So this is day number two of my field report writing. Actually got a lay with one of the hottest girls I've ever been with.
Background Information:
I was going out with my friend Daniel at my hostel. He is this 6'4" german guy who looks like a model, and keep a conversation with a girl. We went out the other night and 2 girls gave us both strong approach invitations, so I opened both of them. We both got on our own girls really quick, and I could tell then that Daniel would be a good wingman. Daniel isn't good at opening, so I usually open for us, and then bring him in. Anyways, back to last night. We started off by drinking back at the hostel, some girls down the hallway were having a small party in their room. In that room, I met this American girl named Tori that I was really into. I showed her my first Australian film I had just finished, and she seemed to be digging me too. Banter was good between us. When I told Tori that Daniel and I were going out, she asked to join us two. I said she couldn't, (because my agenda was to go pick up girls and beat my sticking point), and she got pretty butt hurt. Close to auto-rejection, but I knew if I brought her out, I wouldn't be able to do what I wanted to. However, I do want to sleep with her eventually so if I can bring my attainability back up, I may get a shot with her later. After an hour at this party, Daniel and I leave to go out.
Bar 1: Small hallway type bar, pretty packed, with a small dance floor. There are these two couches in the back that face each other, which I think is an excellent place to sit. We've gotten approached by girls there in the past.
Approach 1: This cute, super extroverted girl dancing up at the bar, obviously the center of attention amongst her 6 friends. Needed to start on an approach, thought this would be a fun one to do. I go up there, start with some joke about how shes got the best dance moves at the bar, introduce myself. Funny banter all around, through in some light sex talk frames about how she seems liberated and free, and how America is just full of prude. I sign over to Daniel at this time, and introduce him to the girls (using the wingman method that is found on girlschase). We all have a good time chattin, we move the girls outside to the smoking section. I sit next to my girl, Daniel is talking to her friend, but shes a total grenade. I delve into her life, her family, her drug addiction in the past, where shes lived and what she does. She seems like the crazy party type of chick. It was all really social though, no where to really isolate her. Get a couple of cheek kisses and her number, then Daniel and I are on our way.
Im feeling really good at this point, so Im approaching random girls on the street telling them that they're the cutest thing I've ever seen. No serious approaches though, just having fun.
Bar 2: Another small hallway type place, but this time it was more of a clubby area with a dance floor. Melbourne seems to have alot of these hallway type bar/clubs.
Approach 2: I open a group of three girls sitting outside in the smoking area. Introduce myself to all three, make a few jokes, then bring Daniel into the conversation. I start singling in on my girl, she seems to really be into the conversation. Normally, Im a very probing guy who loves inspiring and motivating others. So when this girl told me shes a writer as her creative outlet, but is afraid to publish her stories, I went on this long spheal about how she shouldn't be, and how getting feedback might influence her writing even more. I gave her advice about how she could put her writing up on a blog, and related it back to my own filmmaking. She seemed absolutely hooked. However, during this time her friend had called an uber (all three were work friends), and she had to leave with them. She did give me her number however, and writing this just reminded me to text her lol.
