If it's a shit test, act like you don't care. Examples:
- "We are not having sex"... putting her in her place would be "Well, you've just wasted a fuckload of my time and energy which I have put into potentially bedding you, so if that's your attitude you can just leave"... while it's good to be strong with time wasters and tell them to get lost, this obviously isn't the time to do it, since it will lose you the lay and you know she's not serious, just testing whether you'll react.
- "Buy me and my friend a round"... putting her in her place would be "And what makes you think I would put a woman on a fucking pedestal and pay for your companionship? If that's your attitude then you may as well find another guy cos I think it's detestable"... again, this will probably lose you the interaction when it would have been better just to play it cool and say "ha ha, if you're buying I'll have a scotch and coke".
Whereas, if she is genuinely disrespecting you, then by all means put her in her place. Examples:
- She wants to bring her friend on a date (or even a male friend). Be honest. Say "I invited you out because I find you interesting and I want to spend time with only you." If she persists you could say "I'd certainly like to meet your friend later on. I'm sure he/she is really nice and I would be interested to get to know them. But in the meantime I offered you my time on a one-to-one basis."
- She criticises you in front of her friends. Be honest. Say "You're entitled to your opinion and I prefer you expressed it freely. But this isn't the time or the place. I feel a little offended, and I usually don't hang out with people who disrespect me."
In these examples we gently pointed out to her that she was not respecting us but gave her an opportunity to correct her behaviour. The other thing to consider is the hard or soft NEXT, if you feel she's earned it.
I'd be interested to hear from more experienced seducers whether I seem to be on point with drawing the line between shit tests and disrespect in the manner I've described above, it's a bit hypothetical for me.
Ray
