Quality problems.

[Estate]

Hey guys,
Chase wrote a really cool article lately on places to meet girls. His list was BIG, wow!
I've posted about this before though... quantity is not really the problem right now, it's quality. This 4th of July weekend I was lucky to have 4 straight days and nights off and decided to just get out there and have some fun with this, not having to worry about work or early mornings.

I don't want to make it sound like I'm not trying but the quality of women is just not there. I'm 28, I could count on 1 hand the number of ACTUALLY stunning women I saw this weekend who I literally went "wow" at.
The rest are all just not good look, just ok, or maybe cute to most guys but nothing special.

I met one absolutely stunning blonde on Friday night, totally my type, totally what I want. Unfortunately she wasn't available so of course I thinking "That's ok, plenty more girls here..." yet as the night wore on... I just look around and just see nothing I want to persue. There are plenty girls there sure... but really, the quality is just terrible.

I know practice makes perfect but I just don't know. All this pickup stuff makes it sound like there are beautiful single women EVERYWHERE... but I don't see it.
I read some other PUA blogs regularly and I've seen a lot of "gurus" in recent time getting called out on the girls they get.... while they give the persona of having 5 super model girlfriends at any given time... quite a few have been exposed to be VERY far from that... I don't even know what side of it is even true.

 

[Richard]

I feel your pain man, I really do. I live in a small urban area, no malls or places for social gathering, and the degree of beautiful women is looooowwwwww. I've broadened my game to be able to talk to any girl who stands out like girls at work, With family, with friends (I'm working on the latter two currently), just so opportunities with beautiful women don't pass me by.

 

[Franco]

Hey Estate,

If you feel like you've genuinely tried all the available places to pick up women in your area, and you still feel like you aren't seeing the types of women you are physically attracted to, then, barring your job/career being a barrier, you might want to consider moving to a new location.

I have been living in San Diego, California for the past 7 years, and I can't get over just how many beautiful women live in this city. I have the opposite problem: sometimes there are so many beautiful women to approach, I get hesitant because I'm worried I might start wasting my time with one and then I'll miss my chance with an even more stunning woman because I was busy conversing with another!

If you have the opportunity to, you should do some research on locations that are suitable for your career and also retain plenty of beautiful women for you to choose from. It certainly makes a difference when you go out every night and can't keep your eyes off of all the beautiful women walking around.

- Franco

 

[Estate]

Thanks Franco,

I've considered it. I moved to Boston and the U.S. because of my job originally. I am in IT. I am considering scoping out NY or the San Francisco area as they should also be places with lots of job oppertunities but it may be another while before I can realistically move. Plenty time to research anyway.

Perhaps this is why there is a real lack of PUA guys in this area. I have often heard it said about Boston and it's lack of style. It's quite a change from Ireland. Even girls who are 6/7's tak care of themselves and dress very well to appear much better in Europe I find. Here... girls who are possibly actually prettier, just dress down and with an awful lack of style and it just doesn't appeal to me.
Being a college centric town also I find picking up young girls here like shooting fish in a barrell but finding any great girls in their late 20's who might be relationship material.... very very hard to come by.

I hate starting these threads sounding like I am making excuses but I'm exhausted.

 

[Richard]

Estate, even with the girls who are 6's and 7's, the girls who you see who you think could make improvements to better themselves whether emotionally or physically, talk to them anyway not only for experience but for opportunity. Since you're seeking a relationship, I don't advise you to judge a girl based solely on her looks, and don't let her looks stop you completely. A relationship is more than how she looks, is who she is, and you'll never know who she is unless you talk to her and give her the opportunity to show you who she is. She can change the way she dresses if you'd prefer, but underneath those clothes you don't like may be the personality, may be the inward qualities of a goddess who in reality is perfect for you. A woman who you may have let slip because of her style of clothing. It's best to open a multitude of women and narrow them down to the most suitable one.
Enjoy,
Richard