Street->
Approach 3: This was the girl of the night, however funny enough, she approached Daniel and I on the street. She was drunk, but still in control. Came up to us and basically said she had lost her friends, and that we seemed like cool people and that she wanted to go somewhere cool. She seemed like she was mad at her friends, and didn't really want to talk about it. So all three of us got into a taxi and went to venue number 3 (this was the game plan for us originally anyways). She paid for the taxi, sweet girl. Daniel was sitting in the back with her, I was sitting in the front guiding the taxi. We arrive and get inside, it's a total club scene in there. Loud music, lots of dancing. Us 3 grab drinks, and start dancing. I was focusing on having fun, and got on the stage. I grabbed her hand and got her on the stage with me and we just danced with a bunch of others around us. 4 or 5 songs later, I come up to her, and say its too hot in here and we should go out for a cigarette. I grab her hand, and guide her through the crowd. We go downstairs to the smoking area and sit across from each other. I remember my sticking point (creating a sexual vibe and sexual tension), and focus on that. Intense eye contact focused on her, I start asking her questions about herself, her dreams, what shes doing down in Melbourne. What her family is like, throwing in some light nlp and sexual frames such as being liberated, free, comfortable. Talking about how america is full of prudes, and how its nice just to be able to express yourself sexually. I take her hand and start caressing it with mine. I tell her how I was inspired that a girl all by herself came up to Daniel and I, and asked to hang out with us, fully trusting us. I throw in some vulnerability, telling her how I actually use to be a loner and get bullied as a kid (which is a true and totally opposite to how I am now). I grab her other hand and start caressing it. We say some more stuff, I lower my voice and talk slower. I start pulling her into me, lips are inching closer. Start doing the triangle gaze, she says "you want to kiss me," and I say yes, and do it. Pull back first. Then I get her to sit next to me instead of across, and we talk a little bit more. She asked me something, and I give her a cheeky answer along the lines of "I'll tell you exactly how I feel about it," then we make out a little bit. She says she wants to go dance a bit more, we go upstairs and dance. 3 songs later, I tell her I want to show her something, (my film that I mentioned earlier, its a great excuse to go back to my place). I take her hand and we start walking back to the hostel, I start taking over most of the conversation by telling stories. (I remember Chase's article about transition points and how to keep her logical mind occupied by conversation). I bring her back to my hostel dorm, show her the film, and then we fuck. I cum really fast lol, cause Im doing this whole no masturbation in australia thing, and I hadn't released myself in a few weeks. But I eat her out, finger her, and kiss her all over. Sex wasn't great, and I couldn't keep it hard probably cause I had came and was drunk. She didn't orgasm, so she probably won't be hitting me back up. We fall asleep on the bed, she leaves at 9 in the morning.
What I learned: Im finally starting to get an understanding of sexual tension, and I actually really enjoy it.
Things to work on next time:
-Build sexual tension even slower, and get to that bubble that was mentioned in the sexual tension articles.
-Try to isolate earlier on.
-Get better at sex, learn to fuck for shorter periods of time while keeping her cumming. Definitely need improvement here, want to become a sex god by the end of 2018.
Background Information:
I was going out with my friend Daniel at my hostel. He is this 6'4" german guy who looks like a model, and keep a conversation with a girl. We went out the other night and 2 girls gave us both strong approach invitations, so I opened both of them. We both got on our own girls really quick, and I could tell then that Daniel would be a good wingman. Daniel isn't good at opening, so I usually open for us, and then bring him in. Anyways, back to last night. We started off by drinking back at the hostel, some girls down the hallway were having a small party in their room. In that room, I met this American girl named Tori that I was really into. I showed her my first Australian film I had just finished, and she seemed to be digging me too. Banter was good between us. When I told Tori that Daniel and I were going out, she asked to join us two. I said she couldn't, (because my agenda was to go pick up girls and beat my sticking point), and she got pretty butt hurt. Close to auto-rejection, but I knew if I brought her out, I wouldn't be able to do what I wanted to. However, I do want to sleep with her eventually so if I can bring my attainability back up, I may get a shot with her later. After an hour at this party, Daniel and I leave to go out.
Bar 1: Small hallway type bar, pretty packed, with a small dance floor. There are these two couches in the back that face each other, which I think is an excellent place to sit. We've gotten approached by girls there in the past.
Approach 1: This cute, super extroverted girl dancing up at the bar, obviously the center of attention amongst her 6 friends. Needed to start on an approach, thought this would be a fun one to do. I go up there, start with some joke about how shes got the best dance moves at the bar, introduce myself. Funny banter all around, through in some light sex talk frames about how she seems liberated and free, and how America is just full of prude. I sign over to Daniel at this time, and introduce him to the girls (using the wingman method that is found on girlschase). We all have a good time chattin, we move the girls outside to the smoking section. I sit next to my girl, Daniel is talking to her friend, but shes a total grenade. I delve into her life, her family, her drug addiction in the past, where shes lived and what she does. She seems like the crazy party type of chick. It was all really social though, no where to really isolate her. Get a couple of cheek kisses and her number, then Daniel and I are on our way.
