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Lately I've been having random instances where I can't get an erection/lose it quickly with my gf. When I feel like I'm losing my erection even a tiny bit, my mind goes to the couple of times in the past when this happened and I have a self-fulfilling prophecy of it happening again. I also don't want my gf to think that I'm not attracted to her, because I can get rock hard on Wednesday and we can have awesome sex that night, while I may have this issue on Friday.
I don't understand exactly why this is happening to me even when I'm calm and when my gf is supportive. And I'm trying to learn more about its causes and solutions.
I'm beginning to think that there are two things other than possible performance anxiety that may have something to do with my issue.
The first one is that I think I have a longer refractory period than the average person who's in their 20s, exercises, is fit, healthy, rarely if ever watches porn. I can get erections about an hour after coming but I don't feel the 'drive' to go again, which brings me to my second point.
To those who've written that they have sex 3 to 5 times a day with their gfs, do you cum each time? (and also, is it abnormal that I want to have sex 1 or 2 times a day if I ejaculate every time? )Because I use to jerk off 2 to 3 times a day before I had an active sex life and ejaculation felt different than now when I have sex, I could just keep chugging at it and the "itch" would not be fully satisfied. When I cum with my gf, it feels much more powerful and it feels like I 'drain' my libido and I feel quite content.
One other thing that came to my mind is that stable long term relationships cause testosterone to take a hit if I remember correctly, so perhaps I should concentrate on this aspect.
Can anyone shed some light on this? Thanks.
I don't understand exactly why this is happening to me even when I'm calm and when my gf is supportive. And I'm trying to learn more about its causes and solutions.
I'm beginning to think that there are two things other than possible performance anxiety that may have something to do with my issue.
The first one is that I think I have a longer refractory period than the average person who's in their 20s, exercises, is fit, healthy, rarely if ever watches porn. I can get erections about an hour after coming but I don't feel the 'drive' to go again, which brings me to my second point.
To those who've written that they have sex 3 to 5 times a day with their gfs, do you cum each time? (and also, is it abnormal that I want to have sex 1 or 2 times a day if I ejaculate every time? )Because I use to jerk off 2 to 3 times a day before I had an active sex life and ejaculation felt different than now when I have sex, I could just keep chugging at it and the "itch" would not be fully satisfied. When I cum with my gf, it feels much more powerful and it feels like I 'drain' my libido and I feel quite content.
One other thing that came to my mind is that stable long term relationships cause testosterone to take a hit if I remember correctly, so perhaps I should concentrate on this aspect.
Can anyone shed some light on this? Thanks.