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Question Re. Flakey Girl - Whether to Text Her or Wait for Her to Initiate

Sandman

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Hey Guys,

Background

I matched with a girl on Tinder 4-5 months ago. But then saw that she was already out of the country. I texted "fuck we missed each other!" We had a good banter afterwards and she told me she couldn't believe tinder didn't match us before. She is a beautiful Brazilian girl who is a musician and has tattoos. She told me she would come to Istanbul a second time this year. We traded numbers and we exchanged short texts maybe a couple of times during these months.

Last time I sent her a text but it was only delivered with one tick on whatsapp meaning she didn't receive my message. I deleted her number thinking she changed it.

Question

Yesterday she sent me a text out of the blue telling me she was in Istanbul and would be here for a week. We scheduled to meet up. Wish I could provide you with the convo but I deleted it to not put a lot of mental energy on the situation. The gist is she was friendly and eager to meet up. Then I sent her a will meet you at the x location, see you soon text. She replied about 15 minutes later with "sorry, can we meet up tomorrow (emberassed smile)". I said haha sure thing no worries. That's it. There was no more convo?

My question is should I wait for her to send me a text now and if she doesn't write her off for a bad lead or should I send her a text to invite her to meet up again? And if I should go with the second option when should I send this text?

Any input is greatly appreciated :)
 

BrandonCodi

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Text her and ask. Do it the night before. If she is a lost cause then texting her one more time will not hurt, nor will waiting for her to text back because she won't.

If she's visiting she's probably doing a lot of things. People don't do a lot of active shit when they're at home, but when they visit a new place or return to a place then their agenda becomes a lot busier.

Just send her a non-needy text saying: "Hey you're still down for tomorrow?" and she should reply to that and won't be turned off by your clinginess. If she doesn't like you, that text won't make her like you less so it will not hurt you in anyway.

Cheers, brother
 
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Sandman

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I post a lay about it in field reports. She was... not what I expected :)
 
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