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Question : Acting with Intent

Geebs

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Hello,

I have a questions related to the following article : https://www.girlschase.com/content/acting-intent

By comparison, men who act with intent use no “feeling out period”; rather, they proceed into an interaction on the assumption that a woman will respond well to them, and that if she doesn’t… who cares? They’ll meet a lot more women after that one. Men acting with intent may use a genuine interest opener, or they may not; but regardless, from the moment they first approach a woman, they make it clear through their words, actions, and nonverbal communication that they are interested in her romantically and sexually.

Precisely related to the quote above.

I'm wondering how to do the bolded part of the quote while continuing to be a challenge and also maintenance a certain amount of mystery. The reason I'm asking this is because from previous articles I read it said that it was very bad to tell a girl you are interested directly. So, how do you so it in the way described above?

Thanks!
 

Knight

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Ever felt you were losing someone's interest who you value? That's you picking up on the other person's non-verbal signs. If the interaction is drifting off replicate those non-verbal cues. Focus your thoughts elsewhere, slightly turn away and grow duller - almost confused. Alternatively if you're going somewhere you like lift her spirits through the same medium: move closer, touch and pay attention to her. Mirror her actions as well if you're in an unfamiliar setting.
 

Estate

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So in my view there are two clear paths:

Guy A likes a girl... he texts her all day "Good morning beautiful", "How was your day cutie ;)", he'll write her long detailed texts, emails or notes professing his feelings.
When he's with her, he acts like she is the only girl in the world, he could never find anyone like her and he tells her this at length.
Worse yet, if they have ONLY JUST MET, what a turn off!
He has just met this girl and already is making her the center of his world, he doesn't come across mysterious, he lays all the cards on the table.
He is infatuated by her despite not ACTUALLY knowing her well.
He tries to be overly sweet and nice and do the "right" thing but never excites her.

Guy B likes a girl... He doesn't gush about his feelings. He doesn't text incessantly... he may text to meet her or banter a little with her but he's too busy to do it all day. As far as she's concerned... he's got a lot going on? But what is it? Is he super successful and on business ventures? Could he be out with another girl? Who knows... but she WANTS to know now.
When they go on a date... he doesn't gush about his feelings and how she's the most special girl in the world.
He excites her, he's unpredictable, she wonders if he likes her as much as she likes him... he pays her compliments and makes her feel beautiful but she secretly thinks "I love that he compliments me, he must like me, but a guy like this could have any girl he wants... will he want ME?"
He doesn't nervously hesitate to touch her, or give her the hover arm.... when he walks with her, he can put his arm confidently around her, letting her know he is capable of protecting her... when it comes time to kiss, he doesn't stand looking at the floor for 5 minutes awkwardly saying good bye... he just kisses her, and does so passionately... and he does it without hesitation... of course we are going to kiss, he thinks to himself... there is no question about it.

She walks inside feeling butterflies about Guy B and wonders when she can see him again... just as she does her phone buzzes: Text from Guy A - "How, how was your day"... Does she reply?
 

Marty

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Estate:

This is quite possibly the best tableau I've read on the entire discussion section of the site.

I will read again, absorb, reflect upon my mistakes, and learn :)

Thank you
-Marty
 
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