Question about my walk

[ericj5592]

Hey i wanted to ask you guys about what to do when others laugh/taunt/talk shit whenever they see you walk in a dominant way? I've been having this problem lately, and its annoying at best. I don't know how to ignore these people, it seems like they don't take me seriously. They don't perceive me to be dominant in any way, and i hear a lot of tsks from girls and lots of laughs from guys. I live in a town of about 100,000 people, but everyone knows each other here. Its how the social circle scene is here in this mid-size city. One way or another people find out who you are, and apparently people see me as "that one guy who walks like he's hard". And since I have more effeminate facial features people can't make the connection as to why I walk and carry myself the way i do. And I'm tired of it, I know people are bored and have nothing else going on for themselves, so they want to voice their opinions about me. Not everyone says stuff about me, but from time to time i hear this stuff. This isn't an issue with girls though, as I approached girls who flipped their hair at me, I think its due to my good BL and walk. But everyone else isn't ok with it. I don't know to overcome this. http://rsdwiki.com/index.php/My_Best_At ... e_Think%22

Thats the only useful info I've seen, but its not enough for me. Can i get some of your opinions on this? Thanks

 

[ray_zorse]

You have a few options (1) ignore it, they're just jealous (2) level up your game and appearance to match your walk -- if u say u look effeminate what can u do about this? tougher hairstyle and/or facial hair, did u try a soul patch & chinstrap? how about stepping up the gym and getting really built? make your voice deeper? (3) try the male model walk instead of the gunslinger, might be more congruent?
cheers, Ray
PS. When I was 21 I looked like a 12 year old girl. Feel ur pain bro hahaha.

 

[Chase]

Eric-

Yeah, I know, that's never any fun and you want to cut it off as soon as possible.

We've got a fair few articles on the site that cover these scenarios rather in-depth. Have a look...

• Archive: Ultimate Social Calibration: Stop Climbing the Social Ladder
• The Law of Least Effort
• Dealing with Disruptive Men
• Responding to Interruptions
• Breaking Circle
• The 5 Ways to Answer a Challenge in Social Situations
• Learning from Reactions: Developing Social Calibration
• Social Status: Building It and Using It
• Guy Talk: Here's How to Kick Butt at Talking to Other Men
• Student of the Game: Becoming a Social Success
• How to Make Friends? The Master Key to New Friendships
• Make Judgmental People Stop Judging You Right Now
• Why It's Good to Be Hard to Please
• Social Value and Value Imbalances
• How to Be Social at a Party: 6 Secrets of Sociable Men
• Artificial Hierarchies vs. Personal Appeal
• How to Be Social and Lead a Social Group
• How to Be Respected by Men and Women Alike
• How to Be Cool: The Ultimate 4-Part Coolness Formula
• Dealing with People Who Want You to “Prove Yourself”

Chase

 

[ericj5592]

Thanks Chase, Im going to focus on being social only, and when i get enough calibration maybe i can pull off being dominant. For now this has hampered my self esteem and confidence. How do i cut off walking dominant if this is how I've been walking for the past 2 years? It's an ingrained habit, and even when i try to cut a bit back i still walk dominant. Would I work with the 100 hour rule here?

Off topic question Chase. I know you once said in an article that in China you became the man of the town. Is it possible to be known in your own home town and other big neighboring cities like Chicago? I ask this because this happened to me in Chicago too.. people knew who I was, but I don't live there. There was specific stuff said in my direction that people said to me in the city I live in. I just never knew that the world could be that small, my best guess in explaining this is people from the city I live in had family or friends in Chicago, and gossip spread. In your experience, how small is the world? If you stand out from the average person is it reasonable to be known in big cities without ever being there? Like nearby cities? Have you experienced something like this yourself?