Im feeling really good at this point, so Im approaching random girls on the street telling them that they're the cutest thing I've ever seen. No serious approaches though, just having fun.
Bar 2: Another small hallway type place, but this time it was more of a clubby area with a dance floor. Melbourne seems to have alot of these hallway type bar/clubs.
Approach 2: I open a group of three girls sitting outside in the smoking area. Introduce myself to all three, make a few jokes, then bring Daniel into the conversation. I start singling in on my girl, she seems to really be into the conversation. Normally, Im a very probing guy who loves inspiring and motivating others. So when this girl told me shes a writer as her creative outlet, but is afraid to publish her stories, I went on this long spheal about how she shouldn't be, and how getting feedback might influence her writing even more. I gave her advice about how she could put her writing up on a blog, and related it back to my own filmmaking. She seemed absolutely hooked. However, during this time her friend had called an uber (all three were work friends), and she had to leave with them. She did give me her number however, and writing this just reminded me to text her lol.
Street->
Approach 3: This was the girl of the night, however funny enough, she approached Daniel and I on the street. She was drunk, but still in control. Came up to us and basically said she had lost her friends, and that we seemed like cool people and that she wanted to go somewhere cool. She seemed like she was mad at her friends, and didn't really want to talk about it. So all three of us got into a taxi and went to venue number 3 (this was the game plan for us originally anyways). She paid for the taxi, sweet girl. Daniel was sitting in the back with her, I was sitting in the front guiding the taxi. We arrive and get inside, it's a total club scene in there. Loud music, lots of dancing. Us 3 grab drinks, and start dancing. I was focusing on having fun, and got on the stage. I grabbed her hand and got her on the stage with me and we just danced with a bunch of others around us. 4 or 5 songs later, I come up to her, and say its too hot in here and we should go out for a cigarette. I grab her hand, and guide her through the crowd. We go downstairs to the smoking area and sit across from each other. I remember my sticking point (creating a sexual vibe and sexual tension), and focus on that. Intense eye contact focused on her, I start asking her questions about herself, her dreams, what shes doing down in Melbourne. What her family is like, throwing in some light nlp and sexual frames such as being liberated, free, comfortable. Talking about how america is full of prudes, and how its nice just to be able to express yourself sexually. I take her hand and start caressing it with mine. I tell her how I was inspired that a girl all by herself came up to Daniel and I, and asked to hang out with us, fully trusting us. I throw in some vulnerability, telling her how I actually use to be a loner and get bullied as a kid (which is a true and totally opposite to how I am now). I grab her other hand and start caressing it. We say some more stuff, I lower my voice and talk slower. I start pulling her into me, lips are inching closer. Start doing the triangle gaze, she says "you want to kiss me," and I say yes, and do it. Pull back first. Then I get her to sit next to me instead of across, and we talk a little bit more. She asked me something, and I give her a cheeky answer along the lines of "I'll tell you exactly how I feel about it," then we make out a little bit. She says she wants to go dance a bit more, we go upstairs and dance. 3 songs later, I tell her I want to show her something, (my film that I mentioned earlier, its a great excuse to go back to my place). I take her hand and we start walking back to the hostel, I start taking over most of the conversation by telling stories. (I remember Chase's article about transition points and how to keep her logical mind occupied by conversation). I bring her back to my hostel dorm, show her the film, and then we fuck. I cum really fast lol, cause Im doing this whole no masturbation in australia thing, and I hadn't released myself in a few weeks. But I eat her out, finger her, and kiss her all over. Sex wasn't great, and I couldn't keep it hard probably cause I had came and was drunk. She didn't orgasm, so she probably won't be hitting me back up. We fall asleep on the bed, she leaves at 9 in the morning.
What I learned: Im finally starting to get an understanding of sexual tension, and I actually really enjoy it.
Things to work on next time:
-Build sexual tension even slower, and get to that bubble that was mentioned in the sexual tension articles.
-Try to isolate earlier on.
-Get better at sex, learn to fuck for shorter periods of time while keeping her cumming. Definitely need improvement here, want to become a sex god by the end of 2018.
