So today I had this very interesting interaction:
THE MEET
Stop her while she was with a friend.
Relatively good first few seconds, I introduce myself, she lives in town, we exchange a few sentences, then tell her I'd like to see her again.
She balks.
I push forward.
She says she has a BF.
I say it's OK and push again ("I give you a call and we'll see if we like each other, and if not... All good").
She vacillates even more.
I let it simmer for a while and then she makes up her mind: no, she can't.
I exchange a few more pleasantries, make the interaction nice again after the "refusal", involve the friend and then bid goodbye.
ANALYSIS : IS IT WORTH IT?
Now the big question.
I'm pretty confident that had I insisted in that moment of indecision, I'd have gotten her contact.
BUT, my question is: contrary to what happens when you keep the interaction going in person, do you think that forcing a number on a girl whom is unsure gives you a little attraction boost right there and then but then quickly dissipates (and maybe even sours)?
Is it it a pyrrhic victory (yes, I had to check the spelling but that word exists
, which in turn can at times turn the girl to even resenting you for "forcing" her?
THE MEET
Stop her while she was with a friend.
Relatively good first few seconds, I introduce myself, she lives in town, we exchange a few sentences, then tell her I'd like to see her again.
She balks.
I push forward.
She says she has a BF.
I say it's OK and push again ("I give you a call and we'll see if we like each other, and if not... All good").
She vacillates even more.
I let it simmer for a while and then she makes up her mind: no, she can't.
I exchange a few more pleasantries, make the interaction nice again after the "refusal", involve the friend and then bid goodbye.
ANALYSIS : IS IT WORTH IT?
Now the big question.
I'm pretty confident that had I insisted in that moment of indecision, I'd have gotten her contact.
BUT, my question is: contrary to what happens when you keep the interaction going in person, do you think that forcing a number on a girl whom is unsure gives you a little attraction boost right there and then but then quickly dissipates (and maybe even sours)?
Is it it a pyrrhic victory (yes, I had to check the spelling but that word exists
, which in turn can at times turn the girl to even resenting you for "forcing" her?
