once we got in the bathroom we started to make out again. I told her to take my shirt off. She did, then said she would not sleep with me in that bathroom. She's never done that before and she just met me. I said it's totally fine and we'll go only as far as she wants. I could see she was still uncomfortable, so I stopped and asked if she's alright. I told her, "Listen, it's totally fine if we don't have sex. You could say right now that you wanted to leave this bathroom and it'd be completely ok. I'm glad I met you and not everything is about sex. I don't want or need anything from you." Then I added, "Well, maybe want, but not need." That made her smile and she said it's more believable, and that she feels much better because she doesn't really know me and you can get into some scary situations.
So we continue. In a bathroom I can't go slow like I usually do to tease her and make her comfortable or to spend time overcoming resistance. I pull her dress down below her breasts. Her hand makes it to my crotch again, and I slide my hand up her thigh. I squat down and kiss my way up her thigh as I lift up her dress. Her pussy smells bad and I decide it's not worth tasting to turn her on. Instead I stick my face in there over her panties. I stand back up and slip my hand into her panties and onto her clit. She shudders, then says we should stop and that I should find another girl who can give me what I want. She gave some reasons that made no sense, among them that she should get back to her friends. I say that if her friends needed her, wouldn't they have texted? She says she left her phone with them. I feel that she really does want to stop, so I acquiesce. Still wanting another chance, I say, "How about this: You go back to your friends, and I'll wait around here for another 5 minutes. If you don't come back by then, I'll leave." So far I've known her for maybe 30 minutes.
She didn't come back and I left the bar. I texted her that it was great to meet her, I'm bummed she didn't come back, and hope she enjoys her night (I felt my risk here was attainability so it was best to be as warm as possible). She replies that yeah, her friends wanted to leave so she is now driving them back, but she actually did come back to say goodbye to me. I asked if after she dropped them off would she be way too exhausted to come back out. Over an hour later she responds that it took over an hour to drop them all off and she doesn't want to drive back into the city.
Next day I tried again even though I knew the magic was gone. She said with her schedule she wouldn't be able to make it to the city on a school night, and I was leaving soon.
Analysis?
First off, I don't think I did anything all that exceptional. All I did was notice the fact that she was interested and move things forward quickly. That begs the question, How do I get more girls interested in me like that off the bat? Fundamentals of course, but what specifically? It's not like I can ask her what it was about me she liked, or ask all the other girls what it is that's missing.
I do think going for that bathroom quickly was my best bet. Since she was driving and I was staying at a hostel, logistics would have worked against me the longer I waited. I also do think I could have made more happen if I had escalated better. If I could do it over, I would have moved her hand from my crotch to inside my pants. I think holding my dick in her hand would have affected her. I would also have put more of the escalation burden on her by asking questions like, "That feels great, baby. You're amazing. What else can you do?"
Lastly, I would not have pulled her dress neither down nor up. I think those escalation points make girls think, "Wait, we just went a step further. Am I sure I want to go through with this?" I think I would want to go directly from base 1 to home run, meaning that she would pull out my dick while she was still completely dressed, and in a moment of passion I would in one continuous flow turn her around, bend her over a bit, pull her dress up, her panties to the side, and slide my dick in her.
Thoughts from guys who have successfully pulled girls into bathrooms?
Had my first good experience with night game. I'm definitely not a nighttime person, but I was visiting DC where I didn't know anyone, so went out on a Saturday.
I walked into my first bar which I chose based on the Latin music and the fact that it seemed from the outside to have a decent number of women. Started watching the band and dancing on my own, very minimally, and noticed a girl hovering next to me. I figured she probably wants me to say hi, so I turned towards her, put my mouth near her ear (it was loud), and asked her name. She looked good. Danced with her until the end of the song. I think I impressed her with my skills. Not that I'm an amazing dancer or anything, but I think significantly better than the average guy who'll hit on you at a bar.
At the end of the song I asked her if there's anywhere we can sit at this bar, and she said upstairs. Perfect, away from her friends
. We went up and sat on a couch. The upstairs was almost completely empty. Some talking and figuring out logistics: she was a student, it was her friend's birthday, and this girl was the sober driver. I was completely sober, too, btw, which nicely put us in a similar state of mind. I barely drink - like I said, not a nighttime person. Learned a bit more about her, and based on her behavior I figured she's pretty damn attracted, so I put her hand around my head, put mine around hers, and kissed her.We continued intermingling talking and making out, with the physicality escalating. At one point she told me it's too bad she's her friends' driver and that I should find a girl who can give me what I want tonight. I said I'm happy with her. I point out her goosebumps and she says, "Well, whose fault is that?" We escalated until her hand was on my crotch and mine was on her inner thigh underneath her dress. Then I told her we're going to go to the bar's bathroom. I had also taken down her number at some point just in case.
Bathroom was taken so we wait, and this is where the mood died a bit. It just took too long for us to get in there, and in the meantime we were standing somewhere downstairs where everyone could see us, maybe even her friends. It was a small bar and not the type of place where anyone else was making out around us. So while I remained physical while we waited, I didn't feel I could be as physical as we were upstairs on that couch. I think I only kept one hand on her, probably mostly on her hip, with some kissing. We also stood there longer than necessary because I kept my energy so focused on her to keep the mood up that multiple times I noticed someone going into the bathroom and realized that, "Damn, the last person came out and I didn't notice." Altogether we probably waited 5 minutes.
Once we got in the bathroom we started to make out again. I told her to take my shirt off. She did, then said she would not sleep with me in that bathroom. She's never done that before and she just met me. I said it's totally fine and we'll go only as far as she wants. I could see she was still uncomfortable, so I stopped and asked if she's alright. I told her, "Listen, it's totally fine if we don't have sex. You could say right now that you wanted to leave this bathroom and it'd be completely ok. I'm glad I met you and not everything is about sex. I don't want or need anything from you." Then I added, "Well, maybe want, but not need.
" That made her smile and she said it's more believable, and that she feels much better because she doesn't really know me and you can get into some scary situations.So we continue. In a bathroom I can't go slow like I usually do to tease her and make her comfortable or to spend time overcoming resistance. I pull her dress down below her breasts. Her hand makes it to my crotch again, and I slide my hand up her thigh. I squat down and kiss my way up her thigh as I lift up her dress. Her pussy smells bad and I decide it's not worth tasting to turn her on. Instead I stick my face in there over her panties. I stand back up and slip my hand into her panties and onto her clit. She shudders, then says we should stop and that I should find another girl who can give me what I want. She gave some reasons that made no sense, among them that she should get back to her friends. I say that if her friends needed her, wouldn't they have texted? She says she left her phone with them. I feel that she really does want to stop, so I acquiesce. Still wanting another chance, I say, "How about this: You go back to your friends, and I'll wait around here for another 5 minutes. If you don't come back by then, I'll leave." So far I've known her for maybe 30 minutes.
She didn't come back and I left the bar. I texted her that it was great to meet her, I'm bummed she didn't come back, and hope she enjoys her night (I felt my risk here was attainability so it was best to be as warm as possible). She replies that yeah, her friends wanted to leave so she is now driving them back, but she actually did come back to say goodbye to me. I asked if after she dropped them off would she be way too exhausted to come back out. Over an hour later she responds that it took over an hour to drop them all off and she doesn't want to drive back into the city.
Next day I tried again even though I knew the magic was gone. She said with her schedule she wouldn't be able to make it to the city on a school night, and I was leaving soon.
Analysis?
First off, I don't think I did anything all that exceptional. All I did was notice the fact that she was interested and move things forward quickly. That begs the question, How do I get more girls interested in me like that off the bat? Fundamentals of course, but what specifically? It's not like I can ask her what it was about me she liked, or ask all the other girls what it is that's missing.
I do think going for that bathroom quickly was my best bet. Since she was driving and I was staying at a hostel, logistics would have worked against me the longer I waited. I also do think I could have made more happen if I had escalated better. If I could do it over, I would have moved her hand from my crotch to inside my pants. I think holding my dick in her hand would have affected her. I would also have put more of the escalation burden on her by asking questions like, "That feels great, baby. You're amazing. What else can you do?"
Lastly, I would not have pulled her dress neither down nor up. I think those escalation points make girls think, "Wait, we just went a step further. Am I sure I want to go through with this?" I think I would want to go directly from base 1 to home run, meaning that she would pull out my dick while she was still completely dressed, and in a moment of passion I would in one continuous flow turn her around, bend her over a bit, pull her dress up, her panties to the side, and slide my dick in her.
Thoughts from guys who have successfully pulled girls into bathrooms?
