Questions about "how to get a girl back" article

[TylerDurden]

Hi I was reading this article https://www.girlschase.com/content/ultim ... -girl-back

I have been intimate with this girl I'm trying to get back, but I have been to much of a nice guy, chased her too much and she got bored.
Now she wants me more as a friend than as a lover. And she wanted some time as friends to think if she justs want to be with me out of habit.

I think I need to get her attracted enough that any doubts she might have about wanting me as a friend or as a lover disappear.

According to that article I should give her some cool off time, does that mean a week? a month? if there are music concerts or anything in the middle, is it enough if give her the lowest attention i can give her without being a jerk?
And about setting up a meet, I can easily organize a date with her, but she will treat as a friend mostly.
If I make a move like getting closer physically, looking her passionately, or whatever, she seems receptive at first, but a second later she resists and tells me we are just friends.

How should I treat her? If I treat her as a lover she resists, but if I treat her as a friend we will certainly become friends only.
The only solutions seems to treat her a bit coldly until she starts chasing, then date her on my terms and take her to bed again. any other idea? or any advice on how to go about it?

About resolving the resistance, this https://www.girlschase.com/content/get-her-say-“yes”-excite-women-and-beat-resistance speaks more about other kinds of resistance, but the "i want to be friends and so we shouldn't kiss" resistance is other kind isn't it?

 

[Light]

The cool off time can be anywhere between 6 months - 6 years.

Do not be mistaken. This so called "Cool Off" period is a long term period. How long is long...?
Well.. how long is a piece of string?

Long enough for:
- YOU to get over her emotionally
- HER to actually start missing you... if she will.. most likely not.

In a sense, this cool off period is really just another way of saying
"Forget her, move on. Don't contact her anymore. If you do bump into each other again unintentionally few years down the line.. then who knows, you may be able to create the spark again."

Do not hold onto this as a hope. Treat it as if its game over already. But should fate decide to bring you two together again, then treat it as a bonus.

 

[TylerDurden]

Thanks for the advice,
but are you sure it's such a long term time to reset the chasing and make her start missing me?
And when I see her, how should I treat her?

 

[Light]

Thanks for the advice,
but are you sure it's such a long term time to reset the chasing and make her start missing me?
And when I see her, how should I treat her?

There is no definite answer, as every girl is different. It all depends....
Depends on how close you two were to begin with, how much treasured memories you both had together, how intimate you got with her etc etc...

For example, when couples break up, it is more likely that the girl will miss her ex within a week if they shared so much together.
If two best friends broke up, she'll miss him within a month.
If you're just a nobody.... she won't even miss you.

You can't make her miss you. You can only reset yourself and move on and start dating with other girls. Once she misses you, she will be the first to contact you.

When you see her again, the best thing to do is just smile at her, and give her a wink. Then give your attention back to whatever you was doing or whoever you was talking to before. If she talks to you just reply simply with "You alright?" with a smile. Keep conversation to the minimum.
Be cool. Be busy. Be a person who doesn't waste time. Thats the mentality you need. She will be able to sense that, which makes you appear more attractive.

 

[Anonymous]

I can personally say the last rule, "You've got to sleep with her" is straight on. I had been dating a girl for two years and we broke up last summer. I felt regret about it when I realized the grass wasn't as green on the other side as I thought. The problem was, she had moved on and had a new boyfriend.The past two weeks, unbeknownst to me, I was following this article to a T. She broke up with her boyfriend and we had a day where we were back to normal. The problem, she didn't want to stay the night because she wanted to "process things." You can guess what happened, a few days later she got cold again and back with her boyfriend. Great article, but you must execute the last step, if not, it's all for nothing!

 

[TylerDurden]

Thanks for the answers guys,
In case anyone has the same problems as me, a really helpful article is this:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/being ... rning-them
It gives some solid advice on how to be a challenge and a bad boy.