Pursuit and non-Western girls?

[Conquistador]

I’ve slowly begun to realize that I work a bit too hard to come off as disinterested, not chasing, etc.
It’s bad enough to do this with American girls (even ones with a short-term mindset) who have been exposed to TikTok and other influences that promote this, but I think it might be an absolute non-starter with all the Latin and Asian girls I’ve talked to.
Obviously I’m going to work on this.


Now my question is, how much do non-Western girls (I’m primarily talking about Asian, Latin, and Indian int’l students, in that order) expect me to do to get together with them, and what constitutes needy try-hard behavior?

My hypothesis with Asian girls is basically you have to not just lead but manage almost everything and if she’s going along with it, you’re good; if she resists, you need to deal with her concerns; and if she gives two hard rejections, she means it and you drop it.

But I have no clue about Latin and Indian girls.

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[Chad Tyrone]

No chicks are that different really.

You can show interest in women without chasing them.Basically you want to show less interest than she is showing you.

That doesn't mean playing games ...on the contrary.All that means is show interest but to a lesser percentage.

I would look into:

How Much Interest to Show a Girl (The 3 Considerations)

Each girl needs you to show a somewhat different amount of interest in her at different phases of the courtship. There are 3 keys to this: her interest, her type, and calibration. Contents 1. Her Type and Interest Level How Hot for You is She? Her Type: Aloof or Romantic 2. How to Calibrate Your...

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[Chad Tyrone]

Also being disinterested and being aloof lowers your attainability.

As to what constitutes needy try hard behavior...think of anything that comes off creepy or desperate behavior.Wanting her more than u want her .A fine line between showing desire and a willingness to walk away is what u should aim for.Comes with experience I would say .

My hypothesis with Asian girls is basically you have to not just lead but manage almost everything and if she’s going along with it, you’re good; if she resists, you need to deal with her concerns; and if she gives two hard rejections, she means it and you drop it.

Yeah think of her resisting and you persisting with a cocky smirk on your face...yet show her that if things don't go your way,it's no skin off ur nose.

Hard harsh rejection would get a bail lol...not so much u can do.But passive persistence can turn things around at times

Chad

 

[Police dog]

My hypothesis with Asian girls is basically you have to not just lead but manage almost everything and if she’s going along with it, you’re good; if she resists, you need to deal with her concerns;

Replace Asian with Russian/Ukrainian (and to a large extent black) and your statement will still be 100% correct

 

[Conquistador]

Replace Asian with Russian/Ukrainian (and to a large extent black) and your statement will still be 100% correct

This came up in a search and yeah with the benefit of more experience I think you’